Long Term and the Inevitable(?) Proposal

Long Term and the Inevitable(?) Proposal

lezergirl lezergirl
How inevitable is a wedding proposal in a long term relationship? It took my gf 3 years to propose, but we're young and don't want to plan a wedding for a while anyway.
02/04/2011
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Yoda Yoda
Won't it depend on the person and their situation in life?
02/05/2011
lamira lamira
I've been with my partner for 4 years and we know eventually we will get married, but not for a while. We're both still relatively young, we need to save up money, have decent careers, and find good housing. I'm not getting married until all my ducks are lined up.
02/05/2011
TeaganChase TeaganChase
Ive been with my last bf for 7 years. He proposed after 2 but we still didn't run off to the courthouse. We actually instead took the money wed been saving for the wedding and bought a house. That seemed like a better investment to us.
We had waited so long because his families pressure to have a big wedding was enormous. And we wanted them happy. But we couldn't afford that and were saving. Finally we said to hell with them and bought a house instead. They still always ask "So when you 2 getting married? What are you waiting for?"
02/05/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I don't think anything is inevitable (call me a skeptic) but I do think it's wise to make sure everyone has the same long term goals and that you are both in a place to afford what you need to start life together before jumping in.
02/05/2011
Rockin' Rockin'
Quote:
Originally posted by TeaganChase
Ive been with my last bf for 7 years. He proposed after 2 but we still didn't run off to the courthouse. We actually instead took the money wed been saving for the wedding and bought a house. That seemed like a better investment to us.
We had ...
I totally agree that a house is a great investment, and I'm in a similar situation to yours. My boy and I get asked if we're getting married / having a wedding by our family members, but we'd much rather put our money toward a house. I support your decision and am proud of you for having the courage to set and follow your own priorities.
02/05/2011
Kaltir Kaltir
It's definitely not inevitable. It depends on how serious each person views the relationship, and how much faith they have in it lasting. Aside from that, fiances can be a huge issue.
02/09/2011
clp clp
I'm not sure that I will ever be interested in marriage. I'm okay with that.

What makes things interesting is that, as a UK citizen, my sweetheart and I cannot be together (in body) without it. I'm glad that he agrees with me that it is a difficult idea to want to get involved with, otherwise. Sigh. Of all things to mess with marriage: citizenship laws make things tricky.
02/09/2011
Dusk Dusk
I think it's different person to person. My partner and I have been together for a bit over a year and half, and I know he plans on proposing sometime within the next 5 years, lol.
02/09/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm not looking for marriage - I personally think it's over-rated!
Most end in divorce and I won't have that on my record so it's easier to avoid marriage.

But with that being said, I think one of the most beautiful things to see are an elderly couple in their 70s + who have been married for 50 years or so and they still walk hand 'n' hand!

It kinda gives ya hope but the world has changed so much since they were young. People no longer have the same believes.
02/10/2011
SerenityRed SerenityRed
My parents dated for 9 years before getting married. They're high school sweethearts and just had their 33rd anniversary.

On the other hand, I know some people who are just life partners and don't feel like being married. They're completely devoted to each other, they just don't want to go through all the formalities.
02/22/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
We've been together a little over 6 years and we've talked about marriage.

But we find it sort of stupid to get engaged if we can't plan for the wedding within a year from the engagement. In any case, marriage is not a priority for us. Perhaps eventually.
02/22/2011
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