Occasionally. We make a deal to have the same schedule for at least 3-4 days per week--the other ones are ours to do whatever...

Our schedules are pretty wonky now since my lady started going to school.

She now has school from 7:30-2 M-Th every single week. And my work schedule changes from week to week, so there are some days when I see her leave for school and mumble and goodbye and I love you from the pillow and I don't see her again until I'm home from work at almost 1am and she's already in bed sleeping.

It's still an adjustment that I'm working on getting used to. It also made me realize we haven't had a date in a long while! We need a date night!

And then on the weekends when she works, I'm usually at home. We work at the same place, but work in opposite departments.

Usually we don't have that issue but just incase it comes up we have a 2 story house with a living room upstairs by our bedroom and one town stairs down stairs is for him playing his games with friends so I can be left in peace

We're a couple hours out of sync - not too drastic. She gets up @ around 5 to 5:30 so needs to be in bed by 9 or 10. I prefer to go to bed around 10:30 to 11:30 and sleep til about 6:30.

The result is that he sleep is disturbed a little as a slip into bed - and mine by her getting ready in the morning. We've adapted and neither of us have asked the other to change.

Our schedules are totally different. He works nights, so he usually wakes up somewhere between 1400 and 1700 and then goes to sleep at about 800 when he gets home. I have a "normal" schedule - up at 700, asleep by 2200. I'm a rebel, I know.

He's very very respectful of my space and time. On his days off, even when he's up before me, he makes sure all the doors between he and I are closed and he usually doesn't have people over who are making a ton of noise. I try not to be too loud when he's sleeping too. I suspect it's much easier for me to be "quiet" than him though. He could sleep through a bomb going off while the slightest squeek from one of our kitties wakes me up.

Our bedroom is upstairs and the living room downstairs but even with doors closed the sound travels way to easy in this house. Well I at least don't feel alone anymore. It seems that some of you are dealing with similar situations. I love your idea Js250 of the 3-4 nights a week. Maybe we can agree to something. I guess that whole communication thing would help a lot. We both are so grumbly with the situation we seem to avoid the topic all together when we do spend time together until it happens again and then we are barking at each other. I guess my frustration comes mostly because I take extra precaution to be quiet even taking phone calls outside if he is sleeping and not getting any of that in return.

I used to be able to sleep through anything....I want that back

No and it really SUCKS!! we make the best of it since we don't really have a choice. We are together every chance we get.