What would you do????

What would you do????

poetprincess poetprincess
I have talked to my boyfriend and after what happened last night I decided we needed a break. And sadly instead of just explaining himself he agreed. I was over at his place last night. He live with his mom. Separate part of the house and all that. And I used to joke that if he was ever going to cheat he would clean his room. It was always a mess he lives like a freaking teenager. So I was stunned last night when I went over there and it was spotless. the bed made the floor swept the laundry put away. I joked about it and he said " Eh it was my day off and I knew after we ate dinner at your house you would want to come here to chill" Ok I can understand that it had been a very long time since i had seen the room that clean. he had even scrubbed out his bathroom.
So we have our own little routine when we chill at his place. He always sits in the recliner and I always sit on the bed. well last night he made a big deal about wanting to sit on the bed with me then he was like opps I missed some trash when i cleaned and jumped up and picked something up off the floor then he jammed it under some papers in his trash can. I was a lil confused but oh well. then a lil while later he was in the bathroom and I spilled some of my drink so i used my paper towel to wipe it up and then went to throw it away. as i was leaning down under the desk to the trash can, his mom walks in flips on the light to say goodnight and scared the shit out of me causing me to tip the trash can over. well my first thought was " crap i spilled the trash on his clean carpet," but as i was picking it up a note fell out of the stuff he crumbled and it said " your cute" with little hearts around it. I was dumbfounded. I ended up with the note in my purse cause i was just standing there starring at it when he came out of the bathroom so i jammed it in my purse and acted like i was looking for my phone.
Then a lil while later, Yeah i know I should have left but I didn't. I was in his bathroom and I had to blow my nose and when i threw the tissue away there was a tampon rolled in toilet paper laying on top of the trash. yeah i know it sounds gross but i was stunned again and i picked up the toilet paper the tampon looked clean and the tissue was damp so it hadn't been there to long, so I asked him and he freaked out and was yelling that he has not idea what I was talking about then he tried to blame it on his kid who has not been at his house in over a week and in the 4 years I have known him none of his daughter use the bathroom. I got pissed and left, we chated later online but it kept coming out the same, he kept saying he was sorry but he does not know how it got there or who wrote the note, even when I said something about how clean his room was. Im stressed and frustrated and feel like i just wasted 4 years of my life. we didn't break up but we took a break and we are going to talk on Friday. But I wonder if i should even bother with that..
01/10/2012
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Ghost Ghost
Um... the "I don't know how it got there" excuse has been used by men (and women) since the dawn of time. I'm not sure why people think it will suddenly become believable, but what can you do? If you were in a monogamous relationship and had clear expectations that you were to remain monogamous, I'd dump him.

To be honest, he doesn't really sound like a real "winner", anyway.
01/10/2012
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Ghost
Um... the "I don't know how it got there" excuse has been used by men (and women) since the dawn of time. I'm not sure why people think it will suddenly become believable, but what can you do? If you were in a monogamous ...
I dont believe him in any way and I am thinking thats whats going to happen, I told him we will talk on friday but I dont even think I want to wait till then.
01/10/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
It sounds super shifty, but I would at least try to get the real story out of him. Make it a comfortable environment and don't go into it mad. Talk to him with lots of "I" phrases like "I would really like to know the truth, no matter how hurtful"

I personally would dump him
01/10/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Sorry you're going through a rough patch!

Yeah, lots of strange things going on...Good luck!
01/10/2012
EnChAnTiNg EnChAnTiNg
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Originally posted by poetprincess
I have talked to my boyfriend and after what happened last night I decided we needed a break. And sadly instead of just explaining himself he agreed. I was over at his place last night. He live with his mom. Separate part of the house and all that. ...
The story does sound a little crazy, but I too would try to talk to him and see if you can get a better understanding to what happened, and how the stuff ended up there. I am sorry you have to deal with this, but always remember that it what doesn't break you always makes you stronger!
01/10/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Damn sorry to hear that. Girl I don't know what I would do if I was your but good luck with whatever you choose. I am not going to put my two cents in because it will not be good. Everything just sounds to fishy for me.
01/10/2012
js250 js250
Wow! I am very sorry you are going through this right now, but it sure does not look good on his end. Go with your gut feeling, however, talk it out for closure or to to work it out. It is your decision, but I could not trust him after a situation like you described.
01/10/2012
Tangerine Tangerine
I sucks to have that feeling where you are suspecting and could be right or your suspecting and could be wrong (bc you dont have soild proof). I would want to discuss it and get the truth. If I feel good about it I stay. (NOT LIKELY) If I feel after this has happened I would always be questioning, and suspecting and If I think it would turn my behavior into this "crazy chic" I'd say the trust is gone, its been nice but I gotta go. Good Luck
01/12/2012
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