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Contributor: BurritoBabe BurritoBabe
For those of you with partners and friends on the site, do you think it's acceptable for them to rate the reviews they've done on products they or the both of you have tried? It's considered inappropriate for you to rate yourself, but do you consider your partner an objective rater or do you think they can't separate you from your review?

For me, because my boyfriend is a journalism major (and therefore complete stickler for information and style) he's able to read my reviews and rate them objectively. In fact, his input afterword has helped me evolve and improve my reviews pretty quickly. Knowing that he's going to check them out, I know I've got to up the ante a little bit and do some outside research to add to my thoughts and feelings about the products.

What do you guys think? Yea or nay?
02/18/2011
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Contributor: danellejohns danellejohns
For me and my husband, we choose to not rate each others reviews. I think on the first two reviews he did, I did vote but began feeling really guilty about it. In all fairness I did vote as if I did not know him. But now that we do partner reviews a majority of the time and after discussing it with him we decided it would not be right.

But in turn, I see no problem with others choosing to do it. As long as they do it in a responsible manner. Such as voting without being biased. I mean if you find yourself thinking "Man this is missing so much information" and still vote Extremely useful because they are friends/partners it would not be the right thing to do.
02/18/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I'm a little torn on this. I mean, some couples are capable of being objective, but I've seen others here where the only "extremely useful" vote came from that person's significant other.

Personally, if my husband were to ever start reviewing, I'd just choose not to rate his, and tell him not to rate mine.
02/18/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
For me personally, I'd have to say no. Even though my significant other would be more than capable of being objective about my reviews, I think it would still feel like we weren't being impartial because of our close connection and I would feel like my reviews meant less. Part of what I enjoy about the site is the reviewed by your peers aspect and I think his opinion would skew that for me in my mind. He's not on the site so I don't have personal experience with this. Good luck making your decision about what is right for you both.
02/18/2011
Contributor: xxx xxx
Interesting. I don't think this is any different from friends rating each others' reviews. I think when you look at a rating, you should take stuff like this into account, that people's friends might be rating them positively. Just something else to consider when looking at reviews.
02/18/2011
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
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Originally posted by BurritoBabe
For those of you with partners and friends on the site, do you think it's acceptable for them to rate the reviews they've done on products they or the both of you have tried? It's considered inappropriate for you to rate yourself, but do ... more
My boyfriend attempted to join the site and start reviewing and when he did, he would rate my reviews on his own, but I asked him to stop because it feels like maybe somewhere in the back of my mind it isn't right. However, no one will know if it is an objective vote or a rating fairly on the fact that he is your lover... which is why I have told him to stop rating mine. He also has not followed through with being active on the site because it just isn't his thing. I think that it is fine, overall, but to me it feels somewhat dishonest.
02/18/2011
Contributor: BurritoBabe BurritoBabe
Very interesting points, guys! Do you actually pay attention to how a review is rated when deciding whether or not to read it?
02/18/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Why not? Is one rating here and really such a big deal?
02/18/2011
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I wouldn't have a problem with it, if they feel they can be objective. Even if others might think they aren't, its only one vote, afterall.
02/18/2011
Contributor: BurritoBabe BurritoBabe
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm a little torn on this. I mean, some couples are capable of being objective, but I've seen others here where the only "extremely useful" vote came from that person's significant other.

Personally, if my husband were ... more
What I would consider on that point (where they're only giving "extremely useful" votes) is- is that the dominant vote anyway? If other reviewers are giving them that rating too then why not =)
02/18/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
We do vote on one another's reviews but treat them as any other review we read on the site.
02/18/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Depends on how honest you can be with each other, especially with the public voting.
02/18/2011
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I would totally not ever want a partner to rate my review, because I know if they gave me a bad rating I'd be all like, "WHAT is wrong with you? That was a BEAUTIFUL review! It should've brought TEARS to your eyes!" even if it wasn't all that great, and from then on, they'd feel obligated to rate up to stop my hissy fits.


But that's just me.
02/18/2011
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
I would be sad if my boyfriend rated my review badly and didn't offer me advice while I was writing it, before submission. So I'd say maybe if the rating were objective and the writer would not take offense, why not.
02/18/2011
Contributor: BurritoBabe BurritoBabe
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I would totally not ever want a partner to rate my review, because I know if they gave me a bad rating I'd be all like, "WHAT is wrong with you? That was a BEAUTIFUL review! It should've brought TEARS to your eyes!" even if it ... more
HAHA! Yesss I know that feeling!
02/19/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Since we write together... no, never. We edit each other plenty during the writing process anyway
02/19/2011
Contributor: Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I would totally not ever want a partner to rate my review, because I know if they gave me a bad rating I'd be all like, "WHAT is wrong with you? That was a BEAUTIFUL review! It should've brought TEARS to your eyes!" even if it ... more
ROFL!!! I think I'd feel the same way.
02/22/2011