Does anybody have any issues with trying to get their partner more adventurous? My hubby was a virgin before me and we've been together for years and I'm... well... more experienced. He is reluctant to try anything new and I'm getting tired of the same old bump and grind. Have you experienced this before or are currently experiencing this? If so, how did/are you handling it? less

Communication is always key. If you haven't already, let him know how you feel and that you would like to try some new things. Suggest having a "his" and a "hers" night On his night, you will do what he enjoys doing. Then, on your night, (hope he's ready to buckle up!) You do some of the things you like or have been wanting to try.

You can also try playing a game. It might feel a little less awkward for him this way. Here's a link to a cute dice game that you can play around with. Customize it to fit the activities you would like to try link less

I'm sure you have tried to persuade him into being more adventurous many times.

Is he against reading or listening to you reading exotica or sexy stories ?

Porn is not real, but does give "motivation" and ideas. Do the two of you watch together ?

I'm sure there will be some gals with some answers for you. Either on your thread or even pm. less

Communication is always key. If you haven't already, let him know how you feel and that you would like to try some new things. Suggest having a "his" and a "hers" night On his night, you will do what he enjoys doing. Then, on your night, (hope he's ready to buckle up!) You do some of the things you like or have been wanting to try.

You can also try playing a game. It might feel a little less awkward for him this way. Here's a link to a cute dice game that you can play around with. Customize it to fit the activities you would like to try link less

Does anybody have any issues with trying to get their partner more adventurous? My hubby was a virgin before me and we've been together for years and I'm... well... more experienced. He is reluctant to try anything new and I'm getting tired of the same old bump and grind. Have you experienced this before or are currently experiencing this? If so, how did/are you handling it? less

It depends on what your thinking?
different positions, anal, spanking, hot wax, bondage/nipple clips, sex swings, threesomes MMF/MFF, DP(you) with a toy, sex in public/exhibitionism, Using a toy on him, choking, orgies?

Adventurous can mean alot of different things to different people. less

I'm not really trying to throw him completely into my fetishes that is for sure. I just would like some oral for me (I already give) and different positions. Missionary gets boring and isn't as stimulating as other positions. For him, that is adventurous. Trust me I know what real adventurousness is. less

"I'm not really trying to throw him completely into my fetishes that is for sure. I just would like some oral for me (I already give) and different positions."

I'm so sorry to hear that...I think that is completely unacceptable,not returning the pleasure... my girls have trouble getting me to stop(like my quote says). If

Sorry to hear that, I though you wanted extra spice(cajun, buffalo wings)...You're just trying to get some flavor at all, He sounds like (unseasoned tofu):-(

If you don't mind saying, how old are U/him and how long have you been married? He seems really old fashion as my buddy even in their 60's, do everything.

You can start "slow",
blind folds and feathers
whipped cream,chocolate strawberries
candle lite bubble bath for 2
can you just jump on top? be in control
would he try, using a toy on you
does he at least manually stimulate you
could U/ have U,masturbated in front of each other as foreplay?

I hope you find something to get his wheels turning... I think once you find that first thing..other possibilities will open up. good lucky less

The funny thing is that we are in our early twenties with two kids. We've been together for three years; married for two. He says me on top hurts (the one time I tried). He doesn't really play with me manually and no he finds the masturbation thing weird. He has only masturbated three times in his life... all of which happened in his last deployment. He really does seem old-fashioned. less

Update: I attempted the game idea and it was a flop. I even gave him some "coupons" and now he is using them as a negative thing. "Sorry you didn't use a coupon so no." "You have to use a coupon to get that." I told him it was meant to be something to be sexy and spicy. He just responded by laughing at me... My husband is going to drive me crazy. less

Does anybody have any issues with trying to get their partner more adventurous? My hubby was a virgin before me and we've been together for years and I'm... well... more experienced. He is reluctant to try anything new and I'm getting tired of the same old bump and grind. Have you experienced this before or are currently experiencing this? If so, how did/are you handling it? less