Part of me wants to stop him from getting my name on him. The other part says why not I am not going to hurt him. Opinions?
Is okay to let your husband get a tattoo of your name?
05/16/2011
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If you're a little uncomfortable about it, you could suggest that he get a symbol or something to represent you, or possibly your name in a different language.
05/16/2011
It's totally a personal choice. Saying that, I never would, even if we were married 30 years and had kids.
05/16/2011
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What a tough decision. I'm a little jaded lately, so I would probably say no, but I like the "representation" idea.
Originally posted by
Dizzykakes
Part of me wants to stop him from getting my name on him. The other part says why not I am not going to hurt him. Opinions?
05/16/2011
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My Man has my name on his arm. He didn't tell me he was going to do it. He just went to the Tattoo parlor and had it done. The tattoo is my name in large letters with the names of our children under them.
Originally posted by
Dizzykakes
Part of me wants to stop him from getting my name on him. The other part says why not I am not going to hurt him. Opinions?
The artist who created the tattoo said to him, "If you break up with her I can turn it into an 8 ball or something." My Man said, "NO! She'll always be the mother of my children and the love of my life. She stays on me no matter what!" I was so proud of him, and more than a little horny when I saw that tattoo and heard what he had said.
True love never dies, IMO. But, when people see the tattoo and comment on it I always joke, "I can't leave his sorry ass now. I'm permanently on him for life!"
But, it's really up to your husband what he wants to do. We were married a number of years and had already had 3 kids before he did it.
05/16/2011
If you're uncomfortable with it, you need to bring it up to him. It's better to sit him down, tell him you're not thrilled about the idea and why than to let him go ahead and get it done and silently hate that it's there forever (worst case scenario). MaryExy has a great suggestion with him getting something that represents you rather than your name. It could be something you pick out or something that has a lot of meaning to the both of you and will mean as much as your name would.
05/16/2011
I don't think its a good idea to tat a lovers name even if your married. Kids names however yes I do agree with that. Kids will be yours forever.
05/16/2011
I firmly believe in the "bad juju" of matching/name tattoos. It's just something that we don't really want to do. The only name I have on me is my mother's, who passed a little over a year ago from brain cancer. The only others I'm putting on myself are my kids' names. Hopefully, I'll be able to do that within the next year!
But getting something that represents you, that's different. If you break up, he can always look back at it as a good thing instead of having people continually ask whose name it is.
But getting something that represents you, that's different. If you break up, he can always look back at it as a good thing instead of having people continually ask whose name it is.
05/16/2011
My Man and I have been together a very long time. I prefer to go through my life and I went into my marriage with the belief that it was going to work. (I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think so.) I am often pretty cynical, but I don't think of my relationship with My Man as something temporary. We went into it knowing it would be for life, and we've stayed together for decades and have no plan to ever end it.
I just couldn't go on with him thinking "I have to have a contingency plan for what I'm going to do when we break up?" or "There are certain things we simply can't do (like get a tattoo) just in CASE we break up?" That just isn't the way I think. IMO, a divorce would be worse than having to have a tattoo removed, or even keeping it there. Yet, the "threat" of breaking up doesn't keep anyone from getting involved with an other person. I think a tattoo is less "permanent" than Love is and not as big a deal as a LOT of things people do in relationships. I mean, having KIDS is certainly more a big deal than a tattoo, yet it doesn't stop people from having them "in case we ever break up." Does it? I mean, I think if a little ink is bothering someone about whether the relationship will end or not, doesn't having a little human being with both your DNA in it walking around a bigger deal?
If he wants the tattoo, and your relationship is worth keeping I say "Why not?"
I just couldn't go on with him thinking "I have to have a contingency plan for what I'm going to do when we break up?" or "There are certain things we simply can't do (like get a tattoo) just in CASE we break up?" That just isn't the way I think. IMO, a divorce would be worse than having to have a tattoo removed, or even keeping it there. Yet, the "threat" of breaking up doesn't keep anyone from getting involved with an other person. I think a tattoo is less "permanent" than Love is and not as big a deal as a LOT of things people do in relationships. I mean, having KIDS is certainly more a big deal than a tattoo, yet it doesn't stop people from having them "in case we ever break up." Does it? I mean, I think if a little ink is bothering someone about whether the relationship will end or not, doesn't having a little human being with both your DNA in it walking around a bigger deal?
