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Contributor: AwesomeAmanda AwesomeAmanda
What is most important for making your long term relationship work?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Common Interests
14  (44%)
Sexual Compatibility
18  (56%)
Attractive/ Show peice
Total votes: 32
Poll is closed
09/26/2012
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Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Sexual compatibility, I honestly feel if you have little to no chemistry in the bedroom, it reflects on your relationship, and whether or not you'll become bored with one another in the long run.
09/26/2012
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I believe if you can't have good sex and are not comfy with each other everything else just becomes awkward.
09/26/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by AwesomeAmanda
What is most important for making your long term relationship work?
I think common interests and (sexual) compatibility are important but common interests will be there when sex won't, I think.
09/26/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I think sexual compatibility is huge and does inform a lot of what the rest of the relationship will be like. Intimacy is important, and can be the difference between friends and lovers. Common interests are also important, though I think common values and world views are probably even more important.
09/26/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
This is one of the many 'either - or' questions that are pretty meaningless. Life is a continuum not an event. Likewise characteristics do not exist in a vacuum.

Sure shared interests are vital - but without sexual compatibility, it's probably not enough. Life is complex and nuanced - not easily captured by such a vapid question.
09/27/2012
Contributor: LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
Shared interests aren't that important. We don't like that many of the same things, but our personalities just click really well. If you work that well with someone and you communicate well, you're bound to have fantastic sexual chemistry.
09/27/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
yup, gotta have the sex!
09/27/2012
Contributor: SadoMas SadoMas
both
09/29/2012
Contributor: Passion plum Passion plum
I think both.
09/29/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by AwesomeAmanda
What is most important for making your long term relationship work?
Common interests, and a great sexual chemistry
09/30/2012
Contributor: pyratess pyratess
both common interests and sexual compatibility, definitely. being attracted to each other is important too (but not like being each other's 'show piece')
10/01/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by sXeVegan90
Sexual compatibility, I honestly feel if you have little to no chemistry in the bedroom, it reflects on your relationship, and whether or not you'll become bored with one another in the long run.
I completely agree.
10/08/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by AwesomeAmanda
What is most important for making your long term relationship work?
common interests but really if i wasnt attracted to him, he'd just be my friend and not be in a relationship with just similar interests
10/08/2012
Contributor: sexfairy sexfairy
Both are important but I'd say that sexual compatibility is first, since it is the only thing I'm not gonna do with friends. I can always go hike with friends even if my men doesn't like hiking. But if it doesn't work in bed, what can I do? I experienced this before and I found no way out despite my tries, we had to break up.
10/08/2012
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
If you aren't compatible in sex, then what's the point of the relationship beyond being just friends?
10/08/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
None of those. I think mutual respect and appreciation for each other is most important. Without that, it won't matter what common interesets you have, how great sex is, or how attractive someone is.
10/08/2012
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
I think common interests are pretty important or else what will you connect over? Talk about? Be passionate together about?
01/25/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
Common intrest are more important to me and my relationship, especially since currently i only see my partner for a limited amount of time, and while sex is important part of our intimate relationship, communication is much more. i've had relationships where my partner and i had little common intrest and it was miserable. i'd rather have meaningful conversations and go out and enjoy the same things as my partner than have a sexually charged relationship.
01/26/2013
Contributor: KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
a little bit of each. we wouldnt work if all we had were common sexual interests. But of course i am attracted to him. The sex is great. and we have so many things in common. he is my best friend..
01/27/2013
Contributor: falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by AwesomeAmanda
What is most important for making your long term relationship work?
common interests.
01/27/2013
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
Sexual, because I find I'm more attracted to people with different interests than me.
01/28/2013