LOL I am 41...am I still young enough to be whooping it up? YAY!!! Naw I'm just committment-phobic despite being in a totally committed relationship/marriage for 25 years. So it never changes hun, it's an erroneous belief that will take time to undo. For instance my grandfather explained to me, quite seriously, that black people have bones that white people don't have! Not that their bones are different densities or something...well, sane, but completely different. He said autopsies proved it that there are bones in their skeletons that white people don't have. Then proceeded to show me a 1920s science book that actually LISTED these so called extra bones! In reality they were alternate latin names for the leg bones. Clearly this is ridiculous but the belief persisted through generations. Give it time and carve your own way, be proud of who and what you are and accept no compromise.
Tell then they are DAMN right you are too young to limit yourself when there's a whole buffet of life experiences for you to sample! Suggest they look a bit life anemic and wonder if they have a living disorder that makes them want to look so skeletal....then wander off smiling. less

NO.

Oh my god. I'm getting tired of that reaction when I tell people I'm poly. ;_; I suppose I'm open to the idea that one day I may switch over to monogamy, but it rubs me the wrong way that people think that this is a 'phase' or 'what young people do' rather than my choice lifestyle, that I want to stick with indefinitely -- perhaps forever.

Edit: Not to mention, I am settled down. I'm in a committed relationship and I'd like for any other relationships I find to be just as committed and serious.

Any thoughts from others on the matter? Thanks. less

Maybe you should turn the tables on those rude questioners. Ask them if monogamy is something they're going to get bored with eventually!

Personally, I couldn't just stick to one person for the rest of my life, even my very amazing boyfriend. Not when there are so many other yummy things to taste. I'm a college student, so it's not like anyone finds it at all surprising that I'm bisexual and polyamorous. They just call it "being a slutty college girl."

Slut-shaming will not work on me. I have no shame. less

I think people just like to put things they don't understand into a labeled box that makes sense to them. A lot of people in our generation were raised by parents who drummed into them that monogamy is the only real type of a serious relationship. Thinking that a person just wants to be free and have choices puts it into a box they can understand. less

Maybe you should turn the tables on those rude questioners. Ask them if monogamy is something they're going to get bored with eventually!

Personally, I couldn't just stick to one person for the rest of my life, even my very amazing boyfriend. Not when there are so many other yummy things to taste. I'm a college student, so it's not like anyone finds it at all surprising that I'm bisexual and polyamorous. They just call it "being a slutty college girl."

Slut-shaming will not work on me. I have no shame. less