After an incident in the bar, my husband realized that it was a turn on for him to watch me flirt with/hit on other men. We've decided that we might take this a step further, and actually plan these sorts of things. We are going to go to the same bar, and he is just going to sit across the bar from me, and watch me. This has of course, led to conversations about how far we would take things... threesomes with another guy (we've already had them with other women), him watching me have sex with someone else, etc. but we aren't sure how far we would be comfortable taking things.

Have any of you done anything like this? Do you have any tips, or ideas? less

Done it a few times and it's really a fun way to spice things up plus get a lot of free drinks lol. Would suggest if you are going to do the take a guy home thing that it be a guy you both know and agree on far before the night of the event. Just set it up for him to be one of the guys that shows up and flirts with you that night while your hubby watches. Until you are both totally on the same page on the other guy thing - its easy to say "Oh I am totally cool" until the first time it happens when you know for sure if you are or not - for it to be with someone your comfy with and if it turns out to cancel out won't be a total dick about it. We do this sometimes but the play rule for us is both have to agree on the third - or the other guy if I am going to solo it - and if either say no then its a done deal no go- same rule for hubby but he never takes me up on the fmf or take home a girl thing for himself. less