I have been seeing a guy for over 3 years (until 6 months ago) he was terrific in the sac when he was around. I would even meet him when he was working around the area, then I started driving out of town and out of state when he wanted me to. I guess I was nuts but hey he was a great lay. I knew that I wasn't the only one he was dabbling but I didn't care at the time. Until 6 months ago.

He had me drive to Athens which was like 2 hours away from me, I got a room for 2 nights and about 45 minutes of me telling him my room number he sends someone else down to keep me "company" while he was "called in to work". Dude couldn't do anything (thank god). Then he the 3 year lay came and had another woman on his cock (I was livid).

Every time he finishes with me he cleans himself off. He would rather do a local chick knowing that I was ready and waiting for him to go to the room. To make matters worse he was at the room maybe 30 minutes before he was off again. Which was the only time he went to the room after knowing that I was to be there for two days.

The second day he calls and has to "work" again and sends a dude that has a man crush on him. There was no way in hell that I was touching that lol.
Anyway I was suppose to leave at 11a.m. and ended up leaving at 2a.m.

What I want to know from y'all is:
1. How upset would y'all be?
2. When would y'all have left?
3. Was I an idiot for going to him when he called all the 3 years we were together?
4. Why do guys think it has to be their way or no way?
5. Finally why are they such assholes? less

I would have gotten angry and left as soon as he sent in his "backup"

Okay, I have been in relationships like this where I just get taken advantage of. I always think the same thing, why am I so stupid, why couldn't I tell that she didn't care about me and was just using me, it is so obvious now. My opinion is that people will use you if you give them the opportunity and allow them to. It starts off slow, maybe you pay their cell phone bill or always drive to them, they never drive to you. But once they see your desperation and see they can get away with an inch, they will take a yard and then the whole mile.

I do not think you are an idiot at all. If great sex only came as a result of mutual love we'd have a lot less problems in the world.

You need to have a good mental state in which your mind tells you "wait a second, he's treating me badly, let's get out of this" way before 3 years. You want to think hey I'm worth it, I do a lot for him, he needs to do some things for me too or get out.

A salesperson can tell when they are changing someone's mind and making a sale. In the same way, an asshole can tell when they are with someone that they can take advantage of. By improving your self-esteem, confidence and how you see yourself, you won't fall victim anymore to the assholes and suddenly you will find yourself only dating good guys. less

!. I would be pissed if I drove that far for a woman and it was only 30 minutes together, regardless of sex or playing.

2. As soon as he sent a friend to take care of you first

3. Not going to call you an idiot, but it was pretty ignorant. If you've been seeing each other for 3 years and he only calls when he wants ass he is using you.

4. Not all guys are like that.

5. Not all guys are like that, and I'm tired of hearing that line. less

I have been seeing a guy for over 3 years (until 6 months ago) he was terrific in the sac when he was around. I would even meet him when he was working around the area, then I started driving out of town and out of state when he wanted me to. I guess I was nuts but hey he was a great lay. I knew that I wasn't the only one he was dabbling but I didn't care at the time. Until 6 months ago.

He had me drive to Athens which was like 2 hours away from me, I got a room for 2 nights and about 45 minutes of me telling him my room number he sends someone else down to keep me "company" while he was "called in to work". Dude couldn't do anything (thank god). Then he the 3 year lay came and had another woman on his cock (I was livid).

Every time he finishes with me he cleans himself off. He would rather do a local chick knowing that I was ready and waiting for him to go to the room. To make matters worse he was at the room maybe 30 minutes before he was off again. Which was the only time he went to the room after knowing that I was to be there for two days.

The second day he calls and has to "work" again and sends a dude that has a man crush on him. There was no way in hell that I was touching that lol.
Anyway I was suppose to leave at 11a.m. and ended up leaving at 2a.m.

What I want to know from y'all is:
1. How upset would y'all be?
2. When would y'all have left?
3. Was I an idiot for going to him when he called all the 3 years we were together?
4. Why do guys think it has to be their way or no way?
5. Finally why are they such assholes? less

!. I would be pissed if I drove that far for a woman and it was only 30 minutes together, regardless of sex or playing.

2. As soon as he sent a friend to take care of you first

3. Not going to call you an idiot, but it was pretty ignorant. If you've been seeing each other for 3 years and he only calls when he wants ass he is using you.

4. Not all guys are like that.

5. Not all guys are like that, and I'm tired of hearing that line. less

I have been seeing a guy for over 3 years (until 6 months ago) he was terrific in the sac when he was around. I would even meet him when he was working around the area, then I started driving out of town and out of state when he wanted me to. I guess I was nuts but hey he was a great lay. I knew that I wasn't the only one he was dabbling but I didn't care at the time. Until 6 months ago.

He had me drive to Athens which was like 2 hours away from me, I got a room for 2 nights and about 45 minutes of me telling him my room number he sends someone else down to keep me "company" while he was "called in to work". Dude couldn't do anything (thank god). Then he the 3 year lay came and had another woman on his cock (I was livid).

Every time he finishes with me he cleans himself off. He would rather do a local chick knowing that I was ready and waiting for him to go to the room. To make matters worse he was at the room maybe 30 minutes before he was off again. Which was the only time he went to the room after knowing that I was to be there for two days.

The second day he calls and has to "work" again and sends a dude that has a man crush on him. There was no way in hell that I was touching that lol.
Anyway I was suppose to leave at 11a.m. and ended up leaving at 2a.m.

What I want to know from y'all is:
1. How upset would y'all be?
2. When would y'all have left?
3. Was I an idiot for going to him when he called all the 3 years we were together?
4. Why do guys think it has to be their way or no way?
5. Finally why are they such assholes? less

First of all - he's married. So the other woman on his cock? That was his wife's pussy and that's why he always washed up after being with you. That's as clear as the day is long.

Secondly, most guys are not like that but if you allow them to treat you that way, they will. Honestly, a man loves a woman who says no sometimes a hell of a lot more than they love a woman who says yes every single time. And not just in regards to sex, but other areas of life as well.

Third? This would have been so much different if he hadn't have sent in a replacement. WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT? *ahem* WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT WITHOUT TELLING and/or ASKING FOR CONSENT FIRST???

This dude is way beyond fucked up in the head. Cut and run and don't ever look back. I'm just really sorry you were taken advantage of like that and I hope it isn't nearly as traumatizing for you as I think it would have been for me. less

I agree w/MrWill

Few guys are really like that. It's just that a lot of women are attracted to the same type over and over and then give guys a bad rap. Women are just as guilty of doing the same type things.

Seems like little more than a FB, so not sure why you would expect more.

Sonic burgers are great. So is their Cherry Limeaid! Yum. less

!. I would be pissed if I drove that far for a woman and it was only 30 minutes together, regardless of sex or playing.

2. As soon as he sent a friend to take care of you first

3. Not going to call you an idiot, but it was pretty ignorant. If you've been seeing each other for 3 years and he only calls when he wants ass he is using you.

4. Not all guys are like that.

5. Not all guys are like that, and I'm tired of hearing that line. less