I do things now that 18 years ago I was saying 'there's no way I would do that!!' I think a lot of that response was knee jerk reactions based upon society and my upbringing. Once I moved out of my folks house and spent some time figuring myself out I opened up a little. I met my first kinky partner a few years later, once I had started to think that there were some things really missing in my life, and it was like an explosion went off! I had tasted kink somewhere besides my imagination and there was no going back. I progressed at a moderate pace (with the occasional rapid burst )until I started dating the man who is now my husband. He was new to kink so we went slow initially, but it built up a lot of steam very quickly and shows up in our day to day lives. We are not a 24/7 couple, that's too rigid for us and with both of us being Switches we would feel something was missing, but kink shows up on a nearly day to day basis in our life in one form or another.

I have learned that limits change and that's okay as long as there's discussion and agreement. I've also come to know that if there is someone you trust implicitly and who accepts you fully for who you are you are comfortable experiencing things you previously hadn't even considered because you can let yourself go and just be in the moment, no worries. less