If he wants the tattoo, and your relationship is worth keeping I say "Why not?"
05/16/2011
I'm all for it. And this is coming from a girl that still has her ex-husband's name on her. I don't regret it, I did think it was forever, but it didn't work out that way. Him becoming abusive and pompous had nothing to do with a little ink (I'm not at all superstitious about it) and I'd do it again if I ever got married again.
05/16/2011
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Sometimes, no matter how dedicated people are to each other, or how much they love each other, or how hard they try to make it work, it just doesn't. While I don't see my marriage as temporary nor as something to throw away, sometimes things happen, sometimes people cannot reconcile, sometimes people have abused the trust so much that it makes someone not want to reconcile. It's more than making a decision and sticking to it.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
My Man and I have been together a very long time. I prefer to go through my life and I went into my marriage with the belief that it was going to work. (I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think so.) I am often pretty cynical, but I
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My Man and I have been together a very long time. I prefer to go through my life and I went into my marriage with the belief that it was going to work. (I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think so.) I am often pretty cynical, but I don't think of my relationship with My Man as something temporary. We went into it knowing it would be for life, and we've stayed together for decades and have no plan to ever end it.
I just couldn't go on with him thinking "I have to have a contingency plan for what I'm going to do when we break up?" or "There are certain things we simply can't do (like get a tattoo) just in CASE we break up?" That just isn't the way I think. IMO, a divorce would be worse than having to have a tattoo removed, or even keeping it there. Yet, the "threat" of breaking up doesn't keep anyone from getting involved with an other person. I think a tattoo is less "permanent" than Love is and not as big a deal as a LOT of things people do in relationships. I mean, having KIDS is certainly more a big deal than a tattoo, yet it doesn't stop people from having them "in case we ever break up." Does it? I mean, I think if a little ink is bothering someone about whether the relationship will end or not, doesn't having a little human being with both your DNA in it walking around a bigger deal?
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I just couldn't go on with him thinking "I have to have a contingency plan for what I'm going to do when we break up?" or "There are certain things we simply can't do (like get a tattoo) just in CASE we break up?" That just isn't the way I think. IMO, a divorce would be worse than having to have a tattoo removed, or even keeping it there. Yet, the "threat" of breaking up doesn't keep anyone from getting involved with an other person. I think a tattoo is less "permanent" than Love is and not as big a deal as a LOT of things people do in relationships. I mean, having KIDS is certainly more a big deal than a tattoo, yet it doesn't stop people from having them "in case we ever break up." Does it? I mean, I think if a little ink is bothering someone about whether the relationship will end or not, doesn't having a little human being with both your DNA in it walking around a bigger deal?
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And frankly, I don't really have any desire to have a carved-in reminder of that person. Even if I can get it removed or covered.
05/16/2011
It really shouldn't bother you any if he chooses to get your name tattooed on him. I would personally advise against it, but if its what he wants then its his call. You should ask him to throw a little "property of" in next to it though. lol
05/16/2011
DON'T LET HIM!!! It'll only cause regret, it's the stupidest thing someone can do, and honestly it's kinda creepy.
05/17/2011
I have told my partner many times, I do not like the idea! I would never get anybody's name on me and I don't want my name on anyone else. It's just not all too wise and not only because you might break up. I just don't think "names" are cute at all and a lot of times I view the name tats as trashy. It has no point. Instead, why not get something that MEANS something. My tattoo stands for what i've over came and the obstacles Ive gone through, the "stripes" I've gotten and learned to let go and have closure. It's not one of those chinese symbols that mean strength or could very well mean pussy, but the tattoo artist SAID it meant strength so I took his word. Mine is no symbol to anyone but me. It represents the strength and courage I HAD to have. It's there to remind me of what I AM CAPABLE of over coming. My tattoo has so much meaning to me. It's not that pretty. The artist "Added" a few designs on my back and then said "Hope you like those new designs I threw in there. I thought they made it look better." He tattooed me and didn't tell me he threw those little designs in until after he had already thrown those little designs in and they're not exactly little. Anyways, tattoos are just a thing, like a trend just get one to have one, doesn't matter if everybody and their moma have the same type. I hate that.
