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Meeting online- still taboo?

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Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
I was talking with a new co-worker. She mentioned her anniversary was coming up. I asked her how she met her husband. She hesitated and said she would rather not say because she was afraid of my reaction. So, I’m thinking "What? Was it a crime situation?? etc." She finally admitted she met him on a dating site. I was shocked! Mind you, not that she had met him online, but that she felt and stated that people thought it taboo. I thought this type of thing, especially in this day and age, was fairly common.

My question: Is meeting, dating and living with/marrying a person you meet online still taboo in your opinion?
04/13/2012
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Contributor: Raigne Raigne
No, as long as you realize that that kind of relationship is fundamentally different from one in which you're seeing the person every day or cohabiting. The connection can certainly be as deep, but a lot of times it won't survive the transition to offline, because people expect one thing and discover something else.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
It's not taboo, it's just... kind of awkward to explain sometimes and can be slightly embarrassing.

I met my significant other online, not through a dating site, but via some friends. Down the road, when we're out of the internet and in the real world, I plan on just saying that we met through friends.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
It's not taboo, exactly, but there is still the idea that it's dangerous. I met my husband online years ago.
04/14/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I think it gets less taboo all the time. I never even get a weird look anymore when I talk about friends and partners I've met online.
04/14/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I met my fiance online, myspace actually. We don't even have accounts there anymore. But sometimes I feel embarrassed saying that we met from there.
04/14/2012
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
I met my husband around 9 years ago on a RPG forumboard. Almost 6 years ago, we started being together. Five years ago, we finally met, and we've been seing each other on and off because he lived 250km away from me. We now live together since almost 2 years. We're married since almost a year.

And I hate it when people say that the year we were together but unable to see each other doesn't count. I feel embarassed, yeah, when people ask me, because they think we really are together since 2 years, not six, because this is the only time we were able to see each other at least once a day, and they negate all the feeling you can still have while noe being able to touch, or to see face to face.
04/14/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I don't think it's still taboo.I wish I meet a man online.
04/14/2012
Contributor: bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
I met my partner 3 years ago on fetlife, I believe he told his friends he met me on a vanilla dating site but at the time I was 19 and in 2009 I really didn't have many friends doing internet dating. Now its much more common amongst my friends and at my college but at the time I felt like some sort of unfuckable outcast for engaging in internet dating.
04/14/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by Annemarie
It's not taboo, it's just... kind of awkward to explain sometimes and can be slightly embarrassing.

I met my significant other online, not through a dating site, but via some friends. Down the road, when we're out of the internet ... more
Thanks for sharing! Personally, I think any love story is sweet and online romances are just another way of finding love during this crazy time in history. Congrats on finding your sweetheart
04/14/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by Ghost
It's not taboo, exactly, but there is still the idea that it's dangerous. I met my husband online years ago.
I had never stopped to think about it, but I bet people who met their sweetheart online get a lot of lectures regarding safety and risk. Personally, it doesn't seem any more dangerous than me meeting my hubby on a blind date.
04/14/2012