Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does anyone else have this problem? Or have advice on how to fix it?
Do you have an SO who plays video games a lot? Do you mind it?
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Do you have an SO who plays video games a lot? Do you mind it?
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My SO plays video games almost daily. It really depends on what heavy playing is. I mean, lately he doesn't even play for a whole hour every day.
Originally posted by
IvyFayette
Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does
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Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does anyone else have this problem? Or have advice on how to fix it?
His video game playing does not bother me at all. He'll sometimes play longer and some days not long, and some days not at all. There have been times where he'd play for an hour or a little more everyday, but usually only if the weather's bad and he's not working that day and we don't have big plans. OR if I'm busy doing something.
If he played for like 5-6+ hours a day, I'd probably be a little concerned or something. That's a long time to spend in front of a TV screen.
06/10/2013
My husband plays videos games, has since we've been together. Once we had kids, got married, and got our own place it kind of aggravated me, that was all he did when he wasn't working. Then we had started fighting due to his use of video games and how he never helped do anything and for a while he cut back, well that lasted for a short period of time before he was back on it in all of his free-time. I just got used to it, I realized that he had been this way since before we got together and if I had a problem with it I shouldn't have married him.
06/10/2013
my partner and i are not big gamers, and if anything i am more of a "gamer" than they are. However, when given the chance we can and will indulge in a game for several hours, however your systems don't date past the PS2.
Now i do know gaming could easily become a problem of mine if i owned a ps3 or 360, but luckily i dont get to play on those often.
Now i do know gaming could easily become a problem of mine if i owned a ps3 or 360, but luckily i dont get to play on those often.
06/11/2013
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I have one partner who is a bona fide gamer guy and sometimes it does become intrusive but since I am also borderline obsessive about my interests we tend to trade off. LOL
Originally posted by
IvyFayette
Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does
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Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does anyone else have this problem? Or have advice on how to fix it?
06/11/2013
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Sequential 12 hours blocks is ridiculous. Eventually it's not because it's a video game, it's because that's way over doing it for any activity in your life. My guy plays games and I play games too but we both know when to put them down. I suppose since it's summer, that might be a reason -- sometimes you like to binge because you couldn't before (school, etc). But that can't be healthy habit all year long.
Originally posted by
IvyFayette
Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does
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Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does anyone else have this problem? Or have advice on how to fix it?
06/11/2013
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Not an issue in our relationship...
Originally posted by
IvyFayette
Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does
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Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does anyone else have this problem? Or have advice on how to fix it?
06/13/2013
Occasionally it bothers me. He used to play a lot more than he does now, and it bothered me more then. There are some mornings though that I get up and he's been "nice" enough to get up with our little one, and that means I come down the stairs and see him playing video games while she entertains herself. That bothers me the most - they don't get a lot of alone time together since he works all week and it's family time on the weekends. I think he's starting to realize though that he should be spending that time focusing on her. The only other time it really bothers me is when I need help (usually with the little) and he's too busy (he online games a lot) doing whatever with whatever game and it takes half an hour before he can come help me or whatever because he can't pause his online games. But, it's much less than before so I can't complain too much. And, he's at home with us still - he could be out drinking or something. There are worse things than video games. I am a gamer myself (or, used to be - my new found role of mom hasn't really allowed a lot of game time) so I understand, and we used to play a lot together, sometimes excessively (but atleast we were doing something we enjoy together?)
But I do agree 12 hours is excessive, and if it's interfering with the relationship and time together, then it needs to be curbed. It's gone from enjoyable to activity to addiction if he wakes and plays until he goes back to sleep.
But I do agree 12 hours is excessive, and if it's interfering with the relationship and time together, then it needs to be curbed. It's gone from enjoyable to activity to addiction if he wakes and plays until he goes back to sleep.
06/13/2013
Gaming is our thing. It's just what we do. It's how it's always been. We've played tons of MMOs (currently seeking out a new one after ... issues with Rift) and used to raid 3x a week for 3 hours at a time - and that's just the SCHEDULED times we played; we would be logged in for many hours longer :p The only thing that would concern me is if he started playing sports games, because that's very ... very very unlike him. Otherwise, no. It's a big hobby we share.
06/24/2013
I'm not sure how much is "often" or "heavy" and how much is "occasionally" or "moderate." My SO plays video games. Sometimes it's hours and hours of Gears of War or something like that with his friends. Sometimes after a hard day, he'll plug in his headphones and sit on his new desktop (that he built...for gaming...) and just "fuck shit up" for a couple hours. Some days I don't even know if he games at all. Some days he just watched stupid youtube videos.