Anyways, my partner and I were just discussing tattoos and piercings when my new tattoo supplies catalog came in and he mentioned the name tats and knew what I was going to say. He thinks it's funny lol. I just think a tattoo should have real meaning, importance, represent something special. Why not get a tattoo of something that can represent your relationship? Is there something you share that's unique? Even just a made-up word that's between you and him. That's intimate. My partner helped design my tat and he's designing my next one now. You could consider adding something like (I know this is cheesy, but the only example I can think of) say you're first date was under the stars, you could add a star in a design, make it your own and be creative/unique.
Those are just my own crazy opinions, of course I'm not saying DON'T do it. If it makes you happy, then more power to you. I'm just offering a little advice, creativity.
Anyways, my partner and I were just discussing tattoos and piercings when my new tattoo supplies catalog came in and he mentioned the name tats and knew what I was going to say. He thinks it's funny lol. I just think a tattoo should have real meaning, importance, represent something special. Why not get a tattoo of something that can represent your relationship? Is there something you share that's unique? Even just a made-up word that's between you and him. That's intimate. My partner helped design my tat and he's designing my next one now. You could consider adding something like (I know this is cheesy, but the only example I can think of) say you're first date was under the stars, you could add a star in a design, make it your own and be creative/unique.
Those are just my own crazy opinions, of course I'm not saying DON'T do it. If it makes you happy, then more power to you. I'm just offering a little advice, creativity.
05/17/2011
This is hard, I guess it's a completely personal thing. Personally I would have my mans name tattooed on me in an instant and I would be thrilled if he did the same. But I know that I will never love another person. He will always be the one I was born to be with. So yes but if it's not something you like then maybe help him find another way to express his love for you
05/17/2011
No names of spouses or boy/girlfriends!
The only names I would ever get would be in memory of a blood relative. (Parent, child, etc)
The only names I would ever get would be in memory of a blood relative. (Parent, child, etc)
05/17/2011
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The thing is though that name tattoos can have meaning, just like any other tattoo. Just because it's a name and not a symbol or some other object doesn't make it any less of a real tattoo. I have my grandfather's name tattooed on my back because we were close and when he passed away, that was how I chose to honor his memory. Is that trashy because it has a name there among the rest of the tattoo? I didn't think so when I got it, and I still don't think so. I understand that my grandfather and I aren't going to break up, and I'm not too fond of the partner's name on the body as a tattoo in general, but just because it isn't something else that symbolizes the relationship doesn't mean that it doesn't have meaning.
Originally posted by
K101
I have told my partner many times, I do not like the idea! I would never get anybody's name on me and I don't want my name on anyone else. It's just not all too wise and not only because you might break up. I just don't think
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I have told my partner many times, I do not like the idea! I would never get anybody's name on me and I don't want my name on anyone else. It's just not all too wise and not only because you might break up. I just don't think "names" are cute at all and a lot of times I view the name tats as trashy. It has no point. Instead, why not get something that MEANS something. My tattoo stands for what i've over came and the obstacles Ive gone through, the "stripes" I've gotten and learned to let go and have closure. It's not one of those chinese symbols that mean strength or could very well mean pussy, but the tattoo artist SAID it meant strength so I took his word. Mine is no symbol to anyone but me. It represents the strength and courage I HAD to have. It's there to remind me of what I AM CAPABLE of over coming. My tattoo has so much meaning to me. It's not that pretty. The artist "Added" a few designs on my back and then said "Hope you like those new designs I threw in there. I thought they made it look better." He tattooed me and didn't tell me he threw those little designs in until after he had already thrown those little designs in and they're not exactly little. Anyways, tattoos are just a thing, like a trend just get one to have one, doesn't matter if everybody and their moma have the same type. I hate that.
