Just wondering your option on swingers
If your spouse/lover asked if you would go to a swingers club would you go? If yes would you actually do a swap with another couple or just watch others have sex and not participate?
03/20/2013
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I don't give a flying flip about what others do, but it is not for me.
03/20/2013
ok so here's the thing ... i like the idea of it ... i'm not sure if i would swap with another couple because i'm concerned about disease.
as far as emotional connections, i compartmentalize lol. my man however, doesn't. so there it is, i'm open to the idea but doubt it would happen.
as far as emotional connections, i compartmentalize lol. my man however, doesn't. so there it is, i'm open to the idea but doubt it would happen.
03/20/2013
We've been swinging for 10 years. It's not for everyone, we have seen couples break up over it. We've made great friends in and outside of the bedroom. For us it works. Not to say we do it all the time, every couple of months maybe.
03/20/2013
It's just not for me....
03/20/2013
We have gone to swingers and fetish parties and while I have played with women at parties in front of him, I can't see us doing a full partner swap with a couple.
03/20/2013
I simply can't seperate physical and emotional connections in a long-term relationship. I would never 'share' my fiance, nor would I ever want to be 'shared' with anyone else. I guess I'm an old fashioned traditionalist, but it's simply not for me. I take no issue with those who do enjoy it, though. Whatever makes you happy.
03/20/2013
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not for me
Originally posted by
BrittaniMaree
Just wondering your option on swingers
03/20/2013
We're monogamous so.... I wouldn't go. Even if he asked me to. He'd never ask me though....
03/20/2013
I'd go, but she would never ask. I went with my previous GF though.
03/20/2013
we just recently had this discussion and we would be interested in going to watch and have fun ourselves but no full swapping
03/20/2013
I actually do go to a swingers club without my partner due to him being in another state but he knows I go with a friend of mine. We go mainly for dancing and watching but have never engaged in the activities. I asked him to go with me and he said he will. We have talked about letting another women join in but that is about it. We shall see when the time comes. I enjoy it though because the place we go to makes you feel welcome and there is a bunch of stuff to do there it is a lovely club.
03/20/2013
I've already been asked by a couple that didn't appeal to me at all. I didn't go. if my lover asked me, I still wouldn't go. too much risk and just plain unappealing.
03/20/2013
Not for me. I'd be way too jealous to consider this. I also wouldn't be interested in sleeping with someone I didn't know well
03/20/2013
I would definitely NOT go.
03/20/2013
No swinging for us...ever!
03/20/2013
I dont see that happening.
03/20/2013
I don't think I'd go.
03/20/2013
No swinging for me!!
03/20/2013
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i am curious about these places. is there full blown sex and swinging go on everywhere? or is full on sex less common? forgive me for seeming ignorant. i would assume there is sex goin' on but i have never actually read or heard anyone describe experiences at a swingers club.
Originally posted by
PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I actually do go to a swingers club without my partner due to him being in another state but he knows I go with a friend of mine. We go mainly for dancing and watching but have never engaged in the activities. I asked him to go with me and he said he
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I actually do go to a swingers club without my partner due to him being in another state but he knows I go with a friend of mine. We go mainly for dancing and watching but have never engaged in the activities. I asked him to go with me and he said he will. We have talked about letting another women join in but that is about it. We shall see when the time comes. I enjoy it though because the place we go to makes you feel welcome and there is a bunch of stuff to do there it is a lovely club.
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03/20/2013
We've discussed this in the past, and once I even let my husband "play" with my BFF, but I'm way to jealous to make it a regular thing. I might go to watch and flirt, but I don't think I could handle much more than that going on. We tried, not my cup of tea.
03/20/2013
If I was with someone who I was not really emotionally attached to, yeah I could do it and not have an issue with swapping partners (as long as condoms were use, AND everyone was "clean" too) but I couldn't do it with my guy. On top of having slight possessive issues, our sex life in general is rocky to say the least, so I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing him.
03/20/2013
It would be fun but a fantasy only. Maybe some day.
03/20/2013
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No one is allowed to touch anyone or take part in anything unless the people invite them. Like I said a lot go to dance or go in the hot tubs or jacuzzi. There are mostly groups of people who will come from all over and they have their little click. It is bring your own booze so you can loosen up a little bit.
Originally posted by
Bubba29
i am curious about these places. is there full blown sex and swinging go on everywhere? or is full on sex less common? forgive me for seeming ignorant. i would assume there is sex goin' on but i have never actually read or heard anyone
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i am curious about these places. is there full blown sex and swinging go on everywhere? or is full on sex less common? forgive me for seeming ignorant. i would assume there is sex goin' on but i have never actually read or heard anyone describe experiences at a swingers club.
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What I like about the club too it is pretty pricy for couples and single men. Single ladies get a break. This is good because it keeps the people who think oh let me go in here and I can just screw anyone I want from coming in. They charge a lot. People do use protection. They have two floors in the club I go too one for VIP and one for none. There are different room settings. There are curtain codes as well if the curtain is open you can join in if it is closed then you can't. Same as the rooms with doors on them. The doors have little peep holes in them. You can always stand and watch which is fine. Like I said I have never participated but I have watched people engage. Every club is different and the one here in Ohio a lot of people come from all around each weekend to attend.
The club also keeps it fun with themes for each holiday. They also do Fetish Fridays and a party for Luscious ladies. I like to go for the themed parties a lot. Get all dressed up and dance the night away. They are open till 5 in the morning. I personally like it. Also like I said I would not do anything unless my boyfriend was there and it would probably only be with a women. That or just have people too watch.
03/20/2013
No thanks.
03/20/2013
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This is exactly how I feel.
Originally posted by
Haito
I simply can't seperate physical and emotional connections in a long-term relationship. I would never 'share' my fiance, nor would I ever want to be 'shared' with anyone else. I guess I'm an old fashioned traditionalist, but
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I simply can't seperate physical and emotional connections in a long-term relationship. I would never 'share' my fiance, nor would I ever want to be 'shared' with anyone else. I guess I'm an old fashioned traditionalist, but it's simply not for me. I take no issue with those who do enjoy it, though. Whatever makes you happy.
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03/20/2013
I wouldn't want to go OR watch and I'd be extremely pissed off and offended if EVER asked. That's not my thing, I don't share MY man.
03/21/2013
I answered other because my partner and I have already discussed this and he is not interested in it. We were sort of ambushed into a swingers party once and we didn't do a full swap. We only did what we were both comfortable with. After talking about it with my partner after that party we both decided that that lifestyle just isn't for us.
03/21/2013
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I agree, I couldn't do it. My husband doesn't like the idea so I know he'd never ask. If he ever did, I would be upset that he's even considering it.
Originally posted by
Zombirella
I wouldn't want to go OR watch and I'd be extremely pissed off and offended if EVER asked. That's not my thing, I don't share MY man.
03/21/2013
No I am not going to a swingers meet
03/21/2013
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