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Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
I just had a quick question for all of you. It seems most of you are open minded, but I wanted to ask. I tell my husband all the time - if I were smaller, i would totally be a stripper. He says, "thats hot". How many of you have partners that would be as open to the idea? Or would YOU be open to the idea of your partner stripping?

I am going to make this private voting - not sure how everyone feels about airing this out. And you can choose as many options as you need to.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes - its his/her body, he/she can do what makes him/her happy
33
I would not mind at all if he/she decided too.
17
I am not sure, it would depend on his/her reasoning.
41
I would not be OK.
21
Depends on how stable our relationship is at the moment.
19
Absolutely not.
44
Other - please explain.
15
Total votes: 190 (135 voters)
Poll is closed
02/23/2011
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Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I'd laugh! That's quite an aspiration for a 54 year old balding man.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Gallowraven Gallowraven
The only part that would get in the way of the idea, is being overprotective of each other. on all the other fronts, neither of us would care. since most strip clubs have a strict policy on NOT touching the strippers.
02/23/2011
Contributor: CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I would be concerned because that would be completely not like my wife. My wife is the ultra conservative professional that has always done the "right thing." So if she broke that out on me I would be very shocked to say the least. But if one of my past girlfriends would have done that to me back in the day than I would have probably gone with it. But those things normally don't end well. Its not so much the stripping, its the drug scene that goes with it. I couldn't deal with my girl being all drugged up. Thats just not sexy to me, but what ever does it for other people is ok, just don't bring it around me.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
My guy would not want this for me.

He has issues with me sharing my secret self to the world. The sanctity of our bedroom life remains a secret, which is fine. But sometimes, I wish he would trust me more, and be less judgmental about my involvment with the EF community.

He isn't involved with EF and I am pretty happy about that, bcs if he know half the stuff I share he would hate me forever. Honestly though, I only share bcs it feels good to be validated, or to tell soemone else they are not alone.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
Interesting! @NuMe - that would be quite the thing to view! LOL

Looks like the votes so far are either or. No clear cut "winner". I hope more people vote : )
02/23/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I'd want to know why. I don't think he would since he is extremely private, especially about that kind of thing. I would support him but if he was wanting to strip because he was lacking some kind of validation of his self worth or appreciation, I would want to know what else I/we could do to change that.

And he'd support me privately stripping in the bedroom but nowhere else and I'm totally ok with that!
02/23/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
I certainly would not feel comfortable with him making such a decision without talking to me first. Thankfully, he has no ambition to become a stripper as far as I know. What goes on in the bedroom (stripping included) is for our eyes only.
02/23/2011
Contributor: hive83 hive83
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Jenn
I just had a quick question for all of you. It seems most of you are open minded, but I wanted to ask. I tell my husband all the time - if I were smaller, i would totally be a stripper. He says, "thats hot". How many of you have partners ... more
As we are both in our sixties I would just say good luck & have fun.
02/23/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I would have to say no way.
02/23/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I'd be down with it... and the $$!
02/25/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It doesn't fit her psyche or mine, so thankfully it's not an issue I'll ever face.
02/25/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
My boyfriend actually told me that he would have no problem with me being a stripper. He says he would be totally fine as long as he's the one I come home to. I don't think I could ever actually do it.
02/25/2011
Contributor: Dame Demi Dame Demi
Quote:
Originally posted by removedacnt
I'd laugh! That's quite an aspiration for a 54 year old balding man.
I second the "laugh" answer (referring to my ex, because I don't have a current partner.

I think he would have thought it was hot if I did it--he announced that I review sex toys online, quite proudly, to his family and friends. He would probably have been concerned for my safety, and about drugs and stalkers, though.

