Is this normal??? i'd like your opinion
I have NO fantasies
02/07/2012
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I guess it depends on what you call a "fantasy".
I think what one is will vary by person. The way I think of it, I don't really have any, just realistic ideas.
I don't know if it's the norm, but it seems healthy enough to me.
I think what one is will vary by person. The way I think of it, I don't really have any, just realistic ideas.
I don't know if it's the norm, but it seems healthy enough to me.
02/07/2012
I don't have any neither, I'm too logical for that.
02/07/2012
i love the bottom option, lol, something will come to you eventually, don't stress it.
02/07/2012
I have Eden Fantasies
02/07/2012
If you have a satisfying sex life and are able to have orgasms with no trouble, I wouldn't worry about it. Most people fantasize, but some don't. It's only a problem if you aren't being sexually satisfied and you aren't having orgasms.
I, myself, cannot orgasm without fantasies, but that's how my Love Map works. If yours works and works well without fantasy, then don't worry about it.
If you are having problems with orgasm or arousal, then perhaps you may want to look into how you become aroused and orgasm and look into new things.
I, myself, cannot orgasm without fantasies, but that's how my Love Map works. If yours works and works well without fantasy, then don't worry about it.
If you are having problems with orgasm or arousal, then perhaps you may want to look into how you become aroused and orgasm and look into new things.
02/07/2012
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it.
02/07/2012
I really dont either aside from things in those love movies like outside during a massive rainstorm or something like that. Nothing kinky or unrealistic for me.
02/07/2012
Chirple is right, it completely depends on what you mean by "fantasy." Some people fantasize about being tied up, or raped by tentacles, or that they're a business man/woman doing whatever. That's not always the case, and not having something specific in mind is perfectly normal.
However I voted "You must have one" because I always thought everyone wanted a little something out of their sex life they've not done yet, even if it's just trying a new position. That could be a fantasy of sorts in and of itself.
However I voted "You must have one" because I always thought everyone wanted a little something out of their sex life they've not done yet, even if it's just trying a new position. That could be a fantasy of sorts in and of itself.
02/07/2012
If you mean that while you are masturbating, you just think about the feelings and what is going on instead of picturing and imagining sexy things, that IS normal, but it is not a very efficient way to have satisfying orgasms for most people.
Until the past few months, I didn't used to have fantasies either. It seemed like something I 'just didn't do' because it was not spontaneously happening. My partner knew I had trouble reaching orgasm and suggested I think of something sexy or imagine a fantasy scenario while I masturbated, and it worked amazingly well!!
I would have to put conscious effort into purposely thinking about something sexual, but once I got into the fantasy it would just come naturally. Now a few months later it is a habit, and I highly recommend trying it a few times, as it can be very helpful.
Don't know what to think about? Well is there any person (real or character) you always wanted to have sex with? Or maybe a scene you saw in a movie or porn that you would want to interact? Just think of that and see how it goes
Until the past few months, I didn't used to have fantasies either. It seemed like something I 'just didn't do' because it was not spontaneously happening. My partner knew I had trouble reaching orgasm and suggested I think of something sexy or imagine a fantasy scenario while I masturbated, and it worked amazingly well!!
I would have to put conscious effort into purposely thinking about something sexual, but once I got into the fantasy it would just come naturally. Now a few months later it is a habit, and I highly recommend trying it a few times, as it can be very helpful.
Don't know what to think about? Well is there any person (real or character) you always wanted to have sex with? Or maybe a scene you saw in a movie or porn that you would want to interact? Just think of that and see how it goes
02/07/2012
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theres nothing wrong with that when you have one ull have one dont stress
Originally posted by
SexyRayne
Is this normal??? i'd like your opinion
02/07/2012
Try phrasing it a different way---
"What turns you on?"
Do you have an answer for that question?
As far as I'm concerned, if you know your turn-ons, you have what people dub 'fantasies.'---they're just not all painstakingly sculpted-out or anything. But that's cool, whatever is working for you is good! But don't get caught up thinking that "fantasies" are something magic or different---it's just a different way of describing turn-ons, for some people.
"What turns you on?"
Do you have an answer for that question?
As far as I'm concerned, if you know your turn-ons, you have what people dub 'fantasies.'---they're just not all painstakingly sculpted-out or anything. But that's cool, whatever is working for you is good! But don't get caught up thinking that "fantasies" are something magic or different---it's just a different way of describing turn-ons, for some people.
02/08/2012
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I have to agree in part. It may also depend on whether or not a fantasy originates in a dream or while you are conscious. While I am awake, I sometimes fantasize when I see a beautiful woman (I am quite visual); if that is defined as "thoughts", well, I would call that having a fantasy. In other circumstances, I may have a fantasy in my dreams which may be a result of a recent acted-out experience. Whatever the definition, I think if you experience a mind-originating sexual moment and see it as a story, I would call it a fantasy! So, if you do not experience a fantasy, that is not unusual.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ... more
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ... more
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it. less
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it. less
02/08/2012
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I echo the Chilipepper
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ... more
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ... more
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it. less
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it. less
02/08/2012
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i dont ethier
Originally posted by
SexyRayne
Is this normal??? i'd like your opinion
02/08/2012
I don't either, unless you count Misha Collins. Mmmm.
02/10/2012
I didn't either, for the longest time. Not even sure if what I have going now would be called fantasies, or just things I want to do to my wife.
02/11/2012
I dont really have fantasies, exactly. I would say that anything on my to-try list could count though
02/11/2012
I agree on the to try list and there are short lived fantasies of a duration of a few seconds while you figure out what to do.
02/11/2012
Every person is different. I'd be interested to know how you're defining a "fantasy" though.
02/11/2012
It's not a problem. Normal. You might get one at some point or not.
02/11/2012
I don't think it's a problem.
02/11/2012
So long as it's not causing you any kind of stress or hindering your sexuality in any way, I'd say you're perfectly fine.
02/12/2012
I don't really have fantasies either....just want to please my man!
02/15/2012
My wife is the same way. She never thinks about sex, no fantasies, no daydreams, no imagination.
05/10/2012
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Mine are basically just thoughts and ideas like you described and I've never thought of it as abnormal. I don't have the patience for anything long and detailed.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ... more
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ... more
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it. less
I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.
At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it. less
05/10/2012
Some people have lots, others have none - anything goes!
05/10/2012
Everyones brain works differently. This means your normal is different from my normal. Its just how your mind works
05/10/2012
I don't particularly have fantasies either just things that I wouldn't mind doing.When I masturbate I don't really fantasize either and I didn't think that was normal but,it must be.
05/10/2012
I love reading them but I don't usually create my own - not against it just haven't gone there - and I don't think that they have to be visual. I let my mind wander once when I was younger (and drunk) lept right over the boundaries- bad decision and I paid dearly. Now I just focus on sensation
05/10/2012
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