The truth is, I think there are more productive things to do than play video games, but it's also not mine to decide. He usually spends ample time with me. He keeps up in his courses. He works a full time job over the summer. If I feel like I'm not getting enough time with him because he's gaming a lot, I'll make the time with him. I can't play for shit most games he likes, but I'll lay in his lap and watch him play. This upcoming school year, I've got a new apartment so I'll be able to make him and his friends food while they game over at my place. It isn't what I'm personally into, but it's just another hobby or interest. It's a part of who he is, and if he likes it, and if it isn't overtaking his life, I'll support him, just as he supports me with my "silly" hobbies.
Sometimes it annoys me when he has been choosing to spend any free time gaming and I haven't seen him much in a while. Sometimes when he's had a shit day and so have I, he'll go to games and I'll want to go to him but can't. Then, yes, it bothers me a bit- but it's not something IMO to argue about. When he pauses his games to take a break for food or the bathroom I'll just tell him I need some time and he'll take a few minutes to dance with me or talk with me.
12 hours is excessive- not because he's video gaming, but because it's just excessive. Nobody should do anything for that long unless it's a rare thing- like once every few months having a weekend devoted to gaming. If it's verging on the edge of addiction- that's a problem. If gaming takes precedence over work, that's a problem. If gaming WANTS come before your NEEDS, that's also a problem. But the problem might be you if you're pissed because it's *gaming.* It's not your job to monitor your SO's activities and hobbies unless it is something actually harmful to them or to you.
The truth is, I think there are more productive things to do than play video games, but it's also not mine to decide. He usually spends ample time with me. He keeps up in his courses. He works a full time job over the summer. If I feel like I'm not getting enough time with him because he's gaming a lot, I'll make the time with him. I can't play for shit most games he likes, but I'll lay in his lap and watch him play. This upcoming school year, I've got a new apartment so I'll be able to make him and his friends food while they game over at my place. It isn't what I'm personally into, but it's just another hobby or interest. It's a part of who he is, and if he likes it, and if it isn't overtaking his life, I'll support him, just as he supports me with my "silly" hobbies.
Sometimes it annoys me when he has been choosing to spend any free time gaming and I haven't seen him much in a while. Sometimes when he's had a shit day and so have I, he'll go to games and I'll want to go to him but can't. Then, yes, it bothers me a bit- but it's not something IMO to argue about. When he pauses his games to take a break for food or the bathroom I'll just tell him I need some time and he'll take a few minutes to dance with me or talk with me.
12 hours is excessive- not because he's video gaming, but because it's just excessive. Nobody should do anything for that long unless it's a rare thing- like once every few months having a weekend devoted to gaming. If it's verging on the edge of addiction- that's a problem. If gaming takes precedence over work, that's a problem. If gaming WANTS come before your NEEDS, that's also a problem. But the problem might be you if you're pissed because it's *gaming.* It's not your job to monitor your SO's activities and hobbies unless it is something actually harmful to them or to you.
07/19/2013
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I'm the SO who plays games a lot. We make it an "us" thing though, because he'll play co-op with me, or we take turns on single player games. I love watching him play as much as I love playing, and he just likes being with me so it works.
Originally posted by
IvyFayette
Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does
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Currently my bf and I are fighting over his playing games all the time. I wouldn't mind it occasionally but 12 hours without stopping and then getting back on after 7 hours sleep to play for another 12 hours is starting to tick me off. Does anyone else have this problem? Or have advice on how to fix it?
My ex was/is the same as your bf. He likes to play WoW and he would play constantly. I wasn't into it, so he tried to wait for me not to be around to play. Once I played with him, we became zombies. I guess there wasn't enough balance for us to play together.
07/19/2013
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Currently I'm with someone who doesn't play video games, but I love playing them. Gaming has always been something that I've used as a bonding tool in the past so -- it's really weird not having that to connect with
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Gay Scout
My boyfriend and I are both avid video game players. It's something we can bond over. :3
And I agree. Coming from a gamer, 12 hours is kind of excessive. For me, anything over 3 or 4 hours at a time is too much.
10/12/2013
My boyfriend doesn't play games every day, but when he does its for hours and hours. Though I'm okay with it, I'm also bothered by it a lot. Sometimes if he's playing something he'll kinda be a butt and get irritated with me if I talk to him and I'm not short and to the point with what I have to say. Otherwise it doesn't bother me too much.
10/12/2013
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