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Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
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Originally posted by ButchJ
I have a 7 inch dildo that I used in a very erotic way on my wife. We got into the 69 position with her on top and I started licking and sucking a dildo getting nice and slippery then slid it into her vagina while I was licking her labia lips and ... more
Wow, it sounds so exciting! May I know what dildo you use on your wife? Is it a rigid or a more squishy one?
11/22/2017
Contributor: Lavour Lavour
Make sure you arouse your partner. Apply lubricant first and then you can try dildo, butt plug or other such sex toys.
12/21/2017
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
Quote:
Originally posted by ButchJ
I have a 7 inch dildo that I used in a very erotic way on my wife. We got into the 69 position with her on top and I started licking and sucking a dildo getting nice and slippery then slid it into her vagina while I was licking her labia lips and ... more
That sounds hot....done that with just fingers before, but a dildo or vibe would turn it up a notch for sure. Thanks for the idea.
12/23/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
How about hollow strapons? Can last a lot longer. And with some give her a larger size.
What do you women and men think about that? Too strange and unnatural?
03/22/2018
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
How about hollow strapons? Can last a lot longer. And with some give her a larger size.
What do you women and men think about that? Too strange and unnatural?
Not for us - I have a BD sheath to add girth, but my wife doesn't want more length, so we're good without the harness

Although we have tried a harness for DP with mixed results
03/22/2018
Contributor: Love hot lips Love hot lips
I thought I was the only one who was going through this phase, happy I found this site of information, I being implementing the same by using a soft dildo on my wife , I learn to make her cum first as many times as she can , you see I’m older then she is and care so much for her to be completely satisfied, married of 34 yrs , I’m 62 she’s 49 I have a little trouble at times getting a good hard on but manage to cum either soft or hard , so using a nice big size dildo works , but talk to her about it first, Key word here is communication , so go for it ! Not weird at all
06/03/2018
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
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Originally posted by Love hot lips
I thought I was the only one who was going through this phase, happy I found this site of information, I being implementing the same by using a soft dildo on my wife , I learn to make her cum first as many times as she can , you see I’m older then ... more
It's great when you are both open and ready to add new things to your sexual life What big dildos do you use?

My boyfriend loves to use the Mega dildo on me sometimes when we're both super horny.
06/06/2018
Contributor: Love hot lips Love hot lips
Quote:
Originally posted by Lena Eden
It's great when you are both open and ready to add new things to your sexual life What big dildos do you use?

My boyfriend loves to use the Mega dildo on me sometimes when we're both super horny. ... more
Hi Lena , we do lots of foreplay before using bandit , or mustang , or her favorite 7” super soft silicone from tantus , caressing , massaging her pussy by then she’s so hot , she’s enjoying the bandit, , hope this help , J
06/08/2018
Contributor: Taz Demann Taz Demann
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
As a man who was once in your position - I offer the following:

1. With my wife there was a progression from accepting clitoral vibes - to vibes that could be used for penetration - then to non-vibrating dildos. After experiencing the benefits ... more
You spoke my sentiments exactly!
09/08/2018
Contributor: Match5444 Match5444
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Originally posted by motorcycle rider
I am married and at times I end up cumming too fast and the wife is not done yet. We have a few toys but no dildos, so my question is what do you ladies think about a man buying a dildo, a softer realistic type, to use to finish her off with some ... more
Why thust try getting down there lick and taste what you left behind you might find you really enjoy licking your cum from her and help her have a good orgasm
09/08/2018
Contributor: Corvette Corvette
Great
09/15/2018
Contributor: Corvette Corvette
Great
09/15/2018
Contributor: bflwny bflwny
Quote:
Originally posted by motorcycle rider
I am married and at times I end up cumming too fast and the wife is not done yet. We have a few toys but no dildos, so my question is what do you ladies think about a man buying a dildo, a softer realistic type, to use to finish her off with some ... more
Im 58, my girlfriend is 56.
We have a decent sex life - although busy a lot....
I have known her for 2 years.
She has been through 2 HELL relationships and has 2 older girls and my wife passed 3 years ago.

I recently bought a quality small vibrator and a very nice lace lingerie for her. She is timid at times but we are in love and trusting. Sometimes she is very apprehensive about trying new "things" in our love making - I think fearful that this new boyfriend is going to get wierd and kinky....

I only want to please her. I dont think she has had an orgasim in years - and she has subtly noted it to me. She forgets what its like.

I want to introduce this vibrator to her/us but I dont want to offend her or disrespect her. I keep thinking.... "Just wait till foreply and sex and then politely suggest it...."
I dont know. I dont want to turn her off and I am sensitive to her feelings. Any thoughts as to how to introduce this new approach?

Just do it?

And I dont want to be sneaky about it and make her think I was planning some perverse adventure all along that she thinks I did with me wife years ago.
Its a tough one.

