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Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
So, I've been in a poly relationship for the last seven months, but there's a bit of it that makes me wonder.

My 'boyfriend' is married to my best friend. She has three or four partners, while he just has me. He has no interest in having anyone else but me.

However, he doesn't want to 'share' me. I suppose my question is, does this happen a lot in poly relationships, or should I be expecting the same rights as his wife in our relationship?
10/25/2015
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Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Mistress M.
So, I've been in a poly relationship for the last seven months, but there's a bit of it that makes me wonder.

My 'boyfriend' is married to my best friend. She has three or four partners, while he just has me. He has no interest ... more
Talk to him about it and see why he thinks you shouldn't have other partners when she clearly does. He may feel more possessive of you or be more interested in doing things with you than he is with her.
10/26/2015
Contributor: Obscura Obscura
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Originally posted by Mistress M.
So, I've been in a poly relationship for the last seven months, but there's a bit of it that makes me wonder.

My 'boyfriend' is married to my best friend. She has three or four partners, while he just has me. He has no interest ... more
Our SexIs magazine has quite a few publications on Poly relationships. I think you can find a lot of useful info there.
10/26/2015
Contributor: grrrldickz grrrldickz
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Originally posted by Mistress M.
So, I've been in a poly relationship for the last seven months, but there's a bit of it that makes me wonder.

My 'boyfriend' is married to my best friend. She has three or four partners, while he just has me. He has no interest ... more
Sometimes it happens. Poly arrangements where one person has seniority or veto power or whatever else definitely exist. You have to talk to him about what you're comfortable with. If that arrangement works for you, then that's great. If you want something else, let him know.
11/27/2015
Contributor: sexfairy sexfairy
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Originally posted by Mistress M.
So, I've been in a poly relationship for the last seven months, but there's a bit of it that makes me wonder.

My 'boyfriend' is married to my best friend. She has three or four partners, while he just has me. He has no interest ... more
I think the main question is to ask yourself what you want and what fulfills you personally and be totally honest about it. No matter what it is. If it works for both of you then great. If not then make a conscious choice. It would come to not working if you are not faithful to yourself or to your deeper truth.
07/10/2016