How do you know how far to go when spicing up your relationship?

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How do you know how far to go when spicing up your relationship?

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Contributor: tami tami
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OK SO HOW DO YOU KNOW HOW FAR TO GO WHEN YOU ARE SPICING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
05/30/2012
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Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
I would say as far as you feel comfortable with. I have found myself doing things I thought were crazy or gross. And never in a million years thought i would try. but it has be a ton of fun now that i'm experimenting.
05/30/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Loriandhubby
I would say as far as you feel comfortable with. I have found myself doing things I thought were crazy or gross. And never in a million years thought i would try. but it has be a ton of fun now that i'm experimenting.
I agree...I think you just know how far you feel comfortable going at any time and it can change from time to time..and I too have done things I would have never dreamed I'd do!
05/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Up to the point of comfort. I have gone a little out of my comfort level and either really enjoyed the act or did not like it--which case we went back to our comfort zone. It is fun to experiment and try new things, but not to the point of anxiety.
05/31/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
What others said....as far as what suits your fancy. I have tried so many things since I became sexually active; some things I loved, some were just OK and some I will never do again. But it's fun to try.
05/31/2012
Contributor: tami tami
thank you everyone for the feed back..my comfort zone is important to me but i like to have fun.
06/02/2012
Contributor: Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by tami
OK SO HOW DO YOU KNOW HOW FAR TO GO WHEN YOU ARE SPICING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
We are just starting to add a little spice, but I say stay within the comfort zone of both parties. My husband is a LOT more "let do it" than I am, but he is willing to slow his excitement and let me ease into it. I am willing to move along, just at a slower pace. As long as you both are happy then keep adding.
06/04/2012
Contributor: Megan Jean Megan Jean
Communicate with your partner! See how far they feel comfortable going, and then just have fun experimenting!
06/04/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
I think it depends on the mood of both people, what is going on in your lives, and what you and your partner agree on. Communication is the key and keeping an open mind...knowing things can change up at any given time.
06/10/2012
Contributor: L&P3040 L&P3040
Just communicate with your partner. Let them know what you want to do and see what they say.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
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Originally posted by tami
OK SO HOW DO YOU KNOW HOW FAR TO GO WHEN YOU ARE SPICING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Keep open communication. When trying new things that is very important to remember so that it doesn't totally backfire.
06/16/2012
Contributor: sexyforhim sexyforhim
We went out of state to celebrate our 26th anniv and I got my right nipple pierced 9 months ago. Recently just pierced my left nipple. Certainly turns him on to see them under my clothes without a bra on. BTW these are the only piercings I have.
05/12/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by tami
OK SO HOW DO YOU KNOW HOW FAR TO GO WHEN YOU ARE SPICING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Oh yes. Nothing is off limits, so long as it is just between the two of us. Period. I just don't share, or "play well with others", and I know he wouldn't expect me to either. I don't know if he would be so opposed to the idea, but he has had friends who did "threesomes" and even group orgies and while the idea might turn him on, I know he understand the ensuing drama and consequences that occurred to all these peoples relationships (nothing good) was not anywhere worth the experience of adding that "thrill" to their sexual resume.
Thus, our limit is limitless...so long as it is he and me.
05/12/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Talena
Keep open communication. When trying new things that is very important to remember so that it doesn't totally backfire.
Communication is the key to everything, from knowing how NOT to anger someone to knowing how to fulfill their desires, without compromising your own. Talk, talk, talk and don't forget to laugh during the process!
05/12/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
I agree...I think you just know how far you feel comfortable going at any time and it can change from time to time..and I too have done things I would have never dreamed I'd do!
Hummm...sounds like an intriguing story there. What did you do that you "never dreamed you would do"? Please share your story. Give us some great ideas maybe?
05/12/2014