okay my sex life is starting to bore me idk what to do anymore. i like to have fun i like to be rough i like to have sex outside of my bedroom, im up for anything. my gf doesnt want to be to rough with me because she thinks shes going to hurt me and she isnt that type of person. she doesnt roll play she doesnt do anything. she doesnt even want to have sex that much, idk if its her age she is 43 and im 24 may be the differece, so i would like some help can you guys give me some ideas? also is there any pills or anything i can give her to get in the mood kinda like vigara for women! lol less

Before you start tossing little blue pills at her, I would sit down and talk. Is there a physical reason she doesn't want to have sex that often or to "get rough" as you put it? Is she opposed to what you're suggesting, or just extremely nervous since she's never tried it before, or tried it and had a bad experience? Does she realize that you're bored?

Communication, communication, communication… less

idk if she realizes that i bored, but she does take medicine and her meds make it hard for her to get off. she says she is broken no matter what she always has a really hard time. and shes never had a bad expeierce with roughness she just isnt into that i guess idk but i am really sick of if you want sex get the lotion rub my back then lay here so i can do you. i dont want it to feel like a job that she is having to have to have sex with me. and i think thats how she feels. im sick of missionary all the time and it is so frustrating. less

My first suggestion is to sit down and have a talk, and I don't mean when you're ready to have sex. When you both have a private moment and the time, i.e. one of you isn't running off to work or an appointment, sit down and talk with her about how you're feeling. Be honest, but don't look to lay blame. Discuss things you can do as a couple to improve your sex life.

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