My boyfriend and I have been trying to ease a way into anal sex,but I find it too painful, does anyone have tips, suggestions, or toys to start off an anal virgin?
Anal Sex for the first time.
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Best water based lube?
Reading around the site it seems that the best lubes for anal sex seem to be silicone, then oil. This would be fine except I need it to be compatible.
Christmas sex
girls, do you perform any special acts for your partner on xmas? blow job, anal sex, etc?
Ease into anal
What is the best way to get into anal sex? Have done lots of research, bought abutt plug, and lots of lube, but can't seen to get the hang of it. I...
1st time
personally I have never had anal sex and am very hestitant to try it but my special guy friend keeps begging for it. How was everyones 1st experince..
why the taboo?
I notice a lot of people i meet in day to day life grimace when they talk about anal sex, and i've also noticed sodomy is illegal in a lot of places..
Best water based lube?
Reading around the site it seems that the best lubes for anal sex seem to be silicone, then oil. This would be fine except I need it to be compatible.
Christmas sex
girls, do you perform any special acts for your partner on xmas? blow job, anal sex, etc?
Ease into anal
What is the best way to get into anal sex? Have done lots of research, bought abutt plug, and lots of lube, but can't seen to get the hang of it. I...
1st time
personally I have never had anal sex and am very hestitant to try it but my special guy friend keeps begging for it. How was everyones 1st experince..
why the taboo?
I notice a lot of people i meet in day to day life grimace when they talk about anal sex, and i've also noticed sodomy is illegal in a lot of places..
10/31/2010
From what I have read, do not try anal sex the very first time you play with your ass. After you are assured that you are clean back there, have him just start rubbing your anus with his fingers. First just the outside, then a small amount of insertion. Maybe then try a small dildo with plenty of lube, like the Tantus small silk. link
A anal specific lube that is thicker is also helpful. After a few sessions where you do not feel as full, try moving up to a butt plug to start that will allow your butt to get used to something up there before your boyfriend puts his penis in. This Tantus ryder plug has some really good reviews. link
For more information, try reading through this guide. It has really good information.
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And it should never ever be painful. If it is, you need to slow down and size down in whatever you are using.
A anal specific lube that is thicker is also helpful. After a few sessions where you do not feel as full, try moving up to a butt plug to start that will allow your butt to get used to something up there before your boyfriend puts his penis in. This Tantus ryder plug has some really good reviews. link
For more information, try reading through this guide. It has really good information.
link
And it should never ever be painful. If it is, you need to slow down and size down in whatever you are using.
10/31/2010
You may want to start with solo play first to learn how to relax your muscles and get used to the feelings. Once you are able to relax you'll be able to accomplish more and with considerably more pleasure. Don't expect to jump straight to allowing him to have anal and there not be any discomfort. Go slow, relax, try different toys and enjoy.
The link to the guide is very informative.
The link to the guide is very informative.
10/31/2010
To start out don't try any penetration at all. Start with outside play (lubed fingers or similar) and just learn to like the sensations and start to figure out how to relax your anus. From there move to penetrative play with one finger and do the same thing, then a small toy (smooth). After that move to partner play (start over again from the beginning, because it's hard to trust a partner enough to relax your anus from the get-go). Don't expect to have anal sex for a couple of months - you want to be able to enjoy the sensations and keep your anus as relaxed as possible during play before trying anything penis related.
10/31/2010
You have to be super relaxed and super lubed up. My hubby was an excellent teacher and VERY patient with me. Everyone is saying don't try it the first time you play, but I don't know that you have to wait if you feel ready for it. Main thing I can tell you is when he/toy is going in kinda push out a little, like you are having a bowel movement, just not really hard, just enough to open you up. Slowly insert pull out, play and repeat until you are comfortable with either a toy entering or him entering. I tried it with my ex and neither of us were experience enough for it to be enjoyable and he thought all he needed was some lube, NOPE! My hubby totally made me have a change of heart with anal and I LOVE it now, it just take time and relaxation and patience on the mans part! lol
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