I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the only one that does this?
Does anyone keep stuff from Past relationships?
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The first year I did keep a lot of things but I forgot I had them until I did spring cleaning recently. I don't think it's bad if you keep it.
Originally posted by
jryder3891
I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the
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I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the only one that does this?
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I still have a bracelet my from my youth crush, of course it was hand made and he is one of my best friends now, so that might make it a little different.
06/13/2012
I save most things, gifts, notes and letters, pictures and videos, but then again I stay friends with most of my ex's. My hubby doesn't mind my keeping them, either, which I am pretty lucky about, because he realizes that I only save them because I am a hoarder. He places my saving those things along the same lines of me saving old pairs of shoes and purses that I no longer like or use, simply because I once used them and can't get rid of them LOL
06/13/2012
I've been lucky, and after time has passed, they were all mostly good memories, so I definitely hung on to sentimental stuff. I know some people can't do that, and it's easier to get over things with everything gone.
06/13/2012
The reminders all go in the trash
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I still have a cd that my first love- my high school sweetheart made me.. i cant seem to get rid of it even though most of it is love songs...
Originally posted by
jryder3891
I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the
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I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the only one that does this?
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Depends on how the relationship ended honestly. I have kept stuff and given away stuff if it could be given away. I have stuff from nearly 10 years ago still. Also, I like to have something to look at when I'm feeling down, a remind of happy times if you will.
06/13/2012
I'd keep jewelry or something of value, but that's about it.
06/13/2012
depends on the stuff. I have some jewelry... and so cds. and stuff
06/13/2012
I threw away the romantic stuff, but I think I have some of the books she got me.
06/13/2012
I've learned a lot through all my relationships and I usually keep what I'm given in them. The only exception was when I was in a physically/emotionally / psychologically damaging relationship. I completely cleansed myself of that one.
06/13/2012
I think it depends. The one real long term relationship I had ended very badly and leaves a sour taste in my mouth, but i still have all the stuff given to me and pictures and whatnot, bagged up and put up high and out of sight in my closet. Maybe someday I'll come across them and decide if i should toss them or not.
Had it ended differently, like a mutual break up or something, I probably wouldn't be feeling so inclined to maybe toss everything.
Had it ended differently, like a mutual break up or something, I probably wouldn't be feeling so inclined to maybe toss everything.
06/13/2012
I kept stuff, but put it away in a locked box in my closet where I could not easily get to it. After about a year, when it didn't hurt so much, I opened the box and threw everything away.
06/13/2012
If it ONLY reminds me of the relationship, I toss.
If it's something practical, I keep or give it to a friend. My roomie ended up with all the massage candles and oils.
If it's something practical, I keep or give it to a friend. My roomie ended up with all the massage candles and oils.
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got rid of it
Originally posted by
jryder3891
I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the
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I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the only one that does this?
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After we were married a year, I found a box of stuff he had from some old GF's. Now, I KNOW about all of them, as we have been BEST BUDS forever. I don't have any jealousy, about them, but they were PAST loves. He does not need the POV Poloroid of one of his old girls going down on him, or a love note from another, or the perfumed panties from a third. I tossed it all, as I did with all the stuff from my old flames. He is cool with that, I think. I try and keep him pretty darned happy.
Originally posted by
jryder3891
I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the
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I have been in 3 long term relationships in my life. I am stipp in love with the first girl I ever told I loved her. She is happily in another relationship now. I still have stuff from our relationship and cant bring myself to get rid of it. Am I the only one that does this?
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There you go. A year is a good PURGE time.
Originally posted by
Ms. N
I kept stuff, but put it away in a locked box in my closet where I could not easily get to it. After about a year, when it didn't hurt so much, I opened the box and threw everything away.
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My hubby is a hoarder too, and I can put up with all that, but tokens of past loves? Not the same. WE are married. I am his, he is mine. He has all the memories he needs from them...which is fine. Constant physical presence in our home? Nope. Just not right, at least not for me.