Personally, I'd do it quite happily just for the paycheck, especially since I'm now on my own; that is, if I believed ANYONE not seriously deranged or on the sex-offender registry would actually PAY to see me take my clothes off. When people try to sneak a peek at my ass when I'm out at a club or something, I just think "If they're going out of the way to glimpse my 38-year-old fat ass, they obviously need the a thrill more than I need my privacy. "
02/27/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
I would be ok with trusting him. I would not be ok with anyone trying to touch him. :-/
02/27/2011
Contributor: sbon sbon
It depends on a lot of factors. What the reasoning is and how stable our relationship is are probably the two most important, but at the end of the day it's their body and they can do whatever they want with it.
02/27/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
As long as he was coming home to me, I'd be fine with it.
02/27/2011
Contributor: kitsuneyouko5 kitsuneyouko5
hmm be interesting to see a man who is a self proclaimed walking carpet up there stripping but hey if he wanted to I'd let him, and I'd be going to the shows sittin pretty wit a big ole grin on my face thinkin 'haha ladies n gents thats mine'
03/01/2011
Contributor: MontereyJak MontereyJak
My wife is on a weight loss/maintenance program and when she reaches her goal, we have talked about her trying out on amateur night to see if she likes it.
03/01/2011
Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
Yep... as anyone with weight issues would know... being self confident enough to strip would be such a big step in terms of self-esteem that I don't think I would want to hold my partner back from trying it.
03/09/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I'm not 100% sure, but I'd say that my guy would probably not be okay with me stripping.

Him stripping.. hm. I would definitely need to know his reasoning behind it, first off. Male strippers have a different connotation than female so it's not really an even comparison for each of us. I think I might be okay with it in the short term (if he had good reasons and we were stable in the relationship) but longterm would be no dice.
03/09/2011
Contributor: SerenityRed SerenityRed
I've mentioned it to my boyfriend before. I would want to do it because I love dancing like that but I don't really want to be stared at by creepers. He says he wouldn't let me do it and to be fair, I don't think I would let him. So we're even.

If it works for other people though, and they can understand it all, why not? It's an 'easy' source of money, and good exercise too!
03/16/2011
Contributor: Love&War Love&War
She's mentioned it before... It's great money and she's got a great body!
03/21/2011
Contributor: hjtee hjtee
I would REALLY wonder why he wanted to, but as long as it's a safe, clean establishment, then I wouldn't have a problem
03/27/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
If my husband ever said he was going to be a stripper I'd be on the floor laughing! It's just completely the opposite of his personality.
03/27/2011
Contributor: KrystalFayeO KrystalFayeO
I would laugh, I doubt he'd ever get hired anywhere, except maybe a gay club for men who like the bear type of man... I would say for him to go for it if that's what he wanted, but he doesn't even like to be naked that much around me, I can't imagine him getting naked for strangers
03/28/2011
Contributor: BadgersRose BadgersRose
My guy would think it was great as long as there was a no touching policy as I am all his.
04/05/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Heck no! N im sure he fells the same way. He spent his 20s keepin his dick away from strippers. Seems like all his friends but him worked at a strip club so he saw first hand all the crazy stuff that happens in those places
04/15/2011
Contributor: purplekidney purplekidney
She: Stripping for me is fine!

He: The major plus being what she said. I have a coworker whose wife is a stripper (not young either!); he's perfectly cool with it and they have a stable marriage and two newborns. One thing is that she brings home more in one weekend than I bring home in a two-week paycheck, and I'm not making bad money.

She: If I ever see strippers now, I'm gonna be thinking about whether or not the lady grinding all over a bunch of guys has kids or a partner. Eww.
04/15/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
My partner and I both believe that things like that should only be shared with the one you love, in private. There is a limit, and we have boundaries. I would never be a stripper or expose my parts to anyone besides him because that is what I want. He would never expect me to ever want to show my self to others. I don't need attention and people gawking at me in that way would never make me feel sexy or good at all. Now when my partner looks at me and thinks I'm hot, that's the best feeling ever, but I don't need to have that kind of attention from others just to feel good about myself. I respect my body way too much to let people see it all. It would take all the intimacy, "specialness" out of our relationship. I like knowing that he's the only man who ever sees me naked and he loves knowing that he's the only one that sees it. It takes a strong woman to be good enough and still keep it covered. I have too many younger people who look up to me strictly for those reasons and I'd never ruin that. I'd also never want my partner to be naked in front of others. I mean, I doubt he'd ever strip and it wouldn't kill me or anything if people were looking at him, but it's a matter of respect and I'm happy to know that my attention is all that he needs.
04/19/2011