We try to take time to appreciate each other daily. We don't take each other for granted and we're careful to be respectful with each other. We don't tell each other that their ideas are stupid, even if we don't agree with them, we try to see each other's side but then explain ours as well. Just that makes me so much happier with him because I know that he respects me, and he knows I respect him.

He'll make dinner for me, and breakfast for me on our days off. He actually cooks far more often than I do.

We always say I love you when getting off the phone and we always kiss each other good bye even if we're just running to the corner store for a soda.

There's chores that we each hate doing, so over the years we've kind of both taken over things that the other hates, or things that we don't feel the other does as well. For example he says I don't load the dishwasher effectively, so rather than argue about it he just does it. I don't like the way he does laundry because he never folds it, so rather than argue about it..I do the laundry. Simple things like this resolve a lot of tension and it's still "fair" since he does the dishes and I do the laundry..they're both things that need to be done daily and we both like things done OUR way, so we just do it. Even though that might seem mundane, it's important to me because it shows how we've learned to work with each other seemlessly and avoid conflict with each other. We work at home and so we're with each other 24/7. Learning how to be with each other ALL the time takes a lot of work because you don't really get a break from each other and so you have to be conscious of how your actions affect the other at all times. less

We write each other notes daily. We don't live together but I make him lunch for work and he comes over in the morning to spend a little time with me and get his lunch and he always leaves a little note somewhere in my truck for me so I see it when I leave for work, and I put a note in his lunch. He also goes to my apartment before I get home from work and takes out my garbage and recycling so that I don't have to go back outside once I'm home. less

I think not taking each other for granted is such a good tip. No, not a "tip" I think it's the foundation of a lasting relationship.

I saw something on an other site about the benefits of being monogamous, and I didn't agree with all of them. One of them (it was directed at women) promoted the idea that you didn't have to worry about your appearance anymore. I completely disagree. For years, I DID take his attraction to me for granted. (He thinks I'm hot with few reservations, which is really nice.) But, after a while, I realized I wanted to take better care of myself, for him, and also, as I get older, I didn't like the fact that in some situations I felt invisible, especially to younger men. But, it's mostly for him that I try to take care of myself. I dress sexy for him, I put on make up (which he says he doesn't care about, but thinks I'm not feeling well if I don't have any on ) I have realized that this is important to us, as we are a really physical couple (we also relate intellectually and emotionally of course) and as men are visual, I take the time to do what turns him on.

I also, like you (and many others) let him know I appreciate him all the time. That he supports our family, that he loves me, that he tells me I look good, or smell good, or other things.

It has got to be difficult sometimes, if you two are together all the time. Sometimes I sigh with relief when he leaves for work on Monday, after a long weekend even more. I LOVE him totally, but he's an intense man. I get a lot of that "Hey, what are you doing?" ALL the time. If he isn't working on something, he's wandering around the house looking for me. So, I admire your ability to keep things good, when you two are both home all the time. I'm sure it's a challenge AND a pleasure. Sometimes, when he leaves for work after a long weekend, I'm almost in tears, especially if we had a really nice time together when he was home.

Thanks, Alicia.

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We write each other notes daily. We don't live together but I make him lunch for work and he comes over in the morning to spend a little time with me and get his lunch and he always leaves a little note somewhere in my truck for me so I see it when I leave for work, and I put a note in his lunch. He also goes to my apartment before I get home from work and takes out my garbage and recycling so that I don't have to go back outside once I'm home. less

At first it was a bit rough working together, I have to admit. We actually shared the bedroom as our office back then. It just got too much, having him always around..having to listen to him while he works (he manages a team of people and part of that is being a "cheerleader" for them of sorts and the overdone enthusiasm would get on my nerves sometimes..and he's REALLY loud) and being around each other IN THE SAME ROOM all the time was just too much. Now he works upstairs and I work downstairs and it puts a little buffer between us.

