I think something like that shouldn't really matter, hopefully he will be supportive enough of you even if you don't like it. Don't let him control you. Also, I just want to be clear that it is fine for people to disagree on things, but if he is telling you what to wear, how to act, who to talk to, that sounds bad.

With that being said, maybe you can come to a happy medium?

Yeah, that's what we're trying. I'm keeping the streak, and I'm still getting it cut. It just won't all be purple, lol.

Same thing with the hair color. I've always wanted a funky color in my hair and did the underneath part and my bangs (not really bangs, but you know, the hair that frames my face) turquoise. He was all WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT, IT'S CHILDISH, BLAH BLAH BLAH.

I loved it. Well, for about the first 2 weeks. Then I got bored of it again, tried to strip the blue out, didn't work, and now I have part blue, part reddish brown, and now my natural color is growing out, which is making me much more anxious than anybody should ever be about their hair. My natural color is a dull, yucky, stupid looking brown (I like brunette hair, just not mine) not to mention the billions of gray hairs that are coming in that I didn't have even just a year ago. I have the grays of a 40 year old and I'm only 22.

Pretty much that exact situation, only he complained about piercings and tattoos too. He wanted me to be the 'bad girl' with all the piercings and tattoos and dyed hair, but only in the bedroom. Otherwise I had to be able to fit in with his family, and he seemed like he was trying to turn me into his mother. He resorted to trying to make a deal with me, he would work out more if I didn't cut or dye my hair. Well I caved, didn't do anything with my hair, and he never started working out, so I chopped it all off and dyed it fuchsia. He threw a huge fit, but I pointed out that it wasn't fair to force me to live in a little bubble.

He hated my tattoos and felt that I was going 'overboard' with them as well as my piercings. Even now, with more tattoos, if I don't want them visible, none of them are, and I don't look like I'm hiding anything. He got mad when I got my lip ring because later that week we were supposed to go to a dinner with his family and he was very worried about what they were going to think about it. Well turns out that nobody in his family even noticed, and I didn't even have to take out half my earrings either. A few members of his family even asked me a few questions about my piercings at one point and they were legitimately genuine questions, nothing all 'you shouldn't have done that' about it.

Anyway, text wall aside here, it's your hair, it's your life, if it's not going to prevent you from doing things you want to do and it's not something like a tattoo over your face (like Airen says), then it's really none of his business. I handled it by being spiteful (coulda handled it better) and eventually leaving him for someone who embraces my loud behavior. I agree with Laurel too, if he can't seem to love you for you who are rather than the woman he wants you to be, then you should find the man that does.

Good luck sweetie

I have colored my hair purple before. My boyfriend loved it. If he didn't, it would really be too bad for him, since it is my hair. Though, if I wanted to do something that he finds gross or offensive, like a tongue ring, I'd at least consider his arguments against it, before going and making my final decision.

I remember one of my friends and I were talking about that subject (weight changes in relationships). She was one of those beautifully slender women that we all want to look like, and she was really fed up that all she seemed to attract were superficial asses who were attracted to the packaging but not the whole package inside. She said, "These are probably the same guys that would dump me as soon as I gain five pounds." Made me really wonder (and paranoid) when I finish losing weight and what exactly will attract (and keep) any future relationships I may have.

We love each other either way, but there are ways i prefer his facial hair...he likes these big chops and i like a thin long line along his jaw. thats about it. We compromise