Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would read otherwise.
What is the ONE thing that you do for your own happiness that your partner has small or big issues with?
07/01/2012
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Mostly the same here. Neither of my guys likes to go to bed alone but sometimes I just need a few quiet hours to think, write or do things for me. It is getting to be a smaller issue as time passes and we work out our differences, though.
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Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would
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Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would read otherwise.
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07/01/2012
I have a makeup collection as large (if not larger) than my toy collection. I really enjoy playing with all the colors and doing my makeup differently each day. It takes me about two and a half hours to get ready in the morning between my shower, makeup, and hair. I do it because I enjoy it and it makes me feel pretty. It drives my husband CRAZY. If he wants to do something and I'm not ready, he's in my bathroom every fifteen minutes going "you ready yet?" and "you don't even have your makeup on! What are you doing in there?!" My solution has been to wake up earlier than him and get ready so it doesn't inconvenience him as much, so now he bitches less about it. He still thinks it's ridiculous how much time I spend getting ready.
07/01/2012
I don't have anyone currently but like Kira I've had guys complain at how long it takes me to get ready to go somewhere. I always have to shower and do my makeup and it takes me awhile.
07/01/2012
My ex-husband had a problem with my need to write smut about me and other guys.
Well, he wasn't doing anything about the celibacy ...
Well, he wasn't doing anything about the celibacy ...
07/01/2012
My husband was raised in a family who "valued" physical labor and devalued intelectual work. It's gotten better, but he did NOT understand my need to read regularly. He didn't know anyone who used a library (which is bullshit, because one of his cousins is a librarian) or read anything that they "didn't have to." He complains that he has to read technical manuals at work all day and "can't" read for pleasure (aside from the "articles" in Playboy or sports magazines.)
I think it's combination of his having ADHD and being raised with a resentment of intellectuals (Oh, did his parents have a field day with the fact that I had and continued my education when I married him. Women are made to clean houses, I guess.)
It's still a problem a little, but he realizes it's a huge part of my personality and I NEED to read to stay sane. I also don't worship silly "busy work" like his family does. If something needs to be done, that's one thing, but they would make things up that didn't need to be done, just so they could talk about "how hard I work." Such bullshit, time spent doing things that didn't make a difference when they could have been improving their minds.
His father didn't even finish High School and had a brother who was completely illiterate. THAT I don't understand. My father was a college professor and I was raised to value thought and the written word.
I think it's combination of his having ADHD and being raised with a resentment of intellectuals (Oh, did his parents have a field day with the fact that I had and continued my education when I married him. Women are made to clean houses, I guess.)
It's still a problem a little, but he realizes it's a huge part of my personality and I NEED to read to stay sane. I also don't worship silly "busy work" like his family does. If something needs to be done, that's one thing, but they would make things up that didn't need to be done, just so they could talk about "how hard I work." Such bullshit, time spent doing things that didn't make a difference when they could have been improving their minds.
His father didn't even finish High School and had a brother who was completely illiterate. THAT I don't understand. My father was a college professor and I was raised to value thought and the written word.
07/01/2012
I like to read for a while before going to bed. It will sometimes be hard for him to fall asleep with my bedside lamp on but mostly he doesn't really have a problem with it.
07/01/2012
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I'd have to say the same thing. He goes earlier than I do lots of time and if I am into something on here, I might not be ready.
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js250
Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would
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Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would read otherwise.
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The only other thing is when I talk about the girls I work with. They are big time backstabbers but I try to be friendly and get along with them. If I say something about them, he will growl about how mean they are and he wishes I wouldn't have anything to do with them. I try to get along just to stay out of trouble!
07/01/2012
Smoking
07/01/2012
There isn't anything that he has an issue with that I do for myself, but I have my bad habits. I think the ONLY time he's ever said anything to me is if I have a bowl of cereal late at night and I forget to empty the rest of the milk out, he gets upset if it sits overnight (mind you, it does look gross and I don't blame him) but other than that, he never minds what I actually DO.
Luckily, I'm a boring person and the only thing I do for fun is get on the computer and watch TV but he is gaming while I do so so it works out!
Luckily, I'm a boring person and the only thing I do for fun is get on the computer and watch TV but he is gaming while I do so so it works out!
07/01/2012
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I know its bad,but letting my 2 yr old. sleep in bed with me! but he has slept with me since he came home from the hospital and shortly after his father past away from cancer so im all he has and he is my security.I just started trying to transition him into his bed..well since I met my bf.I understand his logic on it that we cant live together and sleep in the same bed if my son sleeps with me too! But its a security thing for me..having my lil baby by my side..knowing hes okay! Ive gotten better about not doing it but when my bf isnt around I still let him sleep with me.At first i blamed it on my son needing comfort but in actual reality..its MY comfort knowing hes close and safe by his mommy!
Originally posted by
js250
Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would
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Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would read otherwise.
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07/01/2012
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Partying or going out occasionally.
Originally posted by
js250
Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would
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Mine is the evenings spent on my computer. After he goes to bed, if I am not ready yet, I will get on the computer and either play memory games, come here to EF or work on my website. He thinks it is taking time away from him--it isn't I would read otherwise.
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12/26/2012
Honestly I can't think of anything except maybe sometimes when I drink he doesn't like it because sometimes I get sad if something was bothering me earlier.
He likes all the things I do that make me happy and doesn't complain unless he thinks they are destructive. He encourages me to do them or is happy when I do them.
He likes all the things I do that make me happy and doesn't complain unless he thinks they are destructive. He encourages me to do them or is happy when I do them.
12/31/2012
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