I wanna see how often people fake it
How often do you fake an orgasm with your partner?
07/19/2011
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I did with my ex to get him to stop doing oral. I've already explained to my current guy that I don't focus on trying to orgasm with a guy (as long as I have toys for myself). Having a partner focus on getting me to cum kills my drive...
07/19/2011
I'd much rather take the matter onto my own hands than fake it. I just don't like lying, and I'm a bad actress anyway.
07/19/2011
When you fake it, your partner gets the idea that he or she is doing things that work for you, when they don't.
I have probably faked a few times, (a LONG time ago) and it came back to bite me in the ass (not literally) because then the guy thought that technique worked for me, and then both of us were unhappy. I learned quickly that its better to be honest, and let him KNOW what works for me, what I don't care for, (or don't want just this one time) what I DO really like and he then learns what works to help me find my orgasm.
I don't believe in faking to save a partners' "feelings." They shouldn't get wrapped up in the idea of "making" someone else come anyway. Orgasm is a couples effort, not one person "making" an other come (unless you're using Forced Orgasm Play, in which it's even worse to fake it.) In most situations, the effort to bring one to orgasm should be shared.
Orgasm is an effort that both members of the partnership need to participate in, and letting your partner know what works and when will only help the relationship. If I don't like something, or something isn't' working in one particular session I say something about it. Then we can move on to something that works for both of us.
I think one loses by faking it. It won't kill your partner if he or she knows you didn't have an orgasm. Letting them know what will work is much better tactic to get what you need as well as being honest with your partner.
I have probably faked a few times, (a LONG time ago) and it came back to bite me in the ass (not literally) because then the guy thought that technique worked for me, and then both of us were unhappy. I learned quickly that its better to be honest, and let him KNOW what works for me, what I don't care for, (or don't want just this one time) what I DO really like and he then learns what works to help me find my orgasm.
I don't believe in faking to save a partners' "feelings." They shouldn't get wrapped up in the idea of "making" someone else come anyway. Orgasm is a couples effort, not one person "making" an other come (unless you're using Forced Orgasm Play, in which it's even worse to fake it.) In most situations, the effort to bring one to orgasm should be shared.
Orgasm is an effort that both members of the partnership need to participate in, and letting your partner know what works and when will only help the relationship. If I don't like something, or something isn't' working in one particular session I say something about it. Then we can move on to something that works for both of us.
I think one loses by faking it. It won't kill your partner if he or she knows you didn't have an orgasm. Letting them know what will work is much better tactic to get what you need as well as being honest with your partner.
07/19/2011
No never had to and wouldn't
07/19/2011
never
07/19/2011
never. faking is counter productive.
07/19/2011
I have in the past, but never with my current.
07/19/2011
I've never even considered doing this.
07/19/2011
Yeah, no. I've done it in the past but not in this relationship.
07/19/2011
It's one of the only rules we have in our relationship. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen, but faking only cheapens it when it does.
07/19/2011
I did a bit when we first started having sex, but now I finish every time so there's no need!
07/19/2011
I never thought I would answer this question with a yes. But as I get older it's hard for me to orgasm more than 1x per day. On those rare days when we have a chance for 2x in a day, I can get an erection and make sure my wife has an orgasm - I simply can't. So the answer reluctantly is - occasionally I do.
07/19/2011
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I've never faked it with my Master. I do admit though I used to with my ex husband and other other lovers though.
Originally posted by
haley730
I wanna see how often people fake it
07/19/2011
Very, *very* rarely and only if things are just going so badly I need it to stop. Usually I'm great about directing him so that we fix a problem, but on occasion there's isn't much to be done.
I think faking it is a terrible idea overall since it teaches them the wrong things about you, and ultimately will lead to more need to fake, lol
I think faking it is a terrible idea overall since it teaches them the wrong things about you, and ultimately will lead to more need to fake, lol
07/19/2011
I've never done it.
07/19/2011
Maybe when I was younger, but I see no point in it now. If it's working it's working, if it's not it's not.
07/19/2011
I've never faked with my man. He'd know. I'm very particular about what I need to get off and he knows if those needs are being met or not. To fake it would just be leading him astray and doing myself a disservice
07/20/2011
I've never faked an orgasm.
07/20/2011
Never.
07/20/2011
I never have & never would. Faking it would be hurting me more than it would him? If I faked it he'd be thinking I liked it and never know to do it differently. I don't fake it because it's decieving and I want us to be close enough to be honest. We don't ever really have any problems with our sex anyways. Sometimes I want faster and sometimes slower, I simply just tell him and he's always really happy when I do.
07/20/2011
I never have and I won't. I believe in letting a partner know if what they are doing isn't working or if I have too much on mind. I can't bring myself to deceive them in that way - especially when they put all the effort in. If they aren't doing the right thing to get ya off, there's a great chance they could continue with that routine and you risk not getting off in the future.
07/20/2011
We never fake orgasms, there's always a next time to make up for it!
07/20/2011
I don't have to fake anything. I can be honest with my partner and tell him I need a little extra push or a different position. Not much of a concern anyhow, the man is a powerhouse!
07/20/2011
never why reward bad behavior lol if something isn't working for me I speak up and on the very very rare occasion that I cant its no big deal there is always next time
07/20/2011
Never. I don't orgasm, at all, during sex, but if my partner wants me to fake it then they aren't really doing it for the right reasons. My boyfriend still always tries, and he can usually get me pretty close. (And I make lovely noises even when I don't orgasm, LOL.) I wish I could get there, I figure eventually I will .
07/20/2011
I've never faked an orgasm.
07/20/2011
I have faked in the past, but not often. I feel no need to fake with my husband. He understands that sometimes it's just not going to happen.
07/20/2011
I've never faked. My partner and I agree that it is better to not get off and improve next time than fake it and continue being mediocre.
07/20/2011
I didn't actually read the question correctly, haha I didn't mean to say that i fake it every once in a while. I don't think I ever do, I just don't orgasm and we stop.
07/24/2011