I am a Christian. I believe God gave my husband and I to each other for each others pleasure and companionship. I believe whatever we do sexually, within the confines of our marriage, is perfectly acceptable and blessed, kinky or not. The Bible has a lot to say in regards to "knowing" one's spouse. It even addresses oral sex. less

I definitely am a Christan, and I think it is important to separate what is clearly articulated in scripture from what is added on. Biblically we are pretty much commanded to enjoy our spouses sexually, and really the only limitations put on it is that we save the sexual relationship for our spouse and that we honor our spouse within the sexual relationship. This might mean putting off asking for something we know our partner is uncomfortable with, or trying to open ourselves to something that we may be a bit uncomfortable with that our partner is interested in. This changes depending on the individuals - P'gell is fine with spanking, but if your partner has been abused it's probably better to not go there.

Nowhere is oral or anal sex forbidden (there are hints of oral sex in the Song of Solomon), nor is general masturbation or toys addressed (and since they're not a recent invention it probably would have been addressed. You may need to be a bit careful of your thoughts while doing it so it doesn't become mental adultery). The "sex is nasty and acceptable for reproduction only" viewpoint really isn't Christian at all - it comes over from Greek thought and the Gnostic heresy.

There are some good resources out there that are from a sex-positive Christian viewpoint, such as the Christian Nymphos blog and the forum "The Marriage Bed". less

Awesome reply Scott! Thank you very much. I have been in seminary school and know the Bible pretty well. My feelings come out of concern about masturbation and whether or not it is ok in the first place. Some people preach that is a form of idolatry, but then again, the Bible never specifically talks about masturbation. less

I was raised Catholic, and although I don't really like what they have made up to scare people about sex, I do like what that Jewish Carpenter had to say! He was a smart guy and seemed to be a really nice guy.

I have my faith and I don't think it clashes with my sexual behavior. I don't belong to an organized religion, as My Man and I decided that we don't need to give someone a bunch of money to make us feel guilty about perfectly normal behaviors, just so they can have the upper hand.

I like JC, but I am not fond of organized religion.

I've read the Bible and it doesn't say anywhere "Thou shalt not please thyself or others with silicone, vibrating vessels." Nor does it say, "Thou shalt resist the urge to play a little spanky and handcuffy with thine lover. For it hath been an abomination unto You Know Who." Nor have I read, "Thou shalt not treat thine butt like a conception canal. Nor shalt thou derive pleasure from doing so to others." I haven''t seen any of those, so I'm OK. less

I am christian and I used to struggle with the concept of faith and sex. But I firmly believe that since I am with the man I love and we have a healthy relationship and love and care about each other, then it is perfectly fine to have sex and enjoy each other. I believe that God would want that. less

I definitely am a Christan, and I think it is important to separate what is clearly articulated in scripture from what is added on. Biblically we are pretty much commanded to enjoy our spouses sexually, and really the only limitations put on it is that we save the sexual relationship for our spouse and that we honor our spouse within the sexual relationship. This might mean putting off asking for something we know our partner is uncomfortable with, or trying to open ourselves to something that we may be a bit uncomfortable with that our partner is interested in. This changes depending on the individuals - P'gell is fine with spanking, but if your partner has been abused it's probably better to not go there.

Nowhere is oral or anal sex forbidden (there are hints of oral sex in the Song of Solomon), nor is general masturbation or toys addressed (and since they're not a recent invention it probably would have been addressed. You may need to be a bit careful of your thoughts while doing it so it doesn't become mental adultery). The "sex is nasty and acceptable for reproduction only" viewpoint really isn't Christian at all - it comes over from Greek thought and the Gnostic heresy.

There are some good resources out there that are from a sex-positive Christian viewpoint, such as the Christian Nymphos blog and the forum "The Marriage Bed". less

I am a Christian. I believe God gave my husband and I to each other for each others pleasure and companionship. I believe whatever we do sexually, within the confines of our marriage, is perfectly acceptable and blessed, kinky or not. The Bible has a lot to say in regards to "knowing" one's spouse. It even addresses oral sex. less

YES!!!!!!! I am a Christian! Since I am still a newlywed, I have NO idea still about what to do for sex. I'm still learning. My husband thinks it's funny that I go on here. I'm glad that he is a good sport. I wanted to know though if any of you think : Are sex toys bad in God's eyes? Like, since I am married, is it a sin to use them when I'm not with him or if he's away? I have really been struggling with that for a while. less

"This changes depending on the individuals - P'gell is fine with spanking, but if your partner has been abused it's probably better to not go there. "



Thank you so much for putting that up there. I have been struggling with that and my husband doesn't seem to understand. He knows that I have been assulted and those things, but he seems to think that it shoudn't matter since I am with him now and that he wouldn't hurt me like that. I just go with it even though I am not comfortable. That gives me a new look on it. Thank you! less

Your husband shouldn't expect you to accept impact play (an other word for "spanking" ) if you do not feel comfortable with it. Every person is different. I have had abuse in my past, too. I have dealt with it, and have moved on. Everyone is in a different place in their recovery, and where you are in your sexual development should be respected.



Sit down with your man and discuss WHY you feel so uncomfortable with this type of play. Let him know you DO trust him, but at the moment, impact play is just too close to your abuse for you to enjoy it.



Let him know this may change in the future (as we should always be working on ourselves as good humans, good partners and good sexual beings) but right now, it simply is too fresh and may harm you emotionally. He should understand that.



I found good therapy and self introspection helped me overcome a load of abuse issues. They are no longer leaning on my sexual self, nor my emotional self, but I did have to work to learn how to let this stuff go. Some of it was done with a therapist, much of it was done alone. Only you will know, once you try, what works for your recovery.



Peace and good luck and good love to you. less