Kids and Exes and Dating, oh, my!

Contributor: earthmama earthmama
I've been on a couple of online dating sites, and I notice that many of the people's profiles indicate they prefer a date who has "Never been married" over a divorced person, even when they list that they are okay with the idea of a date who has a kid or kids. Do you guys out there think this is true, generally? And if so, why?
06/30/2013
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Contributor: js250 js250
I think it could be an issue with those who do not want to deal with the baggage and hassles of an ex. Most people who get a divorce had a reason, some people take these issues out on their next partner due to the emotional scarring, so I can see why this could be a key point.
06/30/2013
Contributor: Fluke Fluke
Well when you date someone with kids you wonder if she will ever love you as much as she loves her kids. Her kids are #1, and really I want to fall in love with a woman in which I am #1 and then we have kids, that is the perfect scenario.

We won't admit it but lots of guys are romantics that want the happily ever after only fall in love with one person thing. Maybe a bit too unrealistic but what can you do.

I wish you luck on your search, as long as you stay positive and happy you'll find someone in no time.
07/01/2013
Contributor: earthmama earthmama
Well, if there are kids, there must be an ex out there somewhere, even if the couple wasn't married, right?
And, really, no one gets to 30-40 years old age bracket sans baggage. We're all human, after all. Some people's baggage just doesn't need day care/restraining orders.
09/20/2013
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
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Originally posted by earthmama
I've been on a couple of online dating sites, and I notice that many of the people's profiles indicate they prefer a date who has "Never been married" over a divorced person, even when they list that they are okay with the idea of a ... more
On dating sites, I think it's beneficial for one to put that they're ok with someone else having kids.
Depending on your age, for example, I'm 41, I need a man to understand that I DO have a child, and that there may be times where I can't go see him or have him come over to my house due to visitation schedules, sickness, or it just isn't a good time.
Most men will understand that anyway, but to those that don't want to be adding to their personal load, knowing if a woman has kids, and they're not willing to deal with that sort of thing, it helps them be a bit more choosy as to who they contact.
08/08/2014