have you ever cheated?

Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I have never cheated and would feel absolutely horrible about myself if I ever did. Though I suppose I can understand why people who are stuck in truly bad relationships would. Of course, I would just get out of the bad relationship.
08/12/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Long ago, early in highschool. It was the only time I ever cheated. I didn't respect my boyfriend because he wasn't the smartest man around the town and we had nothing in common. I ended up fooling around with my friend just because I was so attracted to his mind after a year of dating my idiot boyfriend. We broke up soon after (and I told him what I'd done, I never could keep that kind of thing inside) and I've never cheated since.
08/12/2011
Contributor: virgomama616 virgomama616
I have never cheated on anyone. If I wanted something other than what Ive got, I'd leave before complicating the situation even more.
08/13/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
I did, not on my current wife though. It was my second wife, I know two wrongs don't make a right, She was running around on me and I say an oppurtunity and seized the moment. Along with it came the shame. The shame was that I was a better person and I stooped to her level. I would never do it again.
08/14/2011
Contributor: NuclearTeapot NuclearTeapot
I think it is wrong to say that all cheaters are cowards or "I hate all cheaters". While I totally understand the sentiment, life is so much more complicated.

Growing up, both my parents cheated on each other for many many reasons. While I won't say that cheating is the answer, it is often the symptom of larger issues. I also think that some relationships can heal after cheating.

I can honestly say that if my husband cheated on me I would want to know all of the facts before completely writing him off and walking out the door.
08/14/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
No.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Goldfish-29 Goldfish-29
Have never cheated.
08/14/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
more than 22%? fuck that shit.

No way, I have never cheated. I don't understand it.
08/14/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or ... more
I cheated on my first husband but it was after not sleeping together in the same bed or having any sex for 9 months. Our marriage was pretty much over at that time. I found out that he was cheating on me and then made the decision to cheat on him. I had a one night stand and then I cheated with my Master. Our relationship started because of our affair. I'm not proud of it but can understand what lead me to that place at that time of my life. I told my ex husband about it and he wasn't too happy but eventually got over it.Not much he could say because he was cheating too. We were both unhappy in our relationship.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
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Originally posted by NuclearTeapot
I think it is wrong to say that all cheaters are cowards or "I hate all cheaters". While I totally understand the sentiment, life is so much more complicated.

Growing up, both my parents cheated on each other for many many reasons. ... more
You make good point. Some of the stories that other posters have shared I would even consider cheating. For example, if the relationship is ending and you have some sort of physical contact with another person out of sadness and frustration, I don't really call that cheating. The relationship was over anyway.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
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Originally posted by Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
You make good point. Some of the stories that other posters have shared I would even consider cheating. For example, if the relationship is ending and you have some sort of physical contact with another person out of sadness and frustration, I ... more
You also make a good point. Things like that are so complicated.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Marziba Marziba
I had a reputation as a cheater. A pretty bad one, too. I just... wasn't satisfied with any one guy. It's not a good reason to cheat, but at the time, I just wasn't ready to settle down because I knew I wasn't going to be happy with what I had.

Until I met my boyfriend. I would never, ever do a thing to hurt him or o result in me losing him... and as he says, "I don't care where you get your appetite, as long as you come home to eat dinner."
08/16/2011
Contributor: Love Bites Love Bites
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Originally posted by Noira Celestia
In high school in at least three relationships actually. I had some serious mental health issues in high school though and have been a very faithful partner since I became an adult. I think in part though being more mentally healthy had a big part ... more
I don't think that is true. I know a lot of people who are bi-polar, myself included, that would never cheat. I don't think being bi-polar has anything to do with it, and I don't feel that anyone should use that as an excuse.

