All break ups are hard, I don't think anyone suffers more or less when there is a break up, especially a particularly bad one. But I sometimes wonder if they aren't a bit harder in a poly relationship. It seems so much more complicated when you're also at least friendly with your partner's other partners. There is that much more temptation to ask people to take sides (something I try to avoid at all costs).

I think poly relationships just end up more entwined and it seems that much harder to separate everything when a poly relationship goes bad. Thoughts? less

I've only had one breakup since becoming poly, and I got nothing but support from my other partner. It just happened that my ex alienated her around the same time that we broke up.

Now I am in a triad. I didn't mean to be, but I fell for my metamour! Although I have a hard time imagining my partners breaking up, it's very difficult for me when they argue. I try hard not to take sides but I want to be supportive and listen if they need to vent. less