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Contributor: WetJenn WetJenn
We have been looking for a straight male to have sex with me, while my husband watches and records it. He is not a cuck nor is he bisexual. We are having the hardest time finding some one to do it. You would think it would be easy giving away completely NSA sex, but they all want to meet me by myself, or have sex with him or are totally scary. lol.

Any suggestions as to where I can find someone?

Swing clubs are out cause this is our first time with someone else, and I am nervous enough without a huge group of people.
10/01/2011
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Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by WetJenn
We have been looking for a straight male to have sex with me, while my husband watches and records it. He is not a cuck nor is he bisexual. We are having the hardest time finding some one to do it. You would think it would be easy giving away ... more
Hi there WetJenn! I will tell you from personal experience that its very easy to find a guy who wants to do you... fairly easy to find a guy who wants to do you and will let you record it... and a total pain in the ass to find a guy who will do you, allow it to be recorded and allow your husband to watch.

That being said we have done this multiple times in our marriage with great success. First I am not a big fan of craigslist or the lifestyle sights for finding a guy for this... The only exception i will put out there is Ashley Madison - which would be free for you to make and post a profile through. The big this is be very clear what you are looking for, what would be involved and what roll you want your husband to play. I had a very nice hook up through this site and on my second playdate my husband drove us around while they guy and I got busy in the back of my suv -(Then we stopped and three-wayed in it) and then the guy drove us back to where we had picked him up at his office so my husband and I could do it on the ride back. And yes on our first playdate where I did him in his office he used my video camera to record it so my husband could watch it later - which might be another option.

Most of the people we have played with in this way were not from the lifestyle but guys who were hot - and who had a desire to get busy with me. I will also say that if you shoot for the 21 to about 25-28 year old age bracket they are much more open to go with this then the older guys unless the older guy is a swinger which would probably be best to avoid.

Military guys seem to be very much down with doing this - or at least that has been my experience several times (And they are in great shape and self confident enough to give you a really great time). The other place would be guys from your gym if you go to one - or casual acquaintance types that you have known for a while and flirt with.

Email me if you have any other questions and I can share some addition thoughts with you. Good luck! Be Safe and have an awesome wonderful time!!!

Again I would not go with craigs list - or any of the out of the back of a news paper adds - Be very selective on who you choose or you will just get a guy who goes for numbers and you don't want that. You want a guy who isn't a player and is really into wanting to play with you because the chemistry is there.


XOX CreamySweet
10/01/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I'm going to second Ashley Madison and Military guys. Have fun guys!
10/01/2011
Contributor: Angelica Angelica
Fetlife is another option or place to find people who would be open to such a senario!
10/01/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by Angelica
Fetlife is another option or place to find people who would be open to such a senario!
I am going to have to try fetlife. I have never been on that one. I have been on SLS. ( swing lifestyle) but typical issue... lots of guys who are there just to get numbers which isn't for me. I much prefer quality and a real guy to a big talker who doesnt measure up to his mouth. I once had a guy who I was talking to on SLS who I agreed to come meet for a soda and to talk. I showed up about ten minutes early and had to wait for him to usher his just before me back into her clothes and out. He didnt realize I saw her leave while still adjusting her skirt and trying to buckle her right shoe. He was like oh hi! Nice to meet ya! So... what will it take for us to get naked now? I said...well... snow in hell and probibly viagra for you and why does it smell like perfume in here? He tried to say it was an air wick candle... I said really? Rose scented huh... strange kinda like the girl who just left I was parked next to? I left and didnt speak to him again. I dont mind a guy who plays around...I just dont want one who needs a take a number sysyem like the DMV. If I had wanted another chick or a threesome that day I would have arranged it...wasnt into using her juices as our lube either.... lol

Military guys all the way... especially the early-mid 20's. The gym worked great for me! But same deal... look for one eho flirts a little with you and not one who hands out his number to everyone with their membership card
10/01/2011
Contributor: Mister CreamySweet Mister CreamySweet
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Originally posted by WetJenn
We have been looking for a straight male to have sex with me, while my husband watches and records it. He is not a cuck nor is he bisexual. We are having the hardest time finding some one to do it. You would think it would be easy giving away ... more
Hey WetJenn! Hey Baby (My wife)! I feel your pain Jenn. Most of the guys my wife plays with are guys who I happen to know or be friends with who have commented on how hot she is or who have flirted with her. She always dresses sexy and is very flirty on her own so I guess we sit back and see what reaction they give or how into it they seem to be. I agree with the military guy thing my wife and the other person put out. They are a lot more likely to be down with doing it and will have the self confidence to maybe have an audience. The SLS thing will work but so would standing in the middle of a bar and yelling at the top of your voice "My panties just fell off! Who want's to help?!) - I don't really recommend either. Unless its totally you find a guy you absolutely have in your mind that you have to fuck - I suggest you and your hubby both meet the prospective boytoy over coffee and see what he has to say. If hes not comfortable meeting both of you for non-sex he's not the right guy for the job. I say coffee because if he needs to be drunk to talk to you he is also not the guy you want - plus if your both sober it gives you a chance to get a real feel for him and not one clouded by alcohol.
10/07/2011