Anyways, my partner and I were just discussing tattoos and piercings when my new tattoo supplies catalog came in and he mentioned the name tats and knew what I was going to say. He thinks it's funny lol. I just think a tattoo should have real meaning, importance, represent something special. Why not get a tattoo of something that can represent your relationship? Is there something you share that's unique? Even just a made-up word that's between you and him. That's intimate. My partner helped design my tat and he's designing my next one now. You could consider adding something like (I know this is cheesy, but the only example I can think of) say you're first date was under the stars, you could add a star in a design, make it your own and be creative/unique.
Those are just my own crazy opinions, of course I'm not saying DON'T do it. If it makes you happy, then more power to you. I'm just offering a little advice, creativity. less
Anyways, my partner and I were just discussing tattoos and piercings when my new tattoo supplies catalog came in and he mentioned the name tats and knew what I was going to say. He thinks it's funny lol. I just think a tattoo should have real meaning, importance, represent something special. Why not get a tattoo of something that can represent your relationship? Is there something you share that's unique? Even just a made-up word that's between you and him. That's intimate. My partner helped design my tat and he's designing my next one now. You could consider adding something like (I know this is cheesy, but the only example I can think of) say you're first date was under the stars, you could add a star in a design, make it your own and be creative/unique.
Those are just my own crazy opinions, of course I'm not saying DON'T do it. If it makes you happy, then more power to you. I'm just offering a little advice, creativity. less
05/17/2011
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I'm in the process of having my artist draw something up for me. Just a piece of his art, because his art if phenomenal and colorful. I have no intention of it being deeply meaningful, just beautiful. I have meaningful tattoos and I plan on getting more meaningful tattoos, but I want something that is beautiful and artistic that has no significance other than to make me his canvas.
Originally posted by
K101
I have told my partner many times, I do not like the idea! I would never get anybody's name on me and I don't want my name on anyone else. It's just not all too wise and not only because you might break up. I just don't think
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I have told my partner many times, I do not like the idea! I would never get anybody's name on me and I don't want my name on anyone else. It's just not all too wise and not only because you might break up. I just don't think "names" are cute at all and a lot of times I view the name tats as trashy. It has no point. Instead, why not get something that MEANS something. My tattoo stands for what i've over came and the obstacles Ive gone through, the "stripes" I've gotten and learned to let go and have closure. It's not one of those chinese symbols that mean strength or could very well mean pussy, but the tattoo artist SAID it meant strength so I took his word. Mine is no symbol to anyone but me. It represents the strength and courage I HAD to have. It's there to remind me of what I AM CAPABLE of over coming. My tattoo has so much meaning to me. It's not that pretty. The artist "Added" a few designs on my back and then said "Hope you like those new designs I threw in there. I thought they made it look better." He tattooed me and didn't tell me he threw those little designs in until after he had already thrown those little designs in and they're not exactly little. Anyways, tattoos are just a thing, like a trend just get one to have one, doesn't matter if everybody and their moma have the same type. I hate that.
Anyways, my partner and I were just discussing tattoos and piercings when my new tattoo supplies catalog came in and he mentioned the name tats and knew what I was going to say. He thinks it's funny lol. I just think a tattoo should have real meaning, importance, represent something special. Why not get a tattoo of something that can represent your relationship? Is there something you share that's unique? Even just a made-up word that's between you and him. That's intimate. My partner helped design my tat and he's designing my next one now. You could consider adding something like (I know this is cheesy, but the only example I can think of) say you're first date was under the stars, you could add a star in a design, make it your own and be creative/unique.
