Well said Sister, that is the right perspective. If you are not yourself in body, mind and spirit than it is not meant to be and it's time to move on and realize that there is someone else you are MEANT to be with. I've learned that every person that comes into your life is there to teach your something. Recognize the lesson, then you can move on to a better and happier life.

I agree with what others have said you can't "MAKE" someone into you or want you. If you were together for years and ya'll are now exes he may have changed his mind. There is someone somewhere out there for you. You can't hang on forever you will eventually need to move on if he has made it clear that ya'll will not ever be back together