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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
In this era of heated political differences, are you cool with whatever political leanings your date may have? Does the subject ever even come up? Do you care?
If you find you are dating someone with vastly different political views, does that have any influence on your decision to see them again, or get into a more serious relationship?
06/23/2011
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Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend and I haven't really had a conversation about politics at this point, but I do have a pretty good idea of his opinions on various issues. I would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone with very different views. I haven't been in that situation yet, but many of my friends are very conservative, and I have had a couple of friendships affected by politics. I also think it is more important to have similar values in a relationship than in a friendship, so I could definitely see that being an issue for me in the future.
06/23/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I think it depends on the person. I mean if politics was what they wanted to talk about all day every day, I would get very tired of that especially if they were always wantin to have debates about it. Once in a while is fine but I need them to respect that I don't feel strongly about politics and I don't care to talk about it all the time.

My BF and I have very different political views, but it works because neither one of us wants to fight about it. Sure we'll have a healthy debate on an issue, but we spend more time talking about other things. I have dated people who loved arguing politics and I just can't deal with it for very long
06/23/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I think it depends on how comfortable you get with the other person. One date I went on, we talked about the stuff you're not supposed to talk about on the first date (sex, politics, and religion) and things went fine. Later I dated a girl and didn't find out she had the exact opposite political views (she voted for Bush...twice).

Because some people's political views are intrinsic, it makes compatible political views necessary for the relationship.
06/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Coralbell
My boyfriend and I haven't really had a conversation about politics at this point, but I do have a pretty good idea of his opinions on various issues. I would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone with very different views. I ... more
Your attitude is very mature and I think you are on the money here. We have been married for over three decades and have seen many others relationships fall apart. Having shared values, morals and ethics...plus a common sense of FUN, are the keys to long term happiness as far as we can tell. Those couples like us...married happily for decades, seem to share those things.
06/24/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
It wasn't long after we'd met that my guy and I realized we had very opposing views of most things of that manner. Politics and religion being the biggest.

We are on opposite ends on both, but discuss them casually, we don't get into heated debates but we state our opinions. It never leads to fighting because with our personalities and the way we interact, it doesn't lead to fighting, and if we disagree, once we've stated our points, it's over and done with and we talk about something else. It's actually pretty cool in my opinion, because often things like that can cause serious rifts in a relationship.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Not even remotely. I have pretty strong political opinions and so does my husband. I don't think either of us could be with someone who was indifferent or had opposing political views.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
I could never be with a Statist.
10/27/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
My husband isn't in the same party as I am, but we usually vote the same. If he really were at the other end of the political spectrum from me I couldn't be in a relationship with him.

I once kicked a guy out of my car for supporting a certain candidate. But we had argued about other things first. That was just the last straw.
10/27/2011
Contributor: Freckles Freckles
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Originally posted by Bignuf
In this era of heated political differences, are you cool with whatever political leanings your date may have? Does the subject ever even come up? Do you care?
If you find you are dating someone with vastly different political views, does that ... more
For me it tends to, honestly. I have a hard time getting along with people whose political beliefs align on the opposite side of the spectrum, however I have problems with people who are extremes of my own political party (though, admittedly, less so). If someone is completely opposite of me- I'd have a hard time with it, no lie.
05/14/2012