My husband and I have been married for 51 years now, and for the most part things have been great. I haven't had many complaints, and we enjoy each other's company.
The only problem I have found is that he never wants to leave the house! We are both retired and live on a fixed income, so it isn't like I want to go out on a cruise or go on an expensive vacation, but a dinner at Burger King or going out dancing once in a while would be nice!
When money is involved he always says that we don't have the money for it and that is understandable. When our daughter offers to pay for it, he will just fall back on "what would you wanna do that for?" when I ask about dancing or going out and having fun.
He is a lot like his father was, the very antisocial type who doesn't like crowds. I try and find settings that will be fun for both of us, but honestly I feel like "fun" just isn't in his vocabulary!
Once, I wanted to go salsa dancing with him and he suggests I go by myself. When I asked who I would dance with he says that he's sure there will be other people there who don't have anyone to dance with!
It's very frustrating! Does anyone else have this issue, and if so, is there ANY solution? Or is it just a part of who he is and that will never change? I'm out of suggestions, but it's making me very depressed sitting around the house all of the time. I wish there was just a way I could convince him to go out and have fun! Once he's there, he always enjoys it, but GETTING him there is the challenge!
The only problem I have found is that he never wants to leave the house! We are both retired and live on a fixed income, so it isn't like I want to go out on a cruise or go on an expensive vacation, but a dinner at Burger King or going out dancing once in a while would be nice!
When money is involved he always says that we don't have the money for it and that is understandable. When our daughter offers to pay for it, he will just fall back on "what would you wanna do that for?" when I ask about dancing or going out and having fun.
He is a lot like his father was, the very antisocial type who doesn't like crowds. I try and find settings that will be fun for both of us, but honestly I feel like "fun" just isn't in his vocabulary!
Once, I wanted to go salsa dancing with him and he suggests I go by myself. When I asked who I would dance with he says that he's sure there will be other people there who don't have anyone to dance with!
It's very frustrating! Does anyone else have this issue, and if so, is there ANY solution? Or is it just a part of who he is and that will never change? I'm out of suggestions, but it's making me very depressed sitting around the house all of the time. I wish there was just a way I could convince him to go out and have fun! Once he's there, he always enjoys it, but GETTING him there is the challenge!
