D: I'm sorry to hear that!

You don't really get alerts about messages. If you go to your public profile there should be a little thing that says if you have any new messages or not. You might just be over-looking them. I know I would never realize if I had messages or not unless I looked at my own profile.

I'm so sorry to hear that you've having such a hard time. The others are right, this is a busy time of the year with Summer fast approaching.

It's a little more difficult to find someone when your preferences limit who you're selecting. I've worked with students that had different sexual preferences than I do, and we got along great! Try not to focus on the smaller things. Read through the reviews of available mentors and see if you like their style. If you do, request them!

Mentors are only able to accept a certain number of students each month and if someone requests them before you do and they accept that student, the system will automatically cancel the next student in line. If you're really interested in someone, send them a message before requesting them and see when they'll be available. There are lots of great mentors that I'm sure would be willing to help you out!

That'd be lovely, but the site says you're still unavailable?
Also to the others thank you for your advice and all, I just felt a bit odd talking about toys I'd be using with my girlfriend: Like strap ons and such. Only thought it is more comfortable to talk about those matters with someone who has experience.

Harness use isn't strictly for those that are in same gender relationships. I have a harness and I am in a relationship with a male. Everyone here is very open minded and so many of us have tried a little bit of everything. Try to keep that in mind!

I know some people do and are open, but I tend to not see it much in person. So I feel a bit awkward is all? I'm used to the whole stigma with being queer so it feels odd to have to talk about that with someone who isn't and might not like it that I am? I'm Sorry that it might of seemed insulting at all. UnU

I TOTALLY get that and am not at all offended!

I do want to say that this community is so different than what you will find in every day life. I can't think of a single person that's been treated like they were 'weird' or 'different' for their sexual preferences and I've been here since November of 2011!

It does take a while to get used to being able to be totally open without having anyone looking down on you, but it's amazing once you hit the point where you realize that everyone here respect you for who you are. It's amazing!!!

Oh! OwO Thank you very much, I only just joined about 2 weeks ago so I'm really new to this sort of community. I'll try to get more comfortable, but some habits die hard.

Sad that it was a habit in the first place!

We'll accept you here, just as you are! I can promise you that! I know that it's hard to open up when you feel like you haven't been able to before, but I PROMISE you, you'll see in time that there's nothing to be worried about here!

I've been here about as long. ^ - ^ I'm new to the community too! So welcome~ Everyone has been so lovely to me and I just know you'll fit right in and find your comfort spot.

That's not true. You can set alerts for messages.




You can set that here

sorry to hear the person who mentor me is not on here anymore or I would tell you to use her.

Keep trying is all I can really think of. There are a lot of mentors on the site.

If you follow the above directions, and still aren't receiving email alerts, check your junk mail! Gmail, for example, automatically sends many EF emails to the spam folder. It took me forever to realize that that was why I wasn't getting responses and alerts!

That's alright ^w^