What have your biggest obstacles been?

Trust and hurt. It's very difficult to put your trust in someone after they've lied to you, and it's even more difficult to heal when someone's emotionally hurt you. My husband tends to be a very angry person in general. He's been though a lot in his life and it's understandable, but it's been difficult to hear the negative things he's said to me, and still feel confident in our relationship. It takes time, it takes a load of forgiveness, and more patience than I can say. People aren't going to change overnight, so you can't expect change to be immediate. We're still figuring it all out. Some days are tougher than others, but we're working on it.

Having our son took a toll on our relationship. Finding a balance between the carefree days before our son and the responsibilities we had was hard for us. Our sex life took a major downswing and some trust was broken. It took a lot of hard work to learn to communicate in a healthy way and get back to a good place.

We did couples therapy for a while. It helped somewhat, but it really took both of us working on our own issues to sort things out. We decided our relationship was worth it and made the changes we needed to. We're always a work in progress. Sometimes we slip up and yell at each other. We get past it and try to do better next time.

The difference in our sex drives and sexual desires. It got to the point where I was crying almost on a nightly basis because I was so sexually frustrated. We worked through it and now have an open marriage. And now we both have friends with benefits and I feel even closer to him because of how much he cares about my needs and all the stuff we can tell each other

In any relationship, you just have to keep in touch with each other's feelings and work towards the other's happiness just as much as your own.

i have severe panic disorder and i'm agoraphobic, plus we're long distance. we make it work though