Bump? Anyone around on a fun Saturday afternoon?

All I can suggest is for you guys to calmly talk about what's bothering you, and find a way to compromise.

I've always been on the losing side despite how reasonable conversations I've started. not doing that anymore.

Our opinion is this: good relations are give and take. Doesn't and shouldn't matter who does the give/taking. If you love one another then conflicts should not get in the way nor matter. Things one do that irritate you can/should be overlooked in a good relationship. Maturity is key to a relationship also. One will do things for others in a good relationship. If there is something one would like, a simple request to communicate will be helpful.

Having a good romp in the sack also helps. Sometimes one is more vulnerable after good sex, take advantage of that time to communicate !

I think with every situation like that (because every relationship has many) you have to decide how important it is to you and if it's something is critical to your happiness.

You also need to look at if one person is always the one having to do the compromising. For example if they won't turn the laundry right side out, but they overlook a habit of yours that they find annoying that might be something that maybe you might want to think about just letting go, but if you have to compromise in every issue while they always just do whatever they want, you might want to have a more serious discussion about what your needs are.

It is better to talk about an issue than to let it breed resentment, your happiness is important but so is theirs. There has to be a solution that both of you can work with.

I agree with the variety of answers here. Compromise and communication are most important.

If your partner needs space, and you need to talk things out - a great way to go is to give one another space at first for a set amount of time (like a half hour or and hour) - which is enough time to calm down and think about things. Then, you can return to the conversation later when your partner is ready, and have the closeness you need to feel better.

Everything can be handled with give and take. But if your partner's not willing to give to you to help your needs, time to kick them to the curb! It must be mutual.

I agree with the others, you have to learn to compromise. Setting a cooling off period is a great solution as long as you stick to it. Then there are times where you just have to swallow something and move on -- it's almost unavoidable. Whether it's the way they do laundry, or snore at night, or the way they do the dishes or prepare for a trip, there are going to be little petty conflicts like that. And giving each other a good-natured ribbing over it is encouraged so long as it's truly meant as a joke and stays light instead of being mean-spirited. Kind of let's you both pipe up about being annoyed by something the other has done.

I'm sure there are things you do that drive him crazy but he probably doesn't say anything. In my experience, men rarely complain when it comes to those things.

It's hard getting to know someone and it takes years. The younger you are, the more likely you are to see drastic changes in goals or their character or belief systems. Those things can be hard on a relationship, much harder than not putting the laundry in the hamper the way the other likes (or at all in some cases) and it's how you handle those issues that truly speaks of the strength of the relationship. The rest of the stuff is petty in the long run.