Yeah, it would turn me on much, but I just want to please her and let her experience something new and orgasmic - without offending.

Is that possible? ? !!

Thanks
10/02/2018
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by bflwny
Im 58, my girlfriend is 56.
We have a decent sex life - although busy a lot....
I have known her for 2 years.
She has been through 2 HELL relationships and has 2 older girls and my wife passed 3 years ago.

I recently bought a ... more
I am a bit older than you - and my wife a bit younger, but we're of the same generation. Sorry to hear about loosing your wife - it would be unbelievably difficult for me...

I agree with you it is very important that your GF learn to have orgasms - if my wife doesn't get multiples and frequently she can't even sleep through the night - it's my job security!

Since it's been so long, I would suggest giving her a vibe and asking her to learn how to make it happen - so that she can teach you what works for her. Without that starting point you have almost no chance of giving an orgasm.

Early on I did this by conveniently giving her the toy just before going on a business trip - and telling her to figure it out while I was gone. Since that time, I've done the same with dildos and other toys.

Fast-forward in your life - she can now achieve multiple orgasms, but alas you might be one-and-done (like me). This is where toys are invaluable for you give her the multiples - before jumping into the action for your finale.
10/04/2018
Contributor: Lisset Finnien Lisset Finnien
Definitely not weird! Go for it!
10/08/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Quote:
Originally posted by bflwny
Im 58, my girlfriend is 56.
We have a decent sex life - although busy a lot....
I have known her for 2 years.
She has been through 2 HELL relationships and has 2 older girls and my wife passed 3 years ago.

I recently bought a ... more
Amazing advice from Gunsmoke here - allow her to face the toy on her own terms, without making the choice for her. You can also always talk to her - be honest and sincere. I believe that many women find intimacy and trust extremely arousing - so it might be a great psychological "lubricant".
10/22/2018
Contributor: LadyYennifer LadyYennifer
Funny, but for us it has always been a vice-versa kind of a situation - I have used toys on my hubby, and he rarely takes something up to play with me. he really enjoys a prostate massager or a probe - we've ordered this one link
just this week, and it has been a delight - but getting him to put something in me, besides the obvious, duh - is a challenge. I don't even know why he is not a fan of this kind of play - he is REALLY comfortable with watching me play, for example.
10/29/2018
Contributor: adventurous1 adventurous1
I always start out with some oral sex then as she becomes excited and her pussy opens up I insert a large lubed dildo into her slowly until she is comfortable with it, starting slowly at first and increasing speed and depth as she becomes fully aroused . This with the oral stimulation brings her to several big climaxes. She is so worked up that when I enter her she cums quick and enjoys what ever I do to her, We both enjoy the dildo play as she gets extra stimulation and deep satisfaction from the full pussy feeling and I get turned on by her reacting to my efforts to satisfy her both from the visual and sounds she makes as she enjoys our sex, plus when I cum its never to soon as she has had multiple climaxes by this time and is running out of energy. The bigger toys are her favorite and I love using them on her. She request the toys most of the time but not always in the mood for them, I do what pleases her and she rewards me with great sex.
11/24/2018
Contributor: Rooney Rooney
Well what if it's the other way around she wants to use a strapon on me, any thoughts on that, also it's not a small one she keeps saying that she is going to tear me up and make me moan should I let her?
12/03/2018
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Rooney
Well what if it's the other way around she wants to use a strapon on me, any thoughts on that, also it's not a small one she keeps saying that she is going to tear me up and make me moan should I let her?
IMO you should go for it - pegging is a ton of fun. I will however caution you about going too big - too fast. I don't know your prior experience with anal penetration - using fingers or plugs for example.

However, if this is new to you. I would suggest reading threads about pegging on this forum - I've provided several step-by-step advice segments - but I don't feel up to repeating the info today.

It suffices to say:
1. Go slow, if it hurts - even a little stop. Pain is telling you that you are going too fast
2. Do not use numbing creams - you need active pain receptors to pace your progress
3. There is no such thing as too much lube. Apply, re-apply and re-apply again. The tightness of the anal sphincters (yes there are 2) will wipe lubrication off fingers and dildos rather quickly.
4. Find tapered dildos that will gradually dilate you. The Tantus Champlett is a perfect example.

best of luck - encourage your wife - but prevail upon her to hold back on the big dildos until you are ready.
12/05/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Quote:
Originally posted by Rooney
Well what if it's the other way around she wants to use a strapon on me, any thoughts on that, also it's not a small one she keeps saying that she is going to tear me up and make me moan should I let her?
I believe Gunsmoke is absolutely right here - you shouldn't be rushing things with anything anal. Maybe consider a double-ended strapless strapon - they are inherently not too big, and the shaft on her end will give pleasure simultaneous to yours. It's actually a fantastic beginner's choice, given that your lady has strong pelvic floor muscles.
12/24/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn


I can't believe I didn't think of it earlier, but we have a perfect dildo to use on someone else - this dildo candy on a stick is what dreams are made of
01/10/2019
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by GingerAnn


I can't believe I didn't think of it earlier, but we have a perfect dildo to use on someone else - this dildo candy on a stick is what dreams are made of
At 1.25" diameter the Secret Handler dildo looks like a good beginners size - but the matte finish and nubs on the shaft would be a bit much for a beginner.

