A few weeks ago, one of the older men that work at the place I o, came in, sat down, and was asking some work questions. No big deal, I'm a secretary, I deal with questions all the time, but the one he asked last really threw me:
"So, now that you're single, are you on the hunt for a new man?"
*Blank Stare*
After snapping too, I responded with a laugh, and told him I just got rid of a bunch of crap with my ex, why would I want to have any more of that right now??
He said "oh, come on!".
*laugh again*
Nope, I'm happy being single, spending time with my daughter, doing what I want, when I want, with no one to answer to buy my daughter.
You would've thought I just told him I was really a man.
It was unbelievable to him.
Why?
Why is it hard to believe that, yes, there are people out there that are enjoying being single??? I don't feel the need to have a man in my life to feel complete. I had done everything by myself for the last 5 yrs of my marriage anywhere, so why would I want someone to fill a void that wasn't even there?
I don't need a man's money to survive. I'm doing fine on my own. Yes, it's a struggle at times, but we're not homeless, have food in the house, clothes, and pets that are taken care of.
Maybe it was this man's age, the time he grew up in, that the woman needs a man in her life to get by in life.
Wouldn't he be shocked to learn I was voluntarily getting my tubes tied in a couple days? Therefore, lessening my "marketability".
My thinking it is his generation. However, I've heard men AND women my age and younger also having this way of thinking.
This doesn't mean that sometimes I don't wish for a relationship, or to go out on dates, however. I do, and I will, when the time and interest are right.
But why is it so terrible that I want to be a bit selfish for me and my daughter?
What are your thoughts, experiences, and opinions?
"So, now that you're single, are you on the hunt for a new man?"
*Blank Stare*
After snapping too, I responded with a laugh, and told him I just got rid of a bunch of crap with my ex, why would I want to have any more of that right now??
He said "oh, come on!".
*laugh again*
Nope, I'm happy being single, spending time with my daughter, doing what I want, when I want, with no one to answer to buy my daughter.
You would've thought I just told him I was really a man.
It was unbelievable to him.
Why?
Why is it hard to believe that, yes, there are people out there that are enjoying being single??? I don't feel the need to have a man in my life to feel complete. I had done everything by myself for the last 5 yrs of my marriage anywhere, so why would I want someone to fill a void that wasn't even there?
I don't need a man's money to survive. I'm doing fine on my own. Yes, it's a struggle at times, but we're not homeless, have food in the house, clothes, and pets that are taken care of.
Maybe it was this man's age, the time he grew up in, that the woman needs a man in her life to get by in life.
Wouldn't he be shocked to learn I was voluntarily getting my tubes tied in a couple days? Therefore, lessening my "marketability".
My thinking it is his generation. However, I've heard men AND women my age and younger also having this way of thinking.
This doesn't mean that sometimes I don't wish for a relationship, or to go out on dates, however. I do, and I will, when the time and interest are right.
But why is it so terrible that I want to be a bit selfish for me and my daughter?
What are your thoughts, experiences, and opinions?
