Why AREN'T you getting it on?

it happens to all of us at some point. you go from a fairly regular schedule of love making to some random dry spell. what's the cause behind yours?

here's a column with an awesome flowchart on relationship dry spells: link less

it happens to all of us at some point. you go from a fairly regular schedule of love making to some random dry spell. what's the cause behind yours?

here's a column with an awesome flowchart on relationship dry spells: link less

He's obsessed with virtual friends in a virtual reality. As a result, I feel ignored and less important than these people/activities.

He's depressed from being unemployed for over a year, and upset that he has gained a significant amount of weight in this time. His depression makes him act like a child, and lash out at me with things like, "Now that you're in school you're going to find some younger man and I will be pushed to the back of your mind".

I am in school 30 hours a week and work 40+ hours every week.

When we're physically near each other we might as well be 10 miles apart, as far as our "connection" goes. Often when I am at work or away from him, I desire to be intimate and close to him, until I get home and he doesn't leave his computer chair to even open the door or greet me.

Sorry for spouting off, going through a rough time obviously. less

it happens to all of us at some point. you go from a fairly regular schedule of love making to some random dry spell. what's the cause behind yours?

here's a column with an awesome flowchart on relationship dry spells: link less

AURGHGH! Major frustration. I'm not getting any tonight, and I should be because he passed out AGAIN, right in the middle. BEFORE I came. He wants to check out AFTER I come, and before he does, it's his loss. Before I get what I need, I get angry. I AM angry. Of course, I'd rather we BOTH finish. I think I'm being taken for granted. Too "available" maybe? Shit, I'm not going to play games. If I want it, I'm not going to play I don't want it. I can't play games.

I'm about to commit an act of either extreme unkindness, or indiscreet harm.

I shouldn't be posting in the pissy mood I'm in.

And, it wasn't like he said he wasn't in the mood. He STARTED it, then BOOM, out like a light, while he was going down.

I've talked to him about this shit, I've cried to him about this shit. I've been close to doing some damage.

I really should shut up now. I'm frigging horny, perfectly good man in my bed, and he's unconscious. The vibrator isn't going to do it tonight. I want it REAL.

People shouldn't start what they can't finish.

I'm too angry to even think.

He's a good man, but, shit. It's not the first time this has happened. I didn't fall asleep during sex when we had bitty babies and I was only sleeping an hour a night.

Never mind. I talk, he apologizes, it happens again. It's really beginning to suck, big time. And not in a GOOD way. It can be SO FUCKING GOOD, why would anyone want to fuck that up and risk losing it, the way he seems to be. I feel taken for granted. JEEZ, I'm pissed.

I'm going to shut the fuck up now. less

AURGHGH! Major frustration. I'm not getting any tonight, and I should be because he passed out AGAIN, right in the middle. BEFORE I came. He wants to check out AFTER I come, and before he does, it's his loss. Before I get what I need, I get angry. I AM angry. Of course, I'd rather we BOTH finish. I think I'm being taken for granted. Too "available" maybe? Shit, I'm not going to play games. If I want it, I'm not going to play I don't want it. I can't play games.

I'm about to commit an act of either extreme unkindness, or indiscreet harm.

I shouldn't be posting in the pissy mood I'm in.

And, it wasn't like he said he wasn't in the mood. He STARTED it, then BOOM, out like a light, while he was going down.

I've talked to him about this shit, I've cried to him about this shit. I've been close to doing some damage.

I really should shut up now. I'm frigging horny, perfectly good man in my bed, and he's unconscious. The vibrator isn't going to do it tonight. I want it REAL.

People shouldn't start what they can't finish.

I'm too angry to even think.

He's a good man, but, shit. It's not the first time this has happened. I didn't fall asleep during sex when we had bitty babies and I was only sleeping an hour a night.

Never mind. I talk, he apologizes, it happens again. It's really beginning to suck, big time. And not in a GOOD way. It can be SO FUCKING GOOD, why would anyone want to fuck that up and risk losing it, the way he seems to be. I feel taken for granted. JEEZ, I'm pissed.

I'm going to shut the fuck up now. less

He's obsessed with virtual friends in a virtual reality. As a result, I feel ignored and less important than these people/activities.

He's depressed from being unemployed for over a year, and upset that he has gained a significant amount of weight in this time. His depression makes him act like a child, and lash out at me with things like, "Now that you're in school you're going to find some younger man and I will be pushed to the back of your mind".

I am in school 30 hours a week and work 40+ hours every week.

When we're physically near each other we might as well be 10 miles apart, as far as our "connection" goes. Often when I am at work or away from him, I desire to be intimate and close to him, until I get home and he doesn't leave his computer chair to even open the door or greet me.

Sorry for spouting off, going through a rough time obviously. less