No, so long as it didn't include someone else, which are fanasies never have, so its not a problem.
Would you leave your partner if you considered one of their major sexual fantasies "weird"?
02/16/2012
Nothing wrong with fantasies. I have plenty of weird ones myself.
02/18/2012
it would depend on whether he would act on the fantasy without me.
02/19/2012
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no i wouldnt
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LavenderSkies
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02/19/2012
We'd compromise. Unless it was something truly out there, I mean REALLY out there for me to think twice about that person though.
02/22/2012
Depends...
02/22/2012
fantasies are exactly that - fantasies. enacting them is another separate topic. I would not leave my partner over a fantasy that I don't share with them.
02/22/2012
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Exactly.
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Naughty Student
I agree completely.
02/22/2012
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Fantasies are often just that and will never actually occur in real life so the wilder my SO's fantasies are the better I feel. It means that she's using her imagination to go beyond what is normal sometimes. I certainly wouldn't leave her over a fantasy, however weird it may be.
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LavenderSkies
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02/23/2012
Jees, it would be pretty harsh and judgmental of me to leave my partner if I thought his/ her fantasies were "weird." If, however, his/ her fantasies crossed some lines legally, or involved non-consensual abuse, that's an entirely different matter.
02/23/2012
I was actually faced with this a few months ago and though I was a bit nervous I did what he wanted.
02/23/2012
As long as its not illegal we'd work something out, but my hubby is too mild for that to happen.
02/23/2012
If there was a way to compromise it wouldn't be a problem, but if they needed something that I didn't want to do, then it would probably be a dealbreaker
02/23/2012
It really depends. I wouldn't leave him over it, especially since he's so willing to do whatever I want him to all the time. That wouldn't be fair, to put it simply. But if it were really weird ands something I didn;t feel comfortable doing, I'd say so and find a way to compromise. If there's no way to compromise for some reason, I'd pobably try it once for his sake and go from there. Maybe it'd end up being one of those Okay-but-only-because- it's-your-birthday kind of things!
02/23/2012
I am really flexible, but I know places where I just can't bend. Even if my partner was accepting of that, I would always feel that I'm leaving him unfulfilled and that he'd look elsewhere for it. Because of that, it would just skip the middle and go straight to the end.
02/24/2012
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I would at least give it a shot to please them, but if I really didn't enjoy it, I can't promise I would do it again.
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LavenderSkies
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03/05/2012
There's a lot of ground to cover in "weird" - if it's under safe, sane, and consentual (and legal) and doesn't involve inviting other people into our relationship I would at least try to work on it.
03/05/2012
I have a weird fantasy and so does my partner so we try and meet in the middle on them
03/05/2012
I've kind of had this experience, personally - I've been with my partner for almost six years, and about a year or two in they shared a really personal fetish/fantasy of theirs that they'd been struggling with accepting for a long time.
Before then, I'd categorized it as 'weird' automatically, but after talking it out and comparing it to my own kinks that I was just starting to accept, we found they actually mesh really well.
It's all about communication, and not so much setting limits or finding out 'what you can deal with' as understanding what each partner is willing and unwilling to do. If someone is uncomfortable and just doing it to be a martyr and keep the relationship going, then it's not going to work.
Before then, I'd categorized it as 'weird' automatically, but after talking it out and comparing it to my own kinks that I was just starting to accept, we found they actually mesh really well.
It's all about communication, and not so much setting limits or finding out 'what you can deal with' as understanding what each partner is willing and unwilling to do. If someone is uncomfortable and just doing it to be a martyr and keep the relationship going, then it's not going to work.
03/06/2012
Try anything you just might like it
03/06/2012
It depends. People with foot fetishes really creep me out, but if I liked a guy I could probably handle letting him give me a foot rub.
03/06/2012
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If it was something that was like pedophilia or something serious I wouldn't stay with them at all. Or anything serious like that at all, there is no way I would stay with him
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LavenderSkies
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05/22/2012
Unless it was something I'm strongly opposed to, we'd compromise
05/23/2012
I like actually being honest.Yes I would leave them.
05/23/2012
As long as it didn't involve children, animals, or feces, I'd probably do it with a smile.
05/27/2012
I would never judge based on a fantasy!! However, that does not mean that I would choose to live or fulfill in real life said fantasy. If a partner NEEDED to live out a fantasy that was really objectionable to me, that might be a problem.
05/27/2012
I wouldn't leave someone, and for the most part I'd try anything once if my partner really wanted to try it, but if it were a hard limit they would have to either accept that it wouldn't happen or find another partner.
07/26/2012
I wouldnt leave him/her I might try it out depending on how wierd it is.
07/27/2012