For beginners to anal play, smooth and slippery are both desirable characteristics. For that reason I would put this toy in the intermediate category.
01/10/2019
Contributor: Kinky hubby, not so wifey Kinky hubby, not so wifey
New to this site but I am looking for a woman's help or insight. I have learned most of my "kinks" and have learned that my wife seems to not know or have any at all, atleast none she admits. We have a very open, comfortable, and happy relationship. We are very open about sex but seems only when I spark the conversations. So to try to see if she would be turned on by any toys we went to a sex shop together and I expressed my interest in using a toy bigger then my penis. She seemed open to it, yet timid, I let her look around until she seemed to draw interest in the King Cock 8inch long, 6inch girth. So I was excited and bought it. We tried it nearly immediately and I could tell she was excited. She likes a girthy penis even though she will only mildly admit it. FYI mine is 7 long at my hardest and 5in around. No problems getting her off. But we used it once and seems maybe too big for her and now she doesnt Express any desire to use it really. So I need help on what to do because a dildo larger than myself is arousing to me, amongst other various things, but seems my wife enjoys plain Jane sex even if I use extreme foreplay on her.
01/18/2019
Contributor: toy-lover toy-lover
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Originally posted by Rossie
No, it is not weird to finish her off using a dildo. I'm curious...do you two do a lot of foreplay? Rather than using a dildo to finish her off after you cum, how about giving her some fabulous foreplay by stimulating her G-spot with a dildo or ... more
I agree with you! My husband and I got a dildo and the first time we used it, that is exactly how we used it. Using the dildo itself was a nice change up to what we had been doing, and I enjoyed it - but it was much better to finish with my husband inside me. I haven't come with the dildo inside, but based on how much different it feels during sex, I can imagine that I wouldn't like it as much.
03/24/2019
Contributor: Match5444 Match5444
I've always enjoyed my wife using her vibrator. and I love to lick her clit . recently while licking her.
she put her toy between
her clit and my tongue and said keep licking.im cuming. giving her an orgasm is allways good. and I found i really liked licking on toy dick and clit. would love to hear comments thanks
03/29/2019
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Match5444
I've always enjoyed my wife using her vibrator. and I love to lick her clit . recently while licking her.
she put her toy between
her clit and my tongue and said keep licking.im cuming. giving her an orgasm is allways good. and I found i ... more
I have a hard time imagining your scenario - without my teeth chattering

My wife has become quite the vibe aficionado. One of her favorites I called her 3-some - it consisted of a vibrating butt plug, the Fun Factory Big Boss vaginally and her favorite wand on her clit

I upped the ante recently be getting a 4th vibre in the act it was the WeVibe Tango that I stroked along her labia while thrusting the Big Boss - it's a good thing the butt vibe stays in-place freeing up one hand for the 4th vibe!
03/30/2019
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I have a hard time imagining your scenario - without my teeth chattering

My wife has become quite the vibe aficionado. One of her favorites I called her 3-some - it consisted of a vibrating butt plug, the Fun Factory Big Boss vaginally and ... more
Wow that's A LOT of vibing - Gunsmoke, that's amazing

I think Match5444 was talking about the psychological stimulation one could get during that kind of scenario. But yeah, it's kind of interesting with one person using a toy and the other is - what? - basically performing oral sex on a toy? Maybe there is something to it.
04/30/2019
Contributor: WanderlustinGypsy WanderlustinGypsy
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I have a hard time imagining your scenario - without my teeth chattering

My wife has become quite the vibe aficionado. One of her favorites I called her 3-some - it consisted of a vibrating butt plug, the Fun Factory Big Boss vaginally and ... more
I love that you call it her threesome! I personally, enjoy reading erotica that involves multiple partners, reverse harems specifically, there is definitely something to the fantasy of a woman being adored and pleasured by multiple partners. However, I am strictly monogamous and faithful to my spouse. Having multiple partners is not an option or an interest. However... with toys, the options truly are limitless!
05/01/2019
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
I love that you call it her threesome! I personally, enjoy reading erotica that involves multiple partners, reverse harems specifically, there is definitely something to the fantasy of a woman being adored and pleasured by multiple partners. However, ... more
I'm with you - the multi-partner fantasy would never work in our relationship. But with the toys I can be a one-man DPer and she can be the man and f*** me like there is no tomorrow - not to mention countless other scenarios
05/01/2019