Those are just my own crazy opinions, of course I'm not saying DON'T do it. If it makes you happy, then more power to you. I'm just offering a little advice, creativity. less
Anyways, my partner and I were just discussing tattoos and piercings when my new tattoo supplies catalog came in and he mentioned the name tats and knew what I was going to say. He thinks it's funny lol. I just think a tattoo should have real meaning, importance, represent something special. Why not get a tattoo of something that can represent your relationship? Is there something you share that's unique? Even just a made-up word that's between you and him. That's intimate. My partner helped design my tat and he's designing my next one now. You could consider adding something like (I know this is cheesy, but the only example I can think of) say you're first date was under the stars, you could add a star in a design, make it your own and be creative/unique.
Those are just my own crazy opinions, of course I'm not saying DON'T do it. If it makes you happy, then more power to you. I'm just offering a little advice, creativity. less
05/17/2011
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Thanks. "The stupidist thing" someone can do?
Originally posted by
XPS
DON'T LET HIM!!! It'll only cause regret, it's the stupidest thing someone can do, and honestly it's kinda creepy.
I can think of worse. Thanks for calling My Man and the love of my life creepy, too.
You may not want one, and you are free to not get one, but try not to insult the people who have already done this and like the idea, OK?
05/17/2011
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A sampling of my artist's work:
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
I'm in the process of having my artist draw something up for me. Just a piece of his art, because his art if phenomenal and colorful. I have no intention of it being deeply meaningful, just beautiful. I have meaningful tattoos and I plan on
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I'm in the process of having my artist draw something up for me. Just a piece of his art, because his art if phenomenal and colorful. I have no intention of it being deeply meaningful, just beautiful. I have meaningful tattoos and I plan on getting more meaningful tattoos, but I want something that is beautiful and artistic that has no significance other than to make me his canvas.
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05/17/2011
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Cute. Steam Punky!
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BBW Talks Toys
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05/17/2011
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I love his art. I can't wait to see what he comes up with for my other arm. I plan on getting a nice big half-sleeve from my shoulder to my elbow. Which, of course, will mean that I'll need to fill in the area around my pinup so that my left arm doesn't look so sparse.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Cute. Steam Punky!
I think there's crack in ink... SO. FRIGGIN'. ADDICTIVE!
05/17/2011
I think I might just talk him into getting a heart split into two. Where he can have half the heart and ill have the other. Which would be a symbol of us being as one.
05/20/2011
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Well it would be kinda cool if you ever break up horribly to know he will have to relive the pain of having it removed....seriously though if he wants to tatoo your name all over himself be flattered!
Originally posted by
Dizzykakes
Part of me wants to stop him from getting my name on him. The other part says why not I am not going to hurt him. Opinions?
05/20/2011
I'm kinda superstitious about this...I would be a little bothered if my SO wanted to get my [italics|name] on him, but I could be okay with a representative or similar set of tattoos.
Maybe (as others have said) you could talk him into something that reminds him of you without being your name...it could be prettier, too.
Maybe (as others have said) you could talk him into something that reminds him of you without being your name...it could be prettier, too.
05/22/2011
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i always think it's a bad idea. god forbid anything ever happen, but if it did, it's there & having it surgically removed is painful & leaves a scar.
Originally posted by
Dizzykakes
Part of me wants to stop him from getting my name on him. The other part says why not I am not going to hurt him. Opinions?
05/23/2011
I would never let him do that. Not because I have any doubt about the longevity of our relationship, I just think it's tacky as all hell.
05/23/2011
I like tattoos but a name is quite a commitment. And I know it's expensive to remove. I never would do that. And I wouldn't let het do that either.
05/24/2011
No not because commitment but because too much could happen. God forbid you die or something but what if? If he does move on it may prove an uncomfortable decision later! My sis put her son's name on her leg. Now she's preggo again? She doesn't want more tattoos because she's outgrown her love of them! What is she gonna do? Not get one for the next kid and hurt it's feelings or get one and not really want it? Who knows, just saayin?
05/26/2011
I won't stop him if he really wants my name tattooed on his body, but I know that will not happen because my hubby is deathly afraid of needles.
05/26/2011
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