Men and their hobbies

Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I'm a bit concerned about "And he told me about how he feels so much better in the fantasy world". Is he running away from something that he needs to deal with? Is he suffering from low-grade depression?
12/09/2010
Contributor: Harlequin Harlequin
my husband and i are ex wow players. we played from the start of wow until about a year or so ago. my husband used to be obsessed and at times it did cause problems so i told him one day... me or the game because it was becoming a serious problem and he chose me.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by ScottA
I'm a bit concerned about "And he told me about how he feels so much better in the fantasy world". Is he running away from something that he needs to deal with? Is he suffering from low-grade depression?
I gotta second what ScottA said.

Plus this can lead to the dreaded MMO addiction.

Then again, I liked fighting tigers and bad people on Video games, its something I couldn't do in real life and live to tell about it. Maybe that is what he meant. I dunno.
12/09/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Alicia
I've learned through the years that even the best men can sometimes be a little clueless to that type of thing. Unless it's vocalized the chances are they will miss things like that and have no idea why we get mad! I'm glad that you ... more
What ^^she^^ said.

Boys are CLUE.LESS. to the facial expression, the crying, the sighing, the little ways that women express a big emotion. They aren't mind readers. If he gets up to go do something: Pause the movie, Tell him "I am waiting for you to get back," and then in 10 minutes if he's not back, go get him and say "I'm still waiting for you to come back."

Men will get sucked into things and LITERALLY FORGET that they were doing something else. It has nothing to do with you. It's just them.
12/09/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
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Originally posted by Illusional
We stayed up until an hour ago talking. And he told me about how he feels so much better in the fantasy world, and I told him that's perfectly fine, I read romance novels, I roleplay, I cosplay... I love fantasy. But our love is in the real ... more
I don't think it's so much a case that men are oblivious or clueless, it's that they're not mind-readers. Neither are women for that matter. C'mon, girl, practice being more vocal. You're never going to get what you want if you stay quiet and hope you're being obvious when in reality you're probably not. And I'm not trying to be mean, either. I'm just very straight-forward in my advice and I luffs ya.
12/09/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I'm not sure it's a man-thing -- some people are oblivious and some aren't, and the passage of time changes when you're on the computer. Sometimes when I'm gaming I'll think it's only been a few minutes, and then I notice it's been six hours. With your time together being so limited, you really need to speak up sooner rather than later. Sorry some of your time got wasted. Hopefully the rest of the trip will be more fun now that you've talked.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
What ^^she^^ said.

Boys are CLUE.LESS. to the facial expression, the crying, the sighing, the little ways that women express a big emotion. They aren't mind readers. If he gets up to go do something: Pause the movie, Tell him "I ... more
Nope, no we are not! We just ignore them
12/09/2010
Contributor: GeekWife GeekWife
There is a reason they nicknamed WoW "World of WarCrack".

I've been a gamer widow several times, and usually it doesn't register that I'm annoyed with it unless I say something. Glad you took initiative and made him realize what's up! I hope the rest of your visit together is filled with lots of fun for the BOTH of you!
12/09/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I played Warcraft, once; played for one month. I decided that I'd get to level 40, and I did that on day 29, and decided I was done. I loved it, but it just made me want to spend too much time playing.

If your partner doesn't understand that what he's doing bothers you, you can't be upset WHEN it bothers you. That being said, if your partner is showing signs of addiction (is he having trouble completing tasks at home? Does he forget to eat or do laundry because he's so busy playing? Is he losing track of time playing, saying he's just going to play for an hour and six hours later he isn't sure what happened?) then maybe it's time for a more serious conversation.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by ScottA
I'm a bit concerned about "And he told me about how he feels so much better in the fantasy world". Is he running away from something that he needs to deal with? Is he suffering from low-grade depression?
Nah, he is a "geek" and was teased alot. Still sometimes deals with people. So, in this game he's not himself. Which I get... it's like roleplay.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by gone77
I don't think it's so much a case that men are oblivious or clueless, it's that they're not mind-readers. Neither are women for that matter. C'mon, girl, practice being more vocal. You're never going to get what you want if ... more
You're right. I'd be so pissed if he could read my mind too!
12/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Nope, no we are not! We just ignore them
So if you're saying men get it... they're just... ignoring it... that's not.. very nice?
12/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I played Warcraft, once; played for one month. I decided that I'd get to level 40, and I did that on day 29, and decided I was done. I loved it, but it just made me want to spend too much time playing.

If your partner doesn't ... more
Ahhh nah, he's not that far.
He works six days a week, 8 hours a day. Showers twice a day.
And loves to sleep.

He isn't so bad, he won't go to the bathroom or something.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
I'm not sure it's a man-thing -- some people are oblivious and some aren't, and the passage of time changes when you're on the computer. Sometimes when I'm gaming I'll think it's only been a few minutes, and then I notice ... more
We cuddled and such. He took me to lunch and we ate and saw a movie also. He's taking a nap. But we got some movies on Netflix ready. And I'm making dinner.

I just need to be more open.
I am smart, lovely and amazing. And he knows it.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Before ditching this guy, as some have suggested, you've got to just lay it all out there and give his a chance to get the point. He may make changes. He may not. I would go from there.
12/16/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Kindred
Or just start giving him oral on his next raid. That will get his attention. (Isn't there a name for that?)
"raid-head"
12/16/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by gone77
I don't think it's so much a case that men are oblivious or clueless, it's that they're not mind-readers. Neither are women for that matter. C'mon, girl, practice being more vocal. You're never going to get what you want if ... more
Thank you!
12/16/2010
Contributor: Shumway Shumway
Sounds like your BF needs one of those addiction support groups.

My wife and I do so much together that I've pretty much sworn off all video games except the occasional wii game. There just isn't the time for them
12/16/2010
Contributor: married with children married with children
i have never played WOW. but if your boyfriend is putting it before you, when you flew in to spend time with him. It might be time to end the relationship.
01/08/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I dated a guy who blew off a blow job because he didn't want me to disconnect his wires. His priority was WoW and when I was sick about two years ago, when we were together, he would instant message me from the bedroom to ask me if I was alright. We lived in an apartment. He was literally 30 feet away from me in our bedroom. He would do that, when I was well, to go get him food and he only got off the game to go work out or go to work.

If he can't make time for you and he only sees you for a little bit at a time, screw it. If you come second to a video game, that's absolute bullcrap.
01/08/2011
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Illusional
So if you're saying men get it... they're just... ignoring it... that's not.. very nice?
Ah, I am sorry, that comment from me was just a stupid smart ass remark, an attempt on my part to be funny, I am sorry.
01/08/2011
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
Cyber Nations is my bane : /
01/08/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
And there's the problem - females and males are too different a lot of the time.
What's important to us, just simply isn't to them.

That's half the reason why I'm not sure I want anything serious with a guy. They frustrate me - relationship wise.

Don't have a problem at all with guys as friends - in fact I get on better with male friends than female friends.
01/09/2011