How close are your fantasies to your real life turn-ons?

Contributor: joja joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as appealing. Just wanted to see how common this was.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have/would act out 100% of my sexual fantasies
28  (16%)
There are a few that go too far, but I have/would do most of them
92  (54%)
About half and half
22  (13%)
I have/would only act out a few
14  (8%)
My fantasies are completely separate from my real sex life
14  (8%)
Total votes: 170
Poll is closed
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Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I have a few and some would be all the way and others not so much! LOL
07/20/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I would like to act out a few of my tamer fantasies - but my partner is not very adventurous and I have to respect that. She's done a lot of things that she never thought she would - and continues to be open. That works for me.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Luvasaurus Luvasaurus
I have acted out a lot of my fantasies, but there are a few that are waiting for the right person.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I don't really like to act out my fantasies, but we will talk about them during sex and I guess mentally act them out.
07/20/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
My fantasies are pretty much the exact same as what I would do in real life. Unfortunately, I have yet to experience any of them, but I hope to one day.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I honestly do not have fantasies, as I put it. I have fetishes, all things that I would or have done, that turn me on.
07/20/2010
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
I think it's very healthy to have totally unrealistic fantasies! I'm a big fan, and it's fun to explore in my head. There's plenty of stuff I have done in real life, but there are also plenty of things that are totally exciting but that I'd probably never do for any number of reasons.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
I fantasize about medical play and bondage scenarios, and this is what my owner and I do. My sex life IS my fantasy life. It's wonderful to be so open.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
I definitely agree. I have things that get me going when I think about them, but the few we've tried to play out just didn't work the same.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
I fantasized about my husband before we were married. I am lucky to have been able to snag him and we have a sex life very similar to what I dreamed it would be like. So I guess most of my fantasies have turned out to be real life experiences.
07/27/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I have only a few fantasies that I have not fulfilled, but even those have been acted out in some way.
07/27/2010
Contributor: PolyGirl PolyGirl
Except for the ones that require a holodeck, I'm pursuing them.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Sensual husband Sensual husband
Some fantasys are most likely kept fantasys but how do you know until you explore them.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
To me, fantasies are fantasy, they are not reality. I doubt I will ever make them reality, it would cause too much drama, emotional hurt, etc. I just don't need that in my life.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
My fantasy life is SO different from my real life.

Many of the things that turn me on in theory would do nothing but upset me if I were to actually do it.
07/27/2010
Contributor: richettie richettie
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
I have a few and some would be all the way and others not so much! LOL
how do i get my wife to open up and tell her fantasies
07/29/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
The main fantasy I have is double penetration, or a three-on-one gangbang. If given the opportunity with a trusted person (or persons, as the case may be), I would definitely go for it.
07/29/2010
Contributor: Hopeless Romantic Hopeless Romantic
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
I am a freak, lol I say yes, yes, & yes!
07/29/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
I've noticed lately that what I masturbate to is completely different to what turns me on during sex. I have many recurring fantasies that can get me unbelievably wet, but the thought of actually acting them out doesn't seem nearly as ... more
Same here as well. There are things that turn me on in my head that I do not want to do.
07/29/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Quote:
Originally posted by Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
The main fantasy I have is double penetration, or a three-on-one gangbang. If given the opportunity with a trusted person (or persons, as the case may be), I would definitely go for it.
I've had that before, as well as my bf (it being done to me) but I'm too afraid of the emotional hangups and drama it may cause.
08/09/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
There are some I'd love to do, but then they wouldn't be fantasies anymore, and I'm not sure if I'd like that or not.
08/09/2010
Contributor: David88 David88
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I would like to act out a few of my tamer fantasies - but my partner is not very adventurous and I have to respect that. She's done a lot of things that she never thought she would - and continues to be open. That works for me.
Yup same here. I can't pressure her into doing things I have fantasies of doing things and I hope they eventually come true but can't push too hard.
08/18/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I don't know that I'd go through with *every* single one of my fantasies, but I'd probably try most of them at least once.

Besides, fantasies are just realities that haven't yet been realized.
08/19/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I don't fantsize a lot but what really turns me on will probably never happen in real life but I feel ok with that.

A lot of my fantasies involve fictif characters in different worlds that don't exist, I create weird stories in my head.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I'd act them out but I just don't see myself in all of the situations to actually ever carry them out.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
I've acted out most of my fantasies on some level, with one partner or another. I've also noticed that my fantasies have changed as I've gotten older, so it wouldn't really interest me to act on some of them anymore.
09/11/2010
Contributor: PurpleBerry PurpleBerry
Very few....
09/13/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
A very few of mine would involve doing things to people that would be wrong.
09/20/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I'm kind of a prude in real life, but I've written some quite adventuresome fanfiction under a screen name which I will not share here. (The streams must not cross!) There are definitely things that are more interesting to think about in fiction than they'd ever be to actually experience, even setting aside the things that might not be physically possible, or legal, or safe, or for some other reason realistic.

It's like some of the positions in porn, which were invented purely because they provide a useful camera angle, and not because they're actually any more satisfying than the easier to accomplish and more comfortable positions that people will actually use in real life.
09/27/2010