How long does it take for you and your partner to get over an argument?

How long does it take for you and your partner to get over an argument?

Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
You know those times whether its with mom, friends, or your lover when you get in a tiff and give eachother the cold shoulder. I noticed in my short life that the closer you are with someone, the quicker you two get over it. I have friends that I still hardly speak to after the dumbest arguments, but me and my boyfriend relax pretty quickly after a fight.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
5-10 minutes
Cream in the Cupcake , toxie m , fghjkl , Andromeda , al16 , aliceinthehole
6  (13%)
30 minutes
Yoda , leatherlover , Crash , Laureenm1 , BadassFatass
5  (11%)
1-2 hours
potstickers , jakjak , Triple X Moma
3  (7%)
less than a day
KikiChrome , darthkitt3n , Gallowraven , pinkcupcakes , ninaspinkturtle , ToyTimeTim , Jobthingy , Danielle1220 , Kaltir , DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO , Taylor , Naughty Student , married with children , gladiola , Lucky21 , tickle me pink , LennaKieran , PropertyOfPotter
18  (40%)
more than a day (elaborate below)
DeliciousSurprise , Shellz31
2  (4%)
other (you know what to do)
Airen Wolf , UnknownGirl , Lady Venus , PussyGalore , LavenderSkies , Victoria , *Ashley* , Jul!a , IslandGoddess , Marziba , Sir
11  (24%)
Total votes: 45
Poll is closed
02/07/2011
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toxie m toxie m
I hate being in a fight with my lad. We are super quick to make up and get back to our sickeningly lovey selves
02/07/2011
Gallowraven Gallowraven
While we don't get over an argument in just a few minutes. we do make up pretty quickly. I have to say that the longest it can take is a couple hours. and only after we have each had some time alone to figure things out on our own. luckily though, we dont fight over major stuff, and we hardly ever have any fights/arguments. That usually only happens when we get stuck in the house too long together. Such as times when the weather gets to bad and we get snowed in.
02/07/2011
Jobthingy Jobthingy
It doesnt take us long. We have our cool off time and after that is done we talk about it.
02/07/2011
fghjkl fghjkl
My boyfriend and I get in really passionate fights. The type of fights where we push eachother against the wall and fuck. Were crazy/weird. We get over our fights pretty quick because we piss eachother off, but we love eachother like mad. Sometimes, I think he pisses me off on purpose just for the crazy passionate sex
02/07/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Cream in the Cupcake
You know those times whether its with mom, friends, or your lover when you get in a tiff and give eachother the cold shoulder. I noticed in my short life that the closer you are with someone, the quicker you two get over it. I have friends that I ...
It can take YEARS for us to get over an argument if we don't handle the issue carefully or fully. We have begun taking the time it takes to be sure we are communicating clearly and resolving issues fully to shorten up the time...and we allow for the time it takes to rebuild the closeness that arguing can damage. We have turned a horrible happening into an active and engauged activity designed to strengthen our relationships.
02/07/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by fghjkl
My boyfriend and I get in really passionate fights. The type of fights where we push eachother against the wall and fuck. Were crazy/weird. We get over our fights pretty quick because we piss eachother off, but we love eachother like mad. Sometimes, ...
lol
02/08/2011
leatherlover leatherlover
I sometimes will be angry a little bit longer than my wife, but she usually blows it off immediately and forgets about it, unless I stomp around angrily for a long time.
02/08/2011
potstickers potstickers
We always try to make up before going to sleep. Sometimes we have stuff to do and can't resolve the issue in less than 1-2 hours but almost always before sleeping.
02/08/2011
kittychilla kittychilla
it depends. sometimes i like to be a bastard and hold grudges. >.< i know it's not good, but it happens often. and sometimes we can forgive each other the next day or within the same day.
02/08/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I depends on the severity of the argument and what the argument was about.
02/08/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
With my Master, it's usually me that causes an issue. Often I'm in a miserable mood for a day or so. Just depends when I can get to talk to him about it.
02/10/2011
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
Most of the time we're able to sort out our disagreements quickly, but if we're away from each other and we don't have time to work it out it can last a day.
02/10/2011
Taylor Taylor
It usually takes about a day. I think if we lived together things might be different though. Usually if we have an arguement, the next day one of us will usually call and apologize.
02/10/2011
PussyGalore PussyGalore
It used to be minutes, now it can be days or weeks. We're in a very weird state when it comes to resolutions right now. It's nothing we can't fix.
02/10/2011
Beatitude Beatitude
It used to be a day or two, or months/years in the case of the unresolved.
Then we agreed to say whatever we were thinking, even if it was brutal and harsh, and possibly cruel.

Now arguments take about 15 minutes.
02/10/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
My partner is the kind of guy that he'll be really pissed and explode and 2 minutes later he is happy. Where as I like to experience my emotion (not neccessarily express it), reason it out to see if it is logical and then deal with it. I get over an argument usually in the same day but sometimes it takes more or less time, it depends.
02/10/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Cream in the Cupcake
You know those times whether its with mom, friends, or your lover when you get in a tiff and give eachother the cold shoulder. I noticed in my short life that the closer you are with someone, the quicker you two get over it. I have friends that I ...
May sound unbelieveable, but we have never had an arguement.
02/10/2011
Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I depends on the severity of the argument and what the argument was about.
Exactly what I was going to say
02/10/2011
*Ashley* *Ashley*
It all depends on how bad the argument was and what it was all about...
02/10/2011
married with children married with children
I dont get mad very often, and when I do I am over it pretty fast. She can stay mad for days.
02/10/2011
*Huxley* *Huxley*
Yeah, it totally depends.
I've been known around here for holding grudge for a too long- Opps. For me, it seems to to depend on what happened and were we are at in the relationship.

Fighting sucks anyways.
02/11/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by potstickers
We always try to make up before going to sleep. Sometimes we have stuff to do and can't resolve the issue in less than 1-2 hours but almost always before sleeping.
i was told to never go to sleep angry when i was a kid, so i try to make up before bed too. plus i usually have bad dreams if i dont.
02/14/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by Beatitude
It used to be a day or two, or months/years in the case of the unresolved.
Then we agreed to say whatever we were thinking, even if it was brutal and harsh, and possibly cruel.

Now arguments take about 15 minutes.
i agree about saying whats on our minds. I just began realizing how important communication is and sometimes things need to be said.
02/14/2011
al16 al16
Neither one of us are the kind of person who is generally upset for long.
02/16/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
We really don't fight very often. Over anything. The one fight I can remember us having was last fall, and even that only lasted a few hours of us "being mad" at each other.
02/16/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
It depends on the severity of the argument. We fight like cats and dogs. We both have short fuses and quick tempers. We were both, sadly, raised by people who shout and yell and scream a lot. It is not healthy.

Getting things out of your systems is healthy, but too much shouting isn't. If I get too upset, I cry so hard I get the dry heaves. I can take days for me to feel normal again.

Usually, though we make up before we go to bed.
02/16/2011
gladiola gladiola
It used to take us two days to get over a fight--and it felt like forever! Nowadays, we're usually done in 20 minutes, or less than a day at the longest.
02/17/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
I know we have had problems and I didnt get over it for years and we have had our big fights too, but lately we have been a lot better and communicating much more.
02/19/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
When we fight about something, we both usually realize pretty quickly that we're being ridiculous. We apologize and then talk rationally.
02/19/2011
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