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How long is it healthy to be single after a 3-year relationship?

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Contributor: OrangeKushBB OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
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3-6 Months
cheesewizz
1  (2%)
1 Year
No time period - just enjoy it!
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54  (98%)
Total votes: 55
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02/08/2012
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Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
until you find the right person to be with, other than that enjoy the single life
02/08/2012
Contributor: SaraU29 SaraU29
Definitely enjoy the single life long enough to appreciate it.
02/08/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Working things out is the healthy thing to be doing right now.
02/08/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
It is healthy to be single for as long as you feel you need to be to recover and figure out what went wrong!
02/09/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
Have fun
02/09/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
Everyone is different, so take the time you need to get over your past relationship. You will know when it feels right to you.
02/09/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
I have never been in this situation but I would say whatever makes you happy
02/09/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It is healthy to be single for as long as you feel you need to be to recover and figure out what went wrong!
Said so much better than I could have! Take this time to get to know you, and enjoy being single.
02/09/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It is healthy to be single for as long as you feel you need to be to recover and figure out what went wrong!
Good answer!

Something to add: And there doesn't always have to be a "what went wrong" either. Sometimes, things just happen and it's no one's fault.
02/09/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
until you feel like being with someone else. do what feels right for you.
02/09/2012
Contributor: ginger715 ginger715
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
While your no longer in a relationship, dating here and there is ok but get to know yourself and love yourself in the process. Once you do that, you'll know when your ready for someone new.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Interesante Interesante
However long is right for you.
03/12/2012
Contributor: Paula Paula
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
I'm in a similar situation, 4 years together and married, but he ended it very unexpectedly (and badly). I'm not dating yet as it was just two weeks ago but I'm not really sure when I'll be ready to try this again.... Right now I feel that I would like to take a year before getting serious because I have so many personal goals that I'd like to accomplish first but life throws curveballs sometimes so I guess I'll have to just keep an open mind. Good luck to you
03/12/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
There is never a set amount of time. Just go with the flow.
03/12/2012
Contributor: purple579 purple579
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
I was in a 3 year relationship then I stayed single for about 4 months. I met the greatest guy in the world. Trust me just let yourself have fun and be happy.
03/12/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
As long as it takes...don't put a time limit on it. Everyone is different
03/12/2012
Contributor: Kat Shanahan Kat Shanahan
There's no time limit! Take your time and don't rush into anything just because you feel like you *have* to be in a relationship. If you do that, you may end up settling (and no one should ever have to do that!)

You don't need a significant other to have a happy, healthy sex life, so enjoy the single life for as long as you want!
03/13/2012
Contributor: Teacookie Teacookie
Just dont' get pregnate or married with out waiting a few years inbetween new lovers. Otherwise be single as long as you like or start dating.
03/13/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I have to agree, there is no one "right way" or "wrong way" to do this. Stay single as long as you want to. When you feel happy and healthy alone, I think you're in a good place emotionally and mentally. Then, you have a lot you will bring to the table in any relationship, but you'll also be happy and healthy if you stay single.
03/13/2012
Contributor: Lover of Leather Lover of Leather
Whatever feels right to you, there is no correct answer. But, you have to clean out your head, and your heart first, so as not to take any unnecessary crap with you into your next relationship.
03/23/2012
Contributor: Starshiptrooper84 Starshiptrooper84
There is not time limit that's for sure. You'll know it when you meet the right person for you and you'll be ready
03/23/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
no time limit just do what feel right
03/31/2012
Contributor: Jenny Smith Jenny Smith
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
Just enjoy ur life for awhile
04/26/2012
Contributor: kittenfacery kittenfacery
get back to being you - a single unit that doesn't need anyone else. once you feel secure in yourself, and happy, then do serious relationship things. that's what i do anyway
05/08/2012
Contributor: cheesewizz cheesewizz
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
you should be over your ex anywhere between 3 months and a year from now. but dont let a time restraint stop you from figuring out your feelings and taking things one day at a time
05/22/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It is healthy to be single for as long as you feel you need to be to recover and figure out what went wrong!
Great advice!
05/22/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Definitely until you feel ready, however long that takes. If you're not confident, it could end up hurting you and your partner
05/22/2012
Contributor: CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
enjoy the freedom
05/23/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by OrangeKushBB
I recently ended a relationship and am still dealing with the repercussions from it. I'm dating here and there but I'm curious how long you guys feel is..."healthy"...to be single?
There's no limit! enjoy yourself
05/24/2012