How do I discuss new things I want to try?

How do I discuss new things I want to try?

LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
I've been with my guy for a year and a half, and lately we have been able to open up about things we want to try. Well, more so things I want to try. I always ask him if there's anything he wants to experiment with but is too shy or embarrassed to ask, and he always says nothing. So I ask him, "When you fantasize about me, what are you thinking about? The stuff we already do?" And he says yeah pretty much. Which on the one hand is cute and reassuring, makes me feel like I'm doing something right, lol. Vibrators have already been a part of our sex life almost from the beginning, but mostly just me using them on myself with him kissing me and playing with my nipples and stuff like that. We are finally starting to get into the logistics of using a clitoral vibrator during sex, waiting for a new bullet to come in. But I've also been thinking a lot about light BDSM. Just a little tieing up, teasing, feather tickling, sensory deprivation. No pain or severe dominant/submissive roles. But I don't know how to really bring it up without intimidating him or making him think that I don't already enjoy having sex with him. Any suggestions?
08/12/2011
  • Buy 3 Items for $70
  • Buy 3 Items for $50
  • Buy 3 Items for $30
  • Buy 3 Items for $20
  • Save 20% on Luxury Toys
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
newlady newlady
Maybe you could write him a story, or send him an e-mail or a text message ... Hubby and I e-mail each other almost every day with ideas and such (separate e-mail addresses from our regular ones, with names we gave each other) and we've been married over 25 years. How about one of Eden Fantasys nice little bdsm kits for beginners? There are some cute, non-intimidating ones!
08/12/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by LaLaLouise
I've been with my guy for a year and a half, and lately we have been able to open up about things we want to try. Well, more so things I want to try. I always ask him if there's anything he wants to experiment with but is too shy or ...
You could always get the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraints on a 30% Buyout and tell him, "Look what I was sent to review. Will you help me test it?"

Vibrations feel great to us girls, but the things that feel good to us, also feel good to them. Once you get your man tied up you could try using vibrations on his shaft along with a hand/blow job.
08/12/2011
LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
You could always get the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraints on a 30% Buyout and tell him, "Look what I was sent to review. Will you help me test it?"

Vibrations feel great to us girls, but the things that feel good to us, also ...
Which I would love to do but he is one of the unfortunate guys that does not experience pleasure from vibration, rather a numbing feeling that could make him lose his erection. This has SEVERELY pared down my options for during-sex clitoral stimulation. And I did have my eye on that system because we do not have a bed frame. He does really enjoy receiving blowjobs, so maybe I can use that to persuade him
08/12/2011
Total posts: 4
Unique posters: 3