And yea, I think that the people who fully let themselves go because they don't "have to impress anyone" are the people who find themselves in the end not attracted to their partner or not having an active sex life anymore..because both partners have just stopped caring and that's just not sexy. We go to the gym together, I do my makeup (he says he doesn't care if I wear makeup or not but he seems more attracted to me if I wear it and I feel more attractive in it..so who knows maybe he does like it or maybe he can just sense that I feel sexier in it so my attitude changes) and try to do my hair at least SOMEWHAT, and we try not to look like complete slobs LOL less

I like to hear about people's relationships. I've asked questions about "playing" and like that.

Now, I want to know, what "sweet things" do you do for your partner or does s/he do for you? Just little things are fine.

I like to kiss My Man after we've made love and he's asleep. He always responds by kissing me back, sometimes he grabs me. I also will take care of his penis, if he has gotten sore (he had a yeast infection that turned bacterial a while back and gets sore from time to time) by putting hydrocortisone on it, after he has fallen asleep. I like to make his plate at dinner, and make his lunch for the next day.

He does things like bring me water (I drink about a gallon or more of water a day, so I always need some) I just love it when he walks by and places his hand on the small of my back. It's just so intimate, and nobody knows. He brings me little candy bars and will bring me an ice pack when I have a migraine. He also puts air in my tires and gas in my car, without being asked. It sounds dumb, bu I really appreciate it. I HATE pumping gas. Sometimes he even hands me the remote and says "Put on whatever you want." sometimes even during Sports. *Gasp*

What do you and your Significant Other do for each other to keep things sweet? less

We end every electronic conversation (not face to face) with a truly sincere "I love you" because it may be the last thing that we hear from the other if something ever happened to one of us (this is significant since I had a near-death experience with her present). I send her hand writtien letters for no particular reason. I buy her little gifts (<$25) that I think she will like for no particular reason. Give her a foot rub when she is laying on the couch with her legs on my lap. Always open her car door for her to get into and out of the car. Soap her back in the shower. Apply her body lotion to her skin after most showers. Those are some of them... less

I like to hear about people's relationships. I've asked questions about "playing" and like that.

Now, I want to know, what "sweet things" do you do for your partner or does s/he do for you? Just little things are fine.

I like to kiss My Man after we've made love and he's asleep. He always responds by kissing me back, sometimes he grabs me. I also will take care of his penis, if he has gotten sore (he had a yeast infection that turned bacterial a while back and gets sore from time to time) by putting hydrocortisone on it, after he has fallen asleep. I like to make his plate at dinner, and make his lunch for the next day.

He does things like bring me water (I drink about a gallon or more of water a day, so I always need some) I just love it when he walks by and places his hand on the small of my back. It's just so intimate, and nobody knows. He brings me little candy bars and will bring me an ice pack when I have a migraine. He also puts air in my tires and gas in my car, without being asked. It sounds dumb, bu I really appreciate it. I HATE pumping gas. Sometimes he even hands me the remote and says "Put on whatever you want." sometimes even during Sports. *Gasp*

What do you and your Significant Other do for each other to keep things sweet? less

I like to hear about people's relationships. I've asked questions about "playing" and like that.

Now, I want to know, what "sweet things" do you do for your partner or does s/he do for you? Just little things are fine.

I like to kiss My Man after we've made love and he's asleep. He always responds by kissing me back, sometimes he grabs me. I also will take care of his penis, if he has gotten sore (he had a yeast infection that turned bacterial a while back and gets sore from time to time) by putting hydrocortisone on it, after he has fallen asleep. I like to make his plate at dinner, and make his lunch for the next day.

He does things like bring me water (I drink about a gallon or more of water a day, so I always need some) I just love it when he walks by and places his hand on the small of my back. It's just so intimate, and nobody knows. He brings me little candy bars and will bring me an ice pack when I have a migraine. He also puts air in my tires and gas in my car, without being asked. It sounds dumb, bu I really appreciate it. I HATE pumping gas. Sometimes he even hands me the remote and says "Put on whatever you want." sometimes even during Sports. *Gasp*

What do you and your Significant Other do for each other to keep things sweet? less