I've never cheated, I don't think its ok and I've seen how painful it can be. My guy still hasn't gotten over his ex cheating to him. I'm 100% open about all my relationships. I'm 18 and I'm bi-polar, and I think cheating is unacceptable.
08/16/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Never have, never will. I feel like if someone has the urge to cheat on their partner, why are they with their partner in the first place? I love my fiancee, and I only have eyes for her!
08/17/2011
Contributor: Steve of Eden Steve of Eden
No...
08/18/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or ... more
Never have, because an ex cheated on me while I was away at school and found that it wasn't just one guy. It was her boss and about 3 or 4 other guys because I wasn't around I was at school two states away. Shame on me, looking back. I was two states away but still I would never put someone through that.
08/18/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or ... more
No, I have always been open about what I was doing.
08/18/2011
Contributor: BellaDonna2884 BellaDonna2884
I've never cheated.
08/18/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
No cheating has always been a huge no no for me! I'm a very firm believer in 100% honesty and loyalty and I am pretty darn serious about it in all relationships not just romantic ones. I've never cheated, but in past relationships have been cheated on. It's such a disgusting feeling to be done that way. If you absolutely can't resist then it's not love anyways and the best option is to split up with the person before you cheat and hurt them worse. I don't think I could live with myself or forgive myself. I just couldn't hurt my partner like that. If you love someone you don't have the desire to cheat. Even with past men who I didn't love, I still wouldn't have ever cheated. I don't want to be responsible for a broken heart. Those things can damage people and cause problems in their future relationships and I just do not want to be at fault for that.
08/18/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Nope, never have, never will!
08/23/2011
Contributor: LoveDove LoveDove
I haven't cheated. I've been cheated on. By my ex - the one I just broke up with cause he wasn't paying attention to me. Apparently he'd been fucking another girl for two months.

I won't ever do that to someone.
11/28/2011
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
i haven't. and would never. i only hope he feels the same way.
11/28/2011
Contributor: EvilHomer EvilHomer
No, never, and even if I wasn't thinking about my partner, I have to get up and deal with myself everyday. I don't need that.
11/28/2011
Contributor: MrKite MrKite
The worst I've ever done is a quick peck in a drunken stupor and cyber playing.
11/30/2011
Contributor: sexydelphia sexydelphia
if you aren't happy in the relationship then get out of it. don't cheat.
11/30/2011
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Nah, I'm very open and will tell someone if I'm having thoughts that I think could lead to cheating and we can talk about it and see what we're comfortable with.
12/01/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Nope. If I ever will, I will tell her first.
12/02/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I cheated once, and immediately regretted it. I'd been with my current partner for about 2 months, but was still feeling some pain over my previous relationship (which ended with a rough breakup). When my ex called me and asked if I would come over so we could talk, I agreed, hoping it would bring me some closure.
I was naive and unsure about what I wanted, so when he kissed me, I kissed him back. We ended up sleeping together that night, and afterward, I slunk home like a dog that knew it had done something bad. I felt horrible and low. After making such a monumental mistake, I suddenly knew exactly what I wanted and who I wanted to be with, where my heart belonged. But I also realized that I might have destroyed that chance.
The next day, I struggled through my shift at work, then went straight to my partner's house to tell him everything. I was sure he'd be so disgusted at me that he'd tell me to leave, but he didn't. For 2 weeks, we barely spoke. For 3 weeks, he wouldn't make any contact with me, even if it was just holding hands.
He forgave me, but I still have yet to forgive myself. I hurt him, and despite how badly I want to, there is no way for me to take it back.

Some people believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater", or that cheaters are all the same. But in actuality, some just made a mistake because they weren't sure what their heart wanted, and now they have to live with the guilt and shame of that mistake for the rest of their life. If you could feel the mental punishment that a regretful cheater inflicts on them self every day, you would know that they don't need other people to bash and look down on them, because they do that on their own.
12/02/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or ... more
No.
12/05/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Nope. I could never do that to him.
Even though we haven't had sex in a while, that's why I have toys. I know he's tired from work, and I'm tired from school.
I could never imagine anyone else ever touching me the way he does.

I think if it ever got that bad, I would break it off before I cheated on him. What's the point of causing extra hurt?
12/10/2011