How long did it take you to get super frank/comfortable with your partner?

Contributor: Destri Destri
Three months in, we got terrible food poisoning. Between the throwing up, terrible diarrhea and the resulting farting for days, that pretty much allowed us to see each other at our worst. After that, we just talked about everything and got totally comfortable with one another.
03/06/2011
Contributor: Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
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Originally posted by lezergirl
When you've been with someone for a long time, things can get to a super comfortable level - you start doing those things you never would do on a first date and laugh about it instead of getting super awkward: farting, shitting, being frank about ... more
no shyness period, lol dunno just the way it worked
05/02/2011
Contributor: Curves Curves
about 6 months?
05/02/2011
Contributor: SoBlue SoBlue
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Originally posted by lezergirl
When you've been with someone for a long time, things can get to a super comfortable level - you start doing those things you never would do on a first date and laugh about it instead of getting super awkward: farting, shitting, being frank about ... more
we were friends before we were lovers before we were dating, and then it ended, when we originally entered our relationship we were already comfortable with one another
05/03/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
Well I don't fart and shit At least not when she's around.
05/03/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I'd say it would have been about a week or so. Our relationship started long distance and we would spend hours and hours on the phone, so I got comfortable with him really fast!
05/08/2011
Contributor: lilly555 lilly555
We knew eachother for a few years before getting together so there was hardly any mystery left to begin with. I'd say it was all gone after the first month.
10/18/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
We were always pretty comfortable with each other. When we just started dating, I told him about my PCOS. And we talked about that. We were pretty good friends before we started dating too, so that helps.
10/19/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
Uhh, about 5 months or so. (:
10/21/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Our first date. Seriously, when we first met, we had such an amazing connection and told each other that we would be honest from the beginning. That does not mean that we spilled our guts to each other immediately, but any question would be answered truthfully and any pertinent information or desires would be talked about.
10/24/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by lezergirl
When you've been with someone for a long time, things can get to a super comfortable level - you start doing those things you never would do on a first date and laugh about it instead of getting super awkward: farting, shitting, being frank about ... more
I got comfortable with him real fast and its been almost 4 years and we hardly see each other and now im not as comfortable with him like i used to be..
10/25/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
We're pretty comfortable now, but I feel that the more you grow together, the more comfortable it becomes. So what seems really comfortable now, maybe in six months it'll be double what it is now.
10/25/2011
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
About a month after we got married since we were together 24/7.
10/25/2011
Contributor: Talena Talena
Quote:
Originally posted by lezergirl
When you've been with someone for a long time, things can get to a super comfortable level - you start doing those things you never would do on a first date and laugh about it instead of getting super awkward: farting, shitting, being frank about ... more
My husband was the first man I ever truely lived alone with and it started out he just needed a place to stay so he really wasn't a boyfriend so things got comfortable fast.
10/25/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Over 2 years! I have always had serious issues being around men. It's totally dumb. Lol. My twin and I both did, but hers passed very quickly. Mine I still have to work on and I feel that I would've never been able to stay in a relationship if it weren't for God giving me such an impossibly understanding man who somehow knows how I work. Lol.

First thing, I had SERIOUS problems eating or even going to the restroom to pee when I was around my partner or any male for that matter. I don't know why. The eating thing was there since at least 4 years old. My twin and I refused to eat in front of people and I'm still so curious as to why we were that way. It didn't matter what happened or how hungry, we wouldn't do it. In school our teachers and mom who worked there came up with a solution: we eat away from people! Lol. It worked, but once we were in middle school we did not eat ever, nor in high school unless we could sneak away to a bathroom.

Anyways, those problems were worsened when I had gotten involved with a not-so-nice-guy. I left, but the problems were still there. I remember holding my pee for 2 days straight. I was in SO much pain I asked to be taken home so I wouldn't have to go pee at his house! Lol.

The eating problem is still there, but not bad. It took me 1 year to eat in front of my partner and we've never missed but 6 days of seeing each other in our 5 years of being together! That's a lot of starving so I got desperate and ate. I still get uncomfortable, but he knows my crazy issues and makes me comfortable. I actually got naked in front of him WAY before I'd eat or even take a drink of anything besides beer in front of him. Weird! I still don't do well around people who aren't my close family members or my partner, but it's better. I ended up finally being able to go to the bathroom with him around after a short time and now we're great, but he's done a lot of comforting.

Those are some of the major discomforts I had in the beginning. I still wonder why I had such problems with silly things!
10/26/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
after 3 or 5months
10/26/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
With my husband, I immediately felt like I'd known him all my life and could talk about anything with him. I've never felt that way with anyone else.
10/26/2011
Contributor: oldhippy oldhippy
It was within the first week or so. We were seeing each other almost every evening, either at her work, or after. We knew each other 3 weeks before we were engaged, and only 2 1/2 months before we were married. Yeah, we were fairly comfortable with each other fairly quick.
10/26/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Probably 4-6 months.
10/26/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
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Originally posted by onehotmomma
I would say it was 6 or 7 months into our relationship when we started living together. I'm just guesstimating
Same here. Around 6 or 7 months
10/29/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I don't remember but probably 2-6 months.
10/29/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by lezergirl
When you've been with someone for a long time, things can get to a super comfortable level - you start doing those things you never would do on a first date and laugh about it instead of getting super awkward: farting, shitting, being frank about ... more
Just a few months.
10/30/2011