Do you and your significant other sleep apart from each other?

The New Intimacy

Do you and your significant other sleep apart from each other?

Skip to last post
Set alerts
Updates
Forum search
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
This is assuming that you live with your SO or at least visit them so frequently that you stay at their house or vice versa.

I'm sure my boyfriend and I aren't the only ones that, for one reason or another, don't sleep together. We USED to sleep together and enjoyed it but we also USED to have a real bed. When we got kicked out, we had to live with with his grandmother which is where we are now. We have no choice of a bed that we can both sleep on other than the couch bed. After so many nights of metal bars in our backs, we got fed up with it. I already have back problems and it wasn't helping. So then we switched to one sleeping on the couch and the other sleeping on the floor (taking turns) so that we could at least be in the same room. Now I sleep on the twin bed in the next room and he gets the couch. That is, except for the weekends when a kid comes over to spend time with my boyfriend's grandmother. Then we go back to the previous method. It's lonely when I'm sleeping without him and I definitely don't like it but we both prefer it to the awful sleep we were getting on that horrible excuse for a "bed".

So do you and your significant other sleep in different beds (etc.) for whatever reason?
02/22/2012
  • Save Extra 50% On Sexobot Attachment
  • Upgrade Your Hands-Free Play!
  • Save 70% On Selected Items. Limited Quantity
  • Complete strap-on set for extra 15% off
  • Save 50% On Shower Nozzle With Enema Set
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We sleep together unless one of us has a problem that would make it uncomfortable for the other. Like when Alan first got out of the hospital and was really sore, I slept in the other room so I didn't press against him in my sleep and hurt him.

~M
02/22/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
We sleep together, but she'll get up and sleep on the couch if I'm snoring too loud.
02/22/2012
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
We always sleep together unless he is working a midnight shift. (which is 2 nights a week)
02/23/2012
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
We sleep in separate rooms. I'm a speshul snowflake sleeper and he snores. My sister in law has couples stay over at her house all the time and she said she was surprised at how often they requested separate rooms.
02/23/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
nope, have sleep next to each other from day one.
02/25/2012
Contributor: connies7388 connies7388
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
This is assuming that you live with your SO or at least visit them so frequently that you stay at their house or vice versa.

I'm sure my boyfriend and I aren't the only ones that, for one reason or another, don't sleep together. We ... more
If you have a sleeper/sofa (which it sounds like you do) why don't you put the matress from it on the floor and sleep there? It would probably feel good for your back also. About 10 years ago a couple (they were around 65 years old and had been married for over 40 years and had 4 kids) lived in the same apartment building that we did. I go to know them pretty well and I was floored when the wife told me that they each had separate bedrooms and it had been that way since they wre first married. I vowed that would never be my relationship with my partner/spouse.

I agree with Michelle (Alan and Michelle) that if someone is sick (or whatever) sleeping separately is probably a necessary evil and a very loving thing to do. But on a regular basis? Never. I still don't know how this couple had sex--did they do it and then go to their separate rooms? Did they make appointments? Although I really like both partners, the wife was a bit flakey!!

Go figure.
02/26/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Quote:
Originally posted by connies7388
If you have a sleeper/sofa (which it sounds like you do) why don't you put the matress from it on the floor and sleep there? It would probably feel good for your back also. About 10 years ago a couple (they were around 65 years old and had been ... more
We have a very small room. I mean VERY small room. When the bed is out, it takes up the whole room. We couldn't just leave the mattress on the floor and I'm not sure we'd have anywhere to put it up during the day. But thank you for the idea.
02/26/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
When we're in the same house we sleep together
02/28/2012
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
We sleep together!
03/12/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
Well, we live together with another roommate and have our own rooms. I probably sleep in my room 50% of the time.
05/14/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
When we visit, we sleep together unless we're at a relative's house
05/15/2012
Contributor: WD40watcher WD40watcher
We sleep together every night. We use to have trouble sleeping together because we had a small bed and whenever one of us tossed and turned it would wake the other one up, but now we got a queen size bed and sleep a lot better.
05/15/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I have two SOs. When we first moved in together, we shared a twin bed.

That's right, THREE OF US in a twin bed. XD

After about a year? my parents gifted us their old Queen. Three of us in a queen for seven years!

Now we share a king. Woohoo, the luxury! The space! It's amazing!
05/15/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
We sleep together even when we go on the truck we sleep in a twin bed together but at home we are on a queen
05/15/2012
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
My bf and I always sleep in the same bed if it's in the same house regardless of how uncomfortable the bed is, it's just how we are, we fall asleep on the same couch when we nap too
02/11/2013