Why AREN'T you getting it on?

I feel your pain! My man is addicted to Wow. Extreme. Not that he wont get off of there or anything, he just prefers to spend his time on there. Not that he wont get off of there for sex, but I typically fall asleep because he waits until he's finished with his dungeon or raid or whatever. Bleh.
He's unemployed as well, (and I'm a full time student and use my left over grants plus his unemployment to pay the bills right now, but they'll both run out soon. I also do some contractor work online sometimes but that's spotty and more of an extra few bucks here and there and not considered a regular income.)

I feel your pain. less

- My jobs (working at home, 60+ hours a week)
- His job (45 hours a week, half hour commute each way)
- Five year old kid
- Four year old autistic kid


We try very hard to make time for each other at least twice a week, but sadly we haven't had nearly enough time for each other this summer! :/ less

Wow, I am hearing just the most awful things about WoW. My Man doesn't play video games (but I am a baseball widow in the summer and a football widow in the winter, but not badly enough to stop us from having sex. Just enough to stop conversation. )

This game, World of Warcraft is pretty engrossing, huh? I'm glad My Man never got into it.

He's been working, and painting the outbuildings (which requires me to hear every single detail of what he painted, how he painted it, how much paint he has left, how much the paint cost, the texture of the paint....and working on his wind power generator.

Sorry, ladies. I wish there was help for that. WoW over sex. Eech. less

it happens to all of us at some point. you go from a fairly regular schedule of love making to some random dry spell. what's the cause behind yours?

here's a column with an awesome flowchart on relationship dry spells: link less

I feel your pain! My man is addicted to Wow. Extreme. Not that he wont get off of there or anything, he just prefers to spend his time on there. Not that he wont get off of there for sex, but I typically fall asleep because he waits until he's finished with his dungeon or raid or whatever. Bleh.
He's unemployed as well, (and I'm a full time student and use my left over grants plus his unemployment to pay the bills right now, but they'll both run out soon. I also do some contractor work online sometimes but that's spotty and more of an extra few bucks here and there and not considered a regular income.)

I feel your pain. less

it happens to all of us at some point. you go from a fairly regular schedule of love making to some random dry spell. what's the cause behind yours?

here's a column with an awesome flowchart on relationship dry spells: link less

Well it's nice to know that I'm not alone!

As far as logging off for sex... Yeah. He'll step away for the 5 mins to get it over with and then get back to whatever he was doing and be just as grumpy, so it's not really worth going out of my way to do it. Bah!

And I definitely fall asleep before he is done on WoW. 99% of the time he is about to log out when "Oh someone is looking for a ____ to do _____ raid!" So then he gets all hyped up and doesn't come to bed 'till 5am.

The irony in all of this is that he hates the game. I have never seen someone get so angry and stressed at a video game that they choose to play and yet continue to play it for ~18hrs a day. less

Currently our dry spell is because life sucks.

I am living at home with my Catholic parents in order to save as much money as I can before my fiance and I get married. He moved in with his conservative older cousin in order to live closer to me. He was set to move out into his own townhouse a few weeks ago, but lost his job, so he had to back out of that move. Now he's too scared to do anything at his place because he doesn't want to get kicked out. We can't do anything here because my folks are retired and always around...and Catholic.

We could just get a hotel room every now and then, but to top it off my work schedule is crazy and it's hard to coordinate our schedules, and he doesn't want to spend much money because he is out of work.

The stress of him being out of work, and my job is just ridiculous and stressful, so even if we could find the time/place, we just don't have much interest anymore. And if we do, we are never in sync. He still masturbates, but I rarely do anymore, because it isn't even gratifying. Lately with all the stress going on, I don't even feel attractive. I feel like we probably won't get a chance to be intimate til our wedding night months and months from now (we still haven't even gotten a freaking date set! This wedding planning stuff is also stressing me out) and even then I feel like we'll be too tired from the whole day's worth of events we won't even be in the mood. Wedding planning seems to automatically kill the mood. Period. Anyone else ever felt like that? less

Yes. Planning my wedding, especially once the date got closer and I had to start really cranking and making things were getting done was a surefire way to get me in a really bad mood, and therefore, not interested in sex at all.

I'm sorry to hear about all of your stress. Is there a time ever that you and your fiance can just go do something romantic? There's lots of free or relatively cheap things like walks and picnics and stuff like that. I know it's not a replacement for sex, but it might be something that can help you both de-stress for a little while maybe. less

Our last date, I was on call for work, so de-stressing didn't happen right away. I've been on call or working overtime a lot lately. Good money, bad for stress. However, some people at work wanted to take my on-calls for me this schedule. That should at least make things a little easier.

I am planning (with the nice amount of overtime I've had lately) a special birthday extravaganza for him, that will help us relax a little. I'm thinking a couple's massage, dinner at a really nice restaurant, and maybe a movie or something.

The problem with walks and picnics right now is the crappy winter weather. Maybe in the spring, though! less