Originally posted by
Peggi
I save most things, gifts, notes and letters, pictures and videos, but then again I stay friends with most of my ex's. My hubby doesn't mind my keeping them, either, which I am pretty lucky about, because he realizes that I only save them
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I save most things, gifts, notes and letters, pictures and videos, but then again I stay friends with most of my ex's. My hubby doesn't mind my keeping them, either, which I am pretty lucky about, because he realizes that I only save them because I am a hoarder. He places my saving those things along the same lines of me saving old pairs of shoes and purses that I no longer like or use, simply because I once used them and can't get rid of them LOL
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All my old BF's ended relationships on good terms, and likewise HIS old GF's....but still, I don't think we need tokens to keep that warm fuzzy.
Originally posted by
amazon
I've been lucky, and after time has passed, they were all mostly good memories, so I definitely hung on to sentimental stuff. I know some people can't do that, and it's easier to get over things with everything gone.
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SO marry the guy already!!!
Originally posted by
MaeGal
I still have a bracelet my from my youth crush, of course it was hand made and he is one of my best friends now, so that might make it a little different.
06/13/2012
I do keep some things, a picture here, a poem there. They were once happy memories, so I see no reason why I shouldn't keep them. Just because we don't belong together anymore doesn't mean I don't cherish the good times we had. Not that I stroll down memory lane often, but I just see no good reason to destroy beautiful memories.
I should mention that I'm married, but we're polyamarous, so that might be why I have less of an issue with it than others. I'm not sure if we were monogamous how my husband would feel. But that's not really something I need to worry about.
I should mention that I'm married, but we're polyamarous, so that might be why I have less of an issue with it than others. I'm not sure if we were monogamous how my husband would feel. But that's not really something I need to worry about.
06/13/2012
I kept the gifts, but I got rid of all the texts I had been saving. I guess I just kept the practical stuff like the books and got rid of the sentimental stuff.
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Excellent rule. That was kind of my rule when my longest relationship ended. I threw away or gave back A LOT of stuff. I think I had 3 or 4 garbage bags worth. I kept the antique car and ring from Ireland plus a few other practical items like blankets, but none of those things are still with me today because they have sentimental value...because they no longer do (they're with me for their monetary worth or because I think they're rad). I'd sell or toss any of the things if I needed to or if the price was right. As for my other shorter relationships, we still talk and I'm best friends with one so I have more less practical things like cute notes or things that have to do with inside jokes. I keep pictures but I put them on a disc and remove them from my computer. So...for the most part I get rid of anything that could cause a potential problem when I try to move on. There's nothing worse than trying to connect with a new person and having to explain why you still sleep in your ex's t-shirt or something lol. Out with the old, in with the new!
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
If it ONLY reminds me of the relationship, I toss.
If it's something practical, I keep or give it to a friend. My roomie ended up with all the massage candles and oils.
If it's something practical, I keep or give it to a friend. My roomie ended up with all the massage candles and oils.
06/13/2012
I used to keep old letters and sentimental things like pictures, cds, and even jewelry. But I realized that these things were not really helpful for me to keep and were just taking up space in my apartment and life. So about 4 years ago and went through and got rid of everything like that. There are presents from ex's that I still keep if there is no emotional attachment there like my LED hula hoop or art supplies. But if there is an emotional attachment I keep it for a month or so during my sad phase and then off to the Goodwill or recycling bin it all goes.
06/13/2012
I have a few things from my first serious relationship but now I have moved on and will trash it.
06/13/2012
I didn't keep anything sentimental but certain things can't be thrown away because of things like family photos from events that only happen once.
06/14/2012
I keep all kinds of things. Ticket stubs and birthday cards and programs and notes and doodles and various little things that would be trash to anyone else but for some reason mean something to me. Some of these things are connected to my previous relationship. I keep one of them on my bedside table. It's just a little chunk of green rock. I also have the earrings and books she gave me as presents. And a whole playlist of songs that remind me of her. It's a little sad but mostly it makes me smile. It's a good feeling.
06/17/2012
I try to only keep one major memento from the relationship. From my first love, for example, I have the Valentine's day CD she made on the first Vday we had together. From my most recent, I have a ring and a gigantic stuffed bear that is too squashy and cozy to toss. Keeping one item from each lets me hold onto them but get rid of all the other crap I don't really need in my apartment.
06/17/2012
I keep everything.Gifts,if I liked it,photos everything.I just see no reason in getting rid of things every time you get out of a relationship.
06/17/2012
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