How would you feel about having a transsexual lover?

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Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
I'm going to leave this private, but I'm interested in how far acceptance of transsexuality has come. How do you feel about having a transsexual lover?

I consider myself straight(ish). I only occasionally lust after a female, but there is a transwoman friend of mine who I would love to fuck, either now, or after she gets her surgery. And I would totally do Buck Angel in a heartbeat, even though he doesn't have a cock. So... poll time!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I wouldn't feel comfortable with it under any circumstances.
27
If they identified as my preferred gender, I'd consider it, no matter what their anatomy said.
20
If they had the anatomy of my preferred gender, I'd consider it, no matter how they presented.
13
They'd have to have both identify as my preferred gender and have the correct anatomy.
3
I am attracted to transsexuals because of their transsexuality rather than in spite of it.
11
I have had one or more transsexual lovers before.
9
I am transsexual.
6
Otherness!
20
Total votes: 109 (91 voters)
Poll is closed
09/03/2011
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I wouldn't say I'm attracted "because of" their transsexuality, but definitely in spite of it.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I've dated both post and pre-op transgendered individuals, and being bisexual myself, anatomy doesn't affect whether they need the anatomy to match the rest of the body, but I don't like to find out the wrong way that they are transgendered. If they are pre-op, it's nice to have that sort of information so I don't act on the "shock" of the situation at hand. That did happen once. My boyfriend didn't have some parts that matched but I was more turned off by the fact that he hadn't trusted me with that information, rather than the fact that he wasn't born a male.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
That makes sense, Peggi. I don't think I'd want to be surprised that way either.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Seriously depends.
There are some that look so damn real and are hot, I would be ok with it so long as I knew ahead of time.

If they look like Norm from Seinfield in pumps it kills any and all exceptence I could ever have.

I just hate the whole "I identify as a woman, therefor I AM a woman." Hey, you want to dress as a woman and lie to yourself that you are, that's all well and good, Knock yourself out. That's your right. But don't get mad because I refuse to except your lie, that's my right. I could walk around telling people I'm a bunny. But all the costumes and prostetics in the world will never make that a reality. That's just life.
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    I am personally offended by this
09/05/2011
Contributor: fabidefabi fabidefabi
We have actually discussed it.
09/05/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I don't have a 'preferred gender', I'm attracted to people. The 'packaging', so to say, is just an accessory to me and I'm comfortable with any parts any person I'm attracted to on the inside, might have. While I've never been presented with the opportunity to be with a pre- or post-op transsexual, if I were attracted to the person, their genitalia, and if it had been changed at any point, wouldn't make a difference to me one way or the other.
11/21/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I'm going to leave this private, but I'm interested in how far acceptance of transsexuality has come. How do you feel about having a transsexual lover?

I consider myself straight(ish). I only occasionally lust after a female, but there ... more
I would not feel comfortable.
11/23/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I don't have a 'preferred gender', I'm attracted to people. The 'packaging', so to say, is just an accessory to me and I'm comfortable with any parts any person I'm attracted to on the inside, might have. While ... more
This for me, as well.
11/27/2011
Contributor: starklover starklover
I love the spirit of the person but they need the right body parts for me to fuck
11/27/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I wouldn't feel comfortable.
11/27/2011
Contributor: BuckeyeGal04 BuckeyeGal04
It's not something I would consider personally.
11/27/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I'd be up for it if I was attracted to the partner.
11/27/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I'm going to leave this private, but I'm interested in how far acceptance of transsexuality has come. How do you feel about having a transsexual lover?

I consider myself straight(ish). I only occasionally lust after a female, but there ... more
I am straight in that I know I prefer men and even more specific taller and light eyed men BUT if I met a person I loved who also happened to be a transsexual person then I wouldn't be bothered about their lack of parts or whatever!
11/27/2011
Contributor: DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
Honestly I wouldn't really know unless they told me so I probably wouldn't be too bothered by it. Depending on how attractive, it might actually make me be more into them, in theory.
03/23/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
Personality weighs in heavier for me than a person's anatomy.
03/23/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I'm going to leave this private, but I'm interested in how far acceptance of transsexuality has come. How do you feel about having a transsexual lover?

I consider myself straight(ish). I only occasionally lust after a female, but there ... more
I'm straight and I wouldn't personally feel comfortable dating someone who was transexual.
03/24/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
is*
03/24/2012
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
If they had my preferred anatomy that I like in a lover, it wouldn't bother me at all.
03/27/2012
Contributor: Marcianpro Marcianpro
Never really thought about it, but prob if they had my prefered anatomy then I guess...
03/27/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
My partner is, I love her dearly!
Pre-, Non- or Post-Op doesn't matter I love the person she is, nothing else matters.
03/28/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I'm going to leave this private, but I'm interested in how far acceptance of transsexuality has come. How do you feel about having a transsexual lover?

I consider myself straight(ish). I only occasionally lust after a female, but there ... more
this is a tough question. i've never knew anyone with this type of gender, so i wouldn't really know how to feel about this one.
04/04/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
This thread is a perfect reminder as to why I don't feel comfortable taking a cisgender lover.
Little reminder to people who actually care about not being jerks: Transgender people are people too and we have feelings.
04/05/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
Well, for me acceptance of transsexuality is completely different from being attracted to trans people. I have definitely found trans people attractive. I'm attracted to female bodies regardless of gender identity, so a pre-op/no T FTM is fine, until he takes action to "become a man." And a MTF, even after a sex change, is still going to have a slightly mannish voice and narrow hips and etc.

So if you define transsexuality as FTM or MTF exclusively, I guess my answer is that I would not be comfortable, but because of attraction issues, not because of prejudice. I can see myself with a transgender person though.
04/05/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
its nothing personal and i have no problem with it i just wouldnt feeling comfortable dating a tansexual
04/06/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
Most likely no, just out of personal preference.
04/06/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
I am trans and would have no issue with a trans partner
04/23/2012
Contributor: joja joja
I am a straight woman, and I am very attracted to trans men.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
I'm going to leave this private, but I'm interested in how far acceptance of transsexuality has come. How do you feel about having a transsexual lover?

I consider myself straight(ish). I only occasionally lust after a female, but there ... more
Being straight, I can have a sexual relationship with any men who identify as male
05/06/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm pansexual, people of all physical sexes and gender identities can potentially be attractive to me. I'm also genderqueer, so I actually enjoy being with lovers who are also on the trans* spectrum because they're often more likely to be good at respecting my gender identity, too.
07/24/2012