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Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with another man.

The thought of having someone else in the bedroom appeals more to me for selfish reasons (as in my pleasure not his ).

What are your thoughts? Would you want to see your partner with someone else? Do they want to see you with someone else?
05/29/2012
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Contributor: Terry13 Terry13
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Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
I want to try out couple swapping too!
05/30/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
A lot of people do it - but its not for us. Too many complications. We haven't used a condom in 22 years - although that would have to change, the real impediments for us are emotional. It's a fantasy worth keeping unfulfilled.

Good luck with what ever the two of you decide.
05/30/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
He wants to see me with another woman.

It's just something we talked about, not done.
05/30/2012
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
Neither of us are good at sharing. For us, it would just add trouble. We have too much invested in our relationship to bring in that kind of risk.
05/30/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
He keeps saying that he'd love to see me with another girl, but I'm not sure that it's something I'd be totally comfortable with. While the idea isn't a complete turn-off for me (and I'd love to be able to give him the opportunity to see it happen), I'd be too worried that she'd be able to please me in a way that he couldn't, or that I'd enjoy it too much, and I honestly don't know what kind of mental/emotional damage that would do to him.

As far as me with another guy, we're both deadset against it. It's not something he would ever be able to consider, and I have no interest in it simply because at this point in my life, I don't feel the need to know what someone else's cock feels like.
05/30/2012
Contributor: TheCleansing TheCleansing
I wanted to see an ex with another man.

Not because I found it hot, but because I just didn't like her any more and wanted her to be out of my life.

Got my wish.
05/30/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
In a solid, healthy relationship this can be lots of fun.
05/30/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
You should see if there is a close place to you that has a club for swingers. That way you don't have to pick someone and he does not either. You guy's can enjoy your pleasure and not get attached to anyone. i am actually going to a swingers club with a friend of mine to check it out I have always wanted to go. There is other stuff to do besides what is behind closed doors at them. But even if you don't go to find someone to be with I am sure they have other things to do. I am glad I found this place right here where i Live at I knew they were out there just did not know where. If I am going as a single because my partner is out of state but I am going with a female friend of mines so we are comfortable and if you don't want to be touched you just tell the person no. When my partner comes I would like to go with him he knows I like and have been with women. But I am picky and I don't want someone close to me either. I hope he would go with me.
05/30/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
We've talked about my wife with another woman - purely as fantasy (mine, not hers). Neither of us want to be with another person, or see the other with someone else.
05/30/2012
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
It makes for some awesome "pillow talk". We got close once with a couple friend of ours, but they seemed to have some drama so we called it off. I think our relationship is solid, but they seemed to have a lot going on and we didn't want to get mixed up in it. I have no idea about any swingers clubs around here, but that could be fun.
06/01/2012
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
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Originally posted by lilgrump
It makes for some awesome "pillow talk". We got close once with a couple friend of ours, but they seemed to have some drama so we called it off. I think our relationship is solid, but they seemed to have a lot going on and we didn't ... more
I can completely see why you called it off. We've called it off with other people for drama reasons too. Mainly, not wanting to get caught up in theirs, because we're really happy in our own relationship. In other words: if you don't add to our joy, you're not invited in.

We definitely have played with other couples and with other people who weren't couples. We've done things with two or three other people, in group settings, and at play parties.

We both love sharing each other and having other people be a part of our sex life. It's really fun and rewarding, but I definitely think that finding the right person or people to invite in is not only worth the wait, but will save a lot of drama down the road.

Good luck!
06/01/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
The only person I want to see my wife with is me.
06/01/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
NO WAY!!
06/29/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
HELL NO I would freak the F*&% out if he was with someone else. But I can see why some people find it a turn on. If I didn't love my man, I would prob be okay with it. Not to say you don't love your hubby. It's just me and how I feel about it.
07/07/2012
Contributor: Ashley B Ashley B
Well, he's brought up having a 3 some with another girl but that's not something I'm completely okay with. As for myself, I have no desire to be with anyone else but him.
07/07/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm in a polyamorous triad, so I see both my partners with another person on occasion, and vice versa. It's great fun for all of us.
08/03/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
No I don't think I'd like either situations.
08/03/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
i know he'd love to see me with another woman but i'm not bi ..... i'm not interested in seeing him with anyone else tho! at all ! lol
08/03/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
NO WAY! We're not the sharing type!
08/03/2012
Contributor: Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
I really have no choice in her being with other people as she's poly.
I couldn't watch though- I would probably feel jealous
08/03/2012
Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
It is something the SO and I discuss quite often, each with same sex partner, but I dont see us pulling the trigger any time soon.
08/03/2012
Contributor: Ckflicks Ckflicks
Both my wife and I enjoy watching each other having sex with some one else. I love watching my busty wife getting fondled , played and fucked by another man. The slutty look on my wife's face turns me on. We have done it with a very friendly couple and even with my wife's sister and her BF
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01/16/2014
Contributor: Gofurther Gofurther
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Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
This is a long time fantasy of mine. I desire to watch another man perform oral sex on my wife while I video and photograph. When she becomes comfortable with that I would like to move on to watching her have full hardcore sex. I don't know why this turns me on so much but it does! We have never gone outside of our marriage and want to get out of out comfort zone and bring back some heat to our sex life. This would do it for me but not so much her, at least yet. So far wife isn't to receptive to the idea. Hoping she changes her mind.
02/04/2014
Contributor: konicaguy konicaguy
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Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
Not a chance.
02/10/2014
Contributor: Andykh Andykh
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Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
I have thought about having another male join my wife and I for her pleasure just not sure if she would go thru with it or not.
05/14/2014
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
No way, on either end. I think if you truly love your SO that person should be enough for you. My husband would never allow anyone to touch me nor would I allow anyone to touch him.
02/15/2015
Contributor: symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by lilgrump
My husband and I have never had anybody else join us in the bedroom (either with or without each other) but we love to talk about it.

He wants to see me with another girl (and I'm totally bicurious), but he especially wants to see me with ... more
Ha! They want to see me with another man, but I could not stand to see my partner with someone else.
02/15/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I think this is a common fantasy. Just my opinion of course as Inq. says.
02/17/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Common fantasy for sure. But, then there's the reality after. I wouldn't cope well with the reality. Now....if I was more less single and wasn't truly invested in the person....whole different game